friends but then what about the future?

everyone you meet in this life will change you, shape you, they will mean alot to you..but you will meet so many people throughout this life, they will all help you through your life, it's the way things are..it's the way life is ment to be
you will meet people that will mean alot to you in different ways, different but still good
life is about transitions and growing, and learning don't forget them but don't expect everything to remain the same forever...they need to grow themselves


it's only a depressing subject if you make it into one

 

There is only one person from high school that I am still in contact with and all of my friends from my first year of college are ancient history. Now in my fifth year, I have completely different friends and once I graduate I'm sure I will lose touch with them as well.

 

People grow and change... and we lose friends. That's life.

 

nope.

 

I agree with this. You have different friends that come along in different parts of this life that are there for a reason and when they are no longer 'needed' just part ways. I've had many friends that I've lost contact with. Most of my friends from childhood I haven't seen since I was 6 and have no idea how they are doing. I still think about them and hope they are doing well. Then the friends I made in Scotland when we lived there, I hope they are doing well, especially one red-headed sweetheart.

I had one friend I've been friends with since 3rd grade, we've helped each other out alot, and we were bestest friends, then we drifted apart when we dropped out of school and she moved out of her parents place into her boyfriends. I still think about her, tried to get in contact, but no luck..We just changed so much from being little girls. I mean this was the chick that I used to play pretend with. Her couch used to be a boat, and we'd pretend we where movie stars..play dress up and dance around her room and sing to "Bitch"...

I still have one best friend..and we'll be friends forever I suppose. I love the girl, she's been the only one that I can HONESTLY trust. Never given me any reason to not trust her..we've told each other so much shit we could fill a book...

college friends..hmm I can see maybe a few staying in contact with..it's not that I don't love all my friends I do..just alot of ppl change and I am no exceptions. Tomorrow I will not be the same as I am today..

 

i had so many really close friends in high school, and we have all completely drifted apart since then. we've all changed so much. its amazing really. There were 4 of us in high school who were inseparable, we told each other everything and did everything together. it's only been barely 2 years and i dont really talk to any of them anymore. My best friend got married right out of high school, and has been working full time, and going to school. any free time she has she spends with her husband at home, so i never see her even though she lives right down the street. Another one of my close friends is so into partying since shes been at college that she doesnt really give any of us the time of day anymore (unless we have alcohol...) and i've changed a lot too. I live with my boyfriend and im having a baby and i work full time and go to school. So our lifestyles are just all completely different.

I spent some time going to school in newyork city and made a few friends who i talk to ocassionally. but they are far away and i havent seen any of them since i moved back up here.

its so hard to find honest genuine people who are true friends. you think you'll keep in touch forever and life just gets in the way.

 

Maybe.

My three closest friends are Meghan Megan and my cousin. My cousin is almost like a big sister to me, we'll always talk, but we go through phases of how close we are. Megan I've known since kindergarten but I wasn't good friends with til after high school ended, but we click soooo well and can go weeks without talking but still want to see each other. Meghan and I were destined to be best friends... but..

but it's so easy to lose contact with someone when you don't live in the same city anymore. Meghan Nancy and I were all best friends in high school, but Nancy moved out east and we've really lost our friendship since then. I mean, I still love her and still love talking to her, but we are not nearly as close as we were nearly four years ago when she lived in the city with me.

 

Friendships definitely take some work to keep up with once you're not around someone everyday...I'd say some of my best high school friendships have been seriously affected since graduation, because a lot of my homie g's (hahaha...) went off to college elsewhere and I stayed home. I've made friends since then that I'm positive will be lifelong relationships, though. But the oddest thing is, my closest friend, the girl I consider my "best" friend, lives half the country away from me and we rarely get a chance to talk, because she's got a pretty controlling boyfriend. But no matter what, everytime we talk, nothing's changed as far as our friendship goes...I love her to death.

 

everyone expects unrealisticly of everyone and everything else. yup everyone. even me. and we're all idiots to do so.

you can't predict what will happen in other people's lives. but you CAN, wish them well being and happiness (and cross your fingers that they won't buy into popular assumptions that will end up making them harmful, but still wish them to get their heads out of it and see this, more then wishing any sort of harm or unhappiness to come to them).

i think that's basicly the essence of it.

your nontangable friends, like gods and kitsunis and your teddy bear (i.e. plushies) are probably more reliable, not that even a god can always help us out when we need them, or immagine that we do, but the one thing we can count on about our invisible friends is their always wishing us well. just as we each have the choice of doing for each other.

we can't always do much more then that. but that much we can.
i think it is unrealistic to not expect other people to face challanges and distractions and be so perfect as to never be moved or chainged by them.

but WE can choose to set the best example of wishing others well that we can.

i really think, that's about it really.

that and we can hope. and sometimes, we do run into people we've forgotten, or more or less forgotten, not recognize at first it's been so long since we've seen then and the years have chainged their appearance or how we remember it, in ways we would never have accounted for or expected, and discouver that they still care about us and wish us well. i've had that happen too.

you'll see all those diffeerent kinds of that if you live long enough. maybe even in other lives or something like lives, to come, as well.

=^^=
.../\...

 

I had lots of close friends when I still lived in Finland but when I moved we've just kinda drifted apart. Not completely though, because we still see each other all the time when I go to visit and it's almost like before but there's still that distance where you're not really a part of someone's life anymore. Or you are, but in a different way...

I have lots of friends here too, some from uni and some from somewhere else. They're all amazing and we are actually a lot more alike than the people I've been friends with since junior high or whatever. We'll probably keep in touch but who knows really... I'm going away for a year this summer so of course it's gonna affect our friendships. But it's alright.

Luckily there's one person who I know I'll be friends with forever and ever. He's my best friend and like my brother, we don't see each other very often but when we do it's like I had never left. He's just the most amazing person and I trust him with my life. We've been friends since we were like 3 years old.

 

friends rock. I never had a FInnish friend thouhg..I assume they rock more so than american friends

 

I've had many friends that were sort of temporary, like while I was working with them or had a class with them and we would go out for drinks and whatnot after work/school, but I seem to lose touch with most of them as soon as the class is finished or they quit work... there is however one guy I've known for many years who moved away about 6 years ago and I still talk to him on msn and email whenever I can. If/when I get married someday that guy will be my best man assuming he's still around in some years (he recently enlisted ) but yeah friends can still be friends long after they move away if you have enough reason to keep in touch.