A virgin female may have an intact hymen covering her vaginal opening at least partially, and having intercourse with her may be painful and bloody. You may want to do a lot of foreplay, and insert your clean and lubricated fingers into her vagina to see if they go in easily before you enter her with your penis. Be gentle and understanding, and talk to her about what you are going to do and are doing and ask her if it is OK.
The first time always hurts. It really does. Please be nice ... don't treat her as if she's being silly, don't tell her not to worry about it, DO NOT say "It's only your virginity ..." My best suggestion? Spend the day after, with her. Even if it means missing the Game or something. She WILL appreciate it ...
Bullshit, my first time didn't hurt a bit. Anywho. Like the others have said, be patient, take your time, go slow, be gentle. Make sure she's genuinely ok with what's going on and not feeling pressured. Tell her she can change her mind at any time if she wants. Make sure you have condoms and lube handy (some girls just don't get drenchingly wet). If you want to aim for an orgasm, well, most girls don't orgasm from intercourse alone so you may wanna try oral. If you can get the two of you alone, that's best... having others in teh house makes a lot of people paranoid (hell, I can't do more than makeout with someone when someone else is in the house, I'm massively paranoid about someone walking in on me). Basically... be pateitn and understanding
*grumbles* broad sweeping statements annoy me, especially when laid out as a fact that has been refuted repeatedly in this forum. There have been many posts on here by various members saying that their first time never hurt, to say that everyone's first time absolutely had to have hurt is just incorrect. but, yeah. I probably coulda been a wee bit nicer about it :S Sorry if I came off abrasively.
theres also many posts saying "Im 13 and have a 9 inch penis, will I please a woman?" basically, im not saying its impossible for it not to hurt, but the internet is a good place to "[size=-1]exagerate[/size]" the truth
some people, losing virginity hurts, others not...it's an individual thing. Oh and just my two cents worth.... whatever you do, try to resist comments such as "There ya go, you're no longer a virgin now!" afterwards. Many of my friends have told of male comments after that have degraded the situation, and some have been very upset about it. From the tales from friends, most seem to prefer a nice snuggle, some gentle pillow talk, and a lot of tenderness, gentle touches and care, after the event.
it also depends on what kind of a girl she is...maybe she's super-horny and you don't even know it. things aren't always what they seem. there's no harm in talking to her about it...get her a little horny, see how she starts to act. i guess i could offer my opinion being that i'm a virgin too. not that i would dislike the snuggling and cuddling and spending the day together before the event, but i guess i'm one of those virgins that's hoping for just some good, hard fucking (pardon my french). maybe i watch too much porn... but i do agree with the virgin commentary. i've got a good friend who's well aware he could take mine in a second and he consistently bugs me about it. used to be funny...not so much anymore.
