Bullshitting me yet again....

Me: .... is there another girl you like....

Him: Kinda. The only problem is, is that she's in Missouri. Also, she's going out with one of my best friends only because I'm not there. And no one else makes me feel the way you do.

Me: I'm sure....all I ever get is my heart broke time after time....after awhile you say fuck it and build up a tolerance....

Him: Occasionally. I'm clumsy and I fall easily, and hard. But I've said it before. I won't break your heart. I'm not just saying this. I don't want and don't like to see you cry. I....am sorry.

Me: But you like another girl. Maybe you'll be happier with her if you get a chance with her....and as you can see I have my shield up and won't be putting it down anytime soon....

Him: That may be. But it's not the same. She's there, with my best friend. And I don't mean to pry through your defenses. I'm just saying how I feel. You take it however you do. But I'm not lying to you.


This is part of the reason I will never get into a relationship ever again....it's because of motherfuckers like this.... Give me feedback yo. Help out a fellow Flowerchild with her probs....

 

He may not be bullshitting you but I would not think anyone one with self respect would accept the terms of "I love you becuase your here but if this other girl was here and single I would be with her"


Seems he needs a new life and I know of no body not worth focussed desires not one that drifts.

 

do you believe he loves you?

 

I guess so. I'm just upset at it all cuz he likes another girl but yet he likes me. I think that's very unfair.

 

He's with you because he can't have her.
Find someone worth your time.
Unless you are a complete idiot, you'd know that you're better than that.

 

exactly

if you're just looking for a fling, it'd be fine. If you want a real relationship with emotions and everything, this is not the kind of situation you want to be in.

 

Thanks everyone. Keep up the good work with the feedback. It's greatly appreciated. This is helping me alot. I knew I was doing something right when I told myself I'd never get into a relationship ever again....

 

This stuff about not being in a relationship ever again is bullshit first of all...You're 18 and loads of people your age, who've had their hearts broken the first couple of times say that stuff. And they never keep their promise...


As for your boyfriend...I think you should adopt an attitude whereby you take responsibility for your own experience. You're not forced to stay with this guy. Whatever happens is therefore your responsibility. Whether he's an asshole or not is beside the point.

It is up to you to weigh the odds and decide what you want out of a relationship with a guy who likes another girl.

If you're uncomfortable with the idea, I say break it up. Your resentment is not going to make that reality disappear. Maybe he's not bullshiting you at all. Maybe he just likes you and the other girl simultaneously. Nothing more common.

 

if you love him and believe that he loves you, do what your heart tells you. do you think the relationship will improve or go anywhere?


[this is just what i think, and yeah, im the last person that should be giving advice...haha.but i think these kinda things help]

 

Dump him, and leave him with nothing.

 

Oh so cool she quoted me and liked it, Im special, thank you thank you.

 

Get out. He is basically telling you that if she becomes available he is going. This is not someone who loves you, he loves someone else. You are convienient.

 

That is one of the most immature responses I've heard to this sort of situation. "All relationships are bad because a couple of teenage boys acted like schmucks." Please.

Work on yourself and your self respect (so that you don't have to ask strangers whether a guy like this is worth your time), and when you least expect it a good guy will come along. Don't settle for anyone who won't treat you right, but there's a big difference between "I'm waiting for someone worth my time" and "I'm never gonnna get into a relationship ever again". One sounds reasonable and mature, the other sounds like someone I would warn worthy guys to stay away from. You attract what you put out there.

 

no, there's nothing wrong with relationships. But you have to make sure it's one where there's mutual respect, and saying he'd date some other broad if she were single is not at all respectful to you.

 

sounds like he's just pissing about and not knowing what he's doing or where he's at to me

 

Things are still rocky between me and him. He's lost my trust none the less....

 

yeah the last thing anyone needs is to feel second best in a relationship. If he's sayin he likes another girl along with you but would choose her over you if she was in your area...that would make me feel low and like I was second best its hard to be totaly commited to somebody with extra baggage because you know you wouldnt get the same amount of emotions back at you none the less if he is telling you he with be with her before you more than likely hes thinkin about her half the time if not more. I say dump him and find somebody who will look at you as their one and only hes out there im sure. as far as the boycotting relationships Idea you have isnt the thing to do your what? 18? you have plenty of life left dont give up on love just yet the thing with that is is it takes time. I am 24 years old and just recently found the one for me, It didnt happen over night I had to wait there were times where I thought I was just ment to be alone but that all changed in due time just keep your head up and wait good luck!

 

at 18 years old, you should be out there dating a lot of different people, don't waste your time with just one person, especially if this person is not making you his first choice.

 

dawn sky said it best and I completely second that. If you need more advice than that, well then you are asking to have your heart kicked into a shitter, shat on and then buried. At that point you deserve it for staying around hoping a bad situtation would some how magically get better.

 

Stay with the guy for now, but keep your eyes and ears open.
If/when you see something you want to persue, go for it.
Tell this guy of yours that you like another guy, and he just became available.

Only then will he appreciate what he has lost by his stupid senseless words.
OK, so he gets a couple of points for his honesty.

Be shouldn't be feeling the way he does. You should be on the top of his list.
Hell, he shouldn't even have a list.