my parents raised me as catholic, and i never really liked it. i have been very turned off about catholicism and i like certain religions/lifestyles way better. this morning i told my mom that i didnt want to go to church because i dont want to be catholic, and she is very mad at me and wont even talk to me. how can i make her understand that i am an individual and that i can belive what i want to believe? shes trying to raise me as a clone of herself and doesnt respect my views at all. any suggestions?
ask her to please respect your views and that just because you don't want to be catholic that doesnt' mean you don't love her. tell her that you are trying to find the religion that makes you happy and that makes you feel closer to God. say it even if you don't really want to be apart of a religion. and if she still doesn't like it, then walk away.
Tell her that your still her daughter no matter what religion you are. This is something that doesnt apply to you, but you still respect everything she believes in. And you love her. Sometimes even with all the words in the world, people wont understand until it really hits them ...that it doesnt matter.
Don't talk to her about it again till you move out or go to college. I have been where you are and it's not worth the fights and yelling and heart ache for an hour a week. Your parents still look at you like a kid and they won't change what they think. I still go to church for special events and when my parents ask me to to make them happy. Thats what you do for people you love.
Ditto. My dad used to make me go to church all the time...and I didn't like it very much. Now I go when I feel like it, and do as I please. It's not telling your mom you don't want to go to church. Once you turn 18, you can do as you please. Until then, you do what she wants you to.
Ask her how she knows god exists. When she says she has felt god or some equivalent, tell her you never have. When she says you have to have faith ask her how she knows someone didnt make it up along time ago to get people to behave how they wanted. Ask her how you can respect her believes if she doesnt respect yours. Show her that you have come to a logical decision rather than just being to lazy to get out of bed on a sunday morning. This may give you some ideas on what direction you want your argument to go, http://www.unm.edu/~humanism/socvsjes.htm
