Why can't people look past the surface of our actions?

I have a friend and ex-co-worker who I get along with wonderfully. He has bad days like everyone else but gewts really quiet and likes to be alone when he has them. I understood because i am the same way and I think that is why we are such great friends.
We were just talking and he told me how he is having problems with the other site-directors because they think he's being a snob. I don't understand why people can't look and see hey this guy is usually really funny and nice and lately he's been quiet...maybe he's depressed?
Why do people always take an action for an action and not look beneath the surface?

 

Perhaps my brain is hard-wired differently than most other people, because I always look below the surface to explain the actions of others.

I look to motivation to best understand the human psyche.



Hotwater

 

Whats wrong with being a snob? Thats not classed as gross misconduct in the work place.

 

Same as hotwater, I look inside deeper than most people seem to... from working with the general public for many years and living and observing from within society, I know there is way more to people that what they first appear to be.

Unfortunately I'd have to say that in general most people are just out for themselves and wouldn't care what you're really like no matter who you are... There are however some very considerate and empathetic people in the world that will take the time to really know and understand others, but they make up maybe 1% of the population

 

Like the Samaritans?

 

People are just so ignorant and uncaring about the rest of society. I am so sick of it. Of the making others feel low every chance they get. It's just freaking lame. Why do people always have to bust each other's balls?

 

because people like to be superior to others in some way.

 

I find that sick. If somone really is superior they have no need to go through life stating it or trying to put others down.

 

Actions Speak Louder than words - Fourtune Cookie man






Yep...i got nuthin

 

i find it sick too...one of the bigger reasons why this school and i don't mix well anymore - people think they're superior here on almost everything....

 

like yelling at the freshman


I'm just kidding I hear what you are saying. Attitude does perpetuate it's self downward. It's hard to not let it.

 

You have nothing because you are from here too and you have bowed down the the bmw's of the world that always have the right-of-way.

 

haha yea you have the freshmen...but we think were better than them because they haven't finished they're rook year yet...thats the only difference, they haven't gone through everything we have yet...they will and once they do, they'll be equal...

but its deeper than that here...people think they can shit all over you because they have "rank" and thats not right. were all equal

 

Read your first paragraph and then your second.

 

"Rank Hath it's Privileges"


Hotwater

 

i'll clarify, i see what you're saying though...we (as freshman - my cadre) were taught that we shouldn't shit on people, that there is a fine line in teaching military discpline and degrading someone, that were all equal as people, but we still had to earn our place in the corps. i dont' degrade any freshman, neither do any of my rook buddies. thats wrong. they are equal in that they are students and they are people - they just aren't "equal" in that they haven't earned there place in the corps yet, as us upper classmen have.

there is a fine line - and many people cross it and its sick. i only correct a freshman on deck if i have to - not outside walking around, not in classroom buildings, not in the cafe, not anywhere else, but the hall they live on.

i hate the fact that people degrade the freshman, some people hit the freshman...thats wrong...and over the top

 

I'm bookmarking this post

 

made better sense i see

 

hahaaaaa no that's not the reason

 

then what is the reason?

is it because of my awesome use of the english language?