taken advantage of

OK. So heres my great drunken night.

My friend came over and we were gonna go to this guy's house for his party, so we told my parents we would be going to another friend's house. Well, when we got there, there were quite a few drunk people iuncluding two guys who wouldnt leave us alone. Me being the idiot that I am, got a little tipsy and then was offered more vodka which I also stupidly took.

I ended up making out with this guy who I had never met before and who had his hands down my pants. My friend saw this and pulled him off me, but I couldn't stand up and kept falling over. Then, i was goign to start wlaking home when I had to piss really bad and I couldn't go in the house since his parents were home so I walked down the street and went on the grass. Then my friend and the birthday boy found me and pulled me up.

Well, it turns out I lost my phone so they had to look for it and then by the time we got it my mom was pissed and I got caught. The thing is, im not grounded. I completely lied about the whole thing and said I was at this girls house and had vodka and coke and got hammered off that. They believed me.

Im going to kill that guy who took advantage of me. I was completely wasted. Sorry, I just had to get that out.

 

I'm so sick of hearing people say they were taking advantage of. It doesn't sound to me like you tried to stop him. If you cant control yourself then dont drink.

 

So basically your saying this guy is responsible for what he did when he was drunk but your not?? Your an idiot! You are responsible for yourself not matter what your state of mind. You choose to drink in that situation I dont see how you didnt expect something like that to happen.

Oh well just learn for next time.

 

w0rd up...

but i'd still kick his ass anyways.

 

You know that that isn't going to happen.

It's much better to just keep whining that "I was taken advantage of" than to actually take the tiniest bit of responsibility.

 

My thoughts exactly; a total double standard to be saying that men are always responsible in these situations.

 

No, you people just don't understand. Im not whining bout it. I knew it was my fault. The thing is, I never get that wasted. I usually never drink either. I never even meant to get that drunk but I went a little overboard. That guy wasnt even that drunk. I know he wasnt. Its going to be a long time before I drink again. It was all just a stupid mistake that I don't intend to make again. It could happen to anybody, so shut the fuck up before you say something like that.

 

you put yourself in that situation. and if you were making out with him, then it was obviously consentual at the time. it doesnt matter how often you drink, or how drunk he was/wasnt at the time. you may regret it, and thats good, and you probably learned something too which is also good, but you can't go around making the bold claim of being 'taken advantage of'

 

i know a girl who got real trashed one night and was hooking up with a guy, but didn't want to have sex with him...he forced it on her anyway. it's hard to pin blame on just one person in a situation like that, and maybe even in yours. you could have been more careful, and he didn't have to be such a dick. and let's not be rude here, girls can take advantage just as easily as guys can...it probably just doesn't happen as frequently. a lot of guys get way too drunk and get roped into hooking up with chicks who know what's going on, that the guys are totally uninterested in. hey, shit happens when there are drugs in the mix, especially alcohol...but when you wake up in the morning you've generally got to take at least some responsibility for what happened.

 

Hey lets all bash her at once and pump up our egos! Leave'r alone, she's a fucking kid; she does'nt know any better.

 

i had no intention of bashing her. i didnt call her names, i didnt accuse her her of anything, all i did was point out my opinion on the matter. she's young yes, this is a perfect time to teach her that she can't pin blame solely on the other person in situations like these. if someone goes around saying so and so took advantage of me, these are big implications that could get someone in a lot of trouble and ruin a perfectly good reputation despite whether or not the allegations are true.

 

mmmmm sorry you sounded alot smarter here than your first post. So im sorry for attackin you so fast and hard. Just dont say 'I was taken advantage of'. If you say the guy wasnt drunk then that was pretty shitty of him.

 

She obviously knew better enough to not let her parents know. I have no sympathy for girls who want to blame a dude for something SHE did but is now regreting.

I've been pretty fucking plastered before, but I've never done anything like that....as far as I see it, if you weren't drunk enough to black out, and you remember it all that clearly, you can't blame a guy for making out with someone who WILLINGLY made out with him.

For all that's worth, how do we know you weren't the one taking advantage of him? Just because you're a female, maybe drunk guys should know better, but drunk girls don't?

I'm sorry that you feel like you were taken advantage of and that this dude needs his ass kicked for doing the same exact thing you did.....I guess I just have this warped sense of responsiblity and self respect.

No, shit like THAT only happens to people that let it happen...if it was rape or something that's a different issue, but YOU did consent. I don't make out with random people, and I don't know of many others that do it either, whether they're smashed out of their minds or whatever. Telling people to "shut the fuck up" doesn't sound like something coming from the mouth of a victim, it sounds like a little girl getting all defensive.

 

ugh, the damned blame game. look, we all know the guy was wrong... ok? he's an ass and a semi rapist... thats that. it's his problem. so yes, take it up with him okay? scare him off from doing it again to anyone. BUT, are you gonna learn at all?(not sayiong you ahvent, or saying you wont.... just odnt linger on the negative) other than to blame and go drinking again a week later? like seriously, dont drink in the first place and bad shit wont happen?

nothing good comes from poison. Exhibit A, your story...
So tell that fucker off, tell everyone ABOUT him so they'll stay away, but dont think you've solved the problem at that...
I know this sounds fast and rude and im not trying to be, im not pissed at you for blaming him cuz obviously he was in the wrong....

 

oh, and theres a legal drinking age for a reason... gotta grow up before to try to fit in with adults...

DAMN alcohol is just killing everyone...

 

very true...hadn't even thought of that.

 

jesus, i thought this was a place for advice and shit, shouldnt we all be a little more understanding and possibly a little nice, and give the girl some useful advice and not act like her parents. i have personally had that same thing happen plenty of times, but i dont think it was the guys fault. i wanted it at the time, and the next morning i realized that i really didnt, sure he knew i was drunk and would be easy, but i made the mistake of drinking with him. so i suggest when you are going to drink, only do it with people you know and trust, or at least have a good friend who wont be getting shit faced to watch out for you, or just learn to control yourself
peace<3

 

theres a reason why guys get girls drunk

 

Understanding and giving advice is great, but when someone wants to "kick his ass" for something she was just as much a part of, or tells people to shut the fuck up when they say something she doesn't want to hear, that makes it a little hard to be understanding of someone's self-righteousness.

And this might seem unfair, but the guy did stop after her friend snatched him up, right? So why is there any need to go around telling other people that they need to watch out for him? It seems to me, at least in my humble, lowly opinion, that she's the one people should be warned about. My sister had a friend like that, who would go and have sex or at least mess around with different guys, and she ended up having 2 of them put in jail by crying rape even though there were tons of people who could testify that she was usually into it and it was fully consentual. (sp?) The last time she tried it, the cops finally realized what was happening and she got in trouble for it.

I'm not saying this chic is like that, but if she's so willing to claim she was "taken advantage of" even though the only advantage that was taken was her willingness to make out with a complete stanger, that sounds a little troubling to me.

 

alright. yall are RIDICULOUS.

LET ME CLEAR THIS UP,
because im sick of some of thses girls.

OK. A girl willingly put herself into an illegal situation with mind-altering substances. (notice how im poiting out the main points)

She drank, and she willingly made out with this guy, and didnt do anything to stop him. the other girl came and pulled her away. lets take a look at this. this guy was obviously drinking also. which means he wasnt in his right state of mind either. there is a total difference if he FORCED her to do something, but it was all consentual. moonshyne's right, the boy did stop after her friend got her.

im sick of girls bitching when they put themselves in these situations doing something they know they shouldnt be. its like drinking and driving, there's a reason why you're not supposed to do that. both the boy and the girl were fucked up, and they made a mistake. end of story. but i DO NOT want to hear the words "taken advantage of". Im sick of sluts pointing fingers at the guys for shit thats happened, because one of my friends got fucked up because of the same situation.

listen hun, im not trying to blame anything on you, but im letting you know actions have consequences, and you must think about this before you go through with anything. you're 14, and won't have a great tollarance to beer . just please think before you do something, set your limits ahead of time and know just when to refuse. if anything, just hold the beer and dont drink it, this way you get shit for not drinking, cuz they think you are. (old trick)

sorry for the long post.