It seems that as I get older, new guys I meet are less interested in the number of other guys I've had sex with (which in my case is a good thing, since I stopped counting long ago). Is there a point where guys become mature enough where this no longer matters, or matters less?
yes there is, I never care about that anymore although it never really bothered me either I got slutty fast
Guys like that should be avoided in the first place. They're idiots. Who the fuck cares how many times she's fucked? I prefer a girl that's open.
Yes!, and that is where the fun begins. Now I wish I lived in England; my experience in the US is that women keep more track of 'notches in a man's belt' than men. "I hope, and I pray, that Hester will get just one more 'A!'" (Pryn, that is) - from The Music Man.:cheers:
see, I'm always a little curious as to numbers. It's not a comparison thing, it's just human curiosity. Plus, if they say something like "oh I hate using condoms" but you know their numbers of sexual partners is rather high vs their age, well, it's a little sketchy and requires std testing at the least *shrugs* then again, I'm paranoid about std's. I'm still secure (hell, I've usually had more partners than my partners have, at least as of late) but, I'm a curious person.
I made a concious effort to tune out any negative thoughts and think good karma. I'm glad I did, My Princess is the greatest.
I disagree with the idea that it doesn't matter. It does matter how many guys a girl has fucked, and vice- versa. You will realize that when the man of your dreams thinks your a slut, because you have fucked 50 guys. That shit is nasty. There a many diseases and also the respect factor. I understand that this is 2007, and waiting till marriage is not really gonna happen these days. At some point you have to realize that being too easy is not good of you in the long run on many levels. Just my opinion.
a number is just a number without a qualifier. Say you've been sexually active for 40 years. 50 people really isn't a huge crazy number. However, 50 in say, one year, might be a wee bit more than most people would be happy with hearing about from their partner-to-be.
You do have a point. I guess I was more thinking 5o in a few years, which is a shit load. Its not like I am a preacher or anything; hell very far from it. I am just saying that its not cool to fuck everyone. Anyway, I have dated a lot of slut types in the past. I am still a little bit biased on the issue.
If someone can know you've been with a lot of people based on your actions, perhaps cutting back on sexual partners for awhile may be a good thing. Otherwise, I'm not sure it really matters. I think someone who brags about how many people they've been with is probably exaggerating or is trying to sound cool and I think someone who brags about how many people they haven't been with is probably self-righteous. I don't know, I don't think something like that is anyone's business. If someone wants to swap numbers, sure, maybe. I choose not to disclose my number, because quite frankly it's no one's damned business but mine!
I do care about how many men have fucked my wife, before me, because it just makes me want to fuck her even more! I do not see a woman, even a wife as sexual property that must be protected and exploited, but as a sexual person who has the right to as much sexual pleasure as she can find. When I met my wife, she did not keep it secret that she had fucked with many other men before me, and under many different circumstances. She had, in fact, had many more sex partners than had I, which again, did not cause a problem for me. I do believe it is normal for a man to wonder how many other men have fucked his wife before him, but for positive reasons, and not because he will be jealous of these other men. I also believe it is normal for a husband to want for his wife to have been fucked by a large number of other men. The fact that my wife has been fucked by so many other guys just makes me want to fuck her even more!!
