it started a few weeks ago. It was so good. at first we just phoned, but then there was a party, and after that party I slept in his bed, and he was there,too . we phoned again and I visited him. It felt so right.he told me so many nice things. But then I wanted to talk to him and wrote him a sms, but he didn't wrote back. A few days later I went mad, I coudn't stop thinking of him. So I called him, but he didn't answer the call. I know that he saw that I was calling because it was his fault that the phone stopped calling ( I don't know the word, I hope you understand me). I just don't understand what his problem is, I think if he doesn't want to have contact with me anymore he could tell me. It's better than this, and I can't speak to him, because I never see him. he works so much. And now I don't know what to dobut the situation right now is driving me crazy. any ideas?
Some guys are cowards, they fear having to deal with the emotional issues of a break up or brush off. My advice is stop calling him, assume he has sealed his own fate with you and continue on with your life. Dont worry about him and his feelings, obviously he denied yours.
Move on and be glad that he showed his true colors before you were more emotionally invested. Lots of men out there that will treat you better....
what a fuckin dick for doing that to you!! glad you didn't waste your time or feelings on him longer than ya all ready did
I've been in that situation many times. Sorry to hear it...The best attitude that I can think of is to not attempt to control his feelings or actions toward you. There is nothing you can do. Reconcile yourself with that fact, and move on.Just in case you guys ever get in touch again (hopefully not because you continue to go after him), don't resume anything. Explain to him that what he did was hurtful and not cool, and leave.
yeah the same type of thing happened to me last month. guys are assholes, all i can say is move on. he'll eventually figure out what he was missing
I thought I wouldn't care anymore, but a few minutes again I looked at the sylvester piX and he was there, too. that wasn't good ^^ I guess if he would get in touch with me again I would say nothing at first... I know I have to. and I know I'll see him again, because we have the same friends. maybe I just have to get angry, I'm not angry, I'm resigned. -.-
im probably paranoid with that, but i think : when u meet someone, flirt with them and they flirt back, and then u call them and they dont return your calls, and they turn the phone off when u call, and they tell u they "work a lot", "are very busy",... then to me they just have another official lover. and its easier to not return your call than to admit that they flirted with u while they were already taken. and to the guy who said that "girls are assholes too", i agree with u. its stupid to always say that "guys are cowards about love" and whatnot, girls are just as stupid. some guys are great, some girls are great, but theres a percentage of stupid assh*les in both genders.
Thanks for understanding me, Crayola. But I disagree with your first paragraph. There are other reasons why the phone thing could happen: Some people are simply awkward with intimacy and communication. A show of affection sends them packing, whether they are alone or not. Also, some people have problems saying exactly how interested they are in someone. They are afraid of saying, "I don't want you as a girlfriend, just a fling" or something or other. Usually, the people who hide behind voice mails have something to hide, it's true. But I'm not sure it's always a significant other. I've been in situations where I had factual knowledge that the woman had no official lover. And yet they did the same thing to me.
so what happens next? yesterday we were at a friends house, and then I just turned around and there he was, I was really shocked. and also a bit drunk. so I went to him and said: we gotta talk. he: no not yet, I have to talk to a friend firs I: why. do you have to be stoned or drunk to speak with me? he: I'm not drunk I: I know and then I: what happens? why don't get in touch with me? just to tell me I don't want to have contact anymore he: okay. that was wrong. but I forgot. I: and why didn't you pick up your mobile? he: my mobile was at a friends house.. I: okay.... he: ja sorry what shall I say, at first I imagine that I want something from you, but I changed my mind I was like =-O then I asked what hapen and so on, it's not interesting. after that I talked to 2 friend of mine about it, they consoled me. and told me, that I'm to good for him and so on. then I sat on a bench with one of them and a guy came out, and asked to sit there too, and that he is a very good listener. he was right and he has the same name as the other boy, that asshole.. and he said: I'm so pissed that guys like that asperse all other boys. etc. he was really nice to me. and now I'm over it and in a good mood and I closed that 'case'
