How many Gay people have thought they were gay then questioned it? Or Just didn't know (or want to relize) their on sexual preference? I've been bi, straight and gay (to other people) and have switched back and forth. I told my parents that I might be gay and they said i would have to move out when i was 18 (still a senior in high school) if I was. So I went to thinking i was straight. really confused right now. I mean i like guys...i think at least. Is it this confusing deciding if your gay? Any help what so ever would be great. Peace and Love, August
It was never a decision for me. I just knew. But that doesn't mean this is the case for you. Everyone has a different situation. Only you can determine what is best for your life. Perhaps it would be better not make any definite decisions and just roll with what comes your way. I would also wait to bring up the subject with your parents until you're off at college or whatever you plan to do.
Yara - I don't have sex fantasies. But I do have fantasies about later in my life. And It just depends on the day. Some days I'm dating a gorgeous guy and some times I'm dating a beautiful girl. But The guy fantasy come into play more often then not. And the guy one lasts a while (about 5minutes or longer). The fantasies with the girl last for a few seconds then go away. I do believe in free love. So I might be bi. Then again. I'm more turned on by guys than with girls. And I have only had a fantasy about 1 girl (a friend atm). But with the guys it's just random guys. So I really can't think of it more than I need to date. lol. And I agree with you mush. When I brought up the possibility that I might be gay they told me if I was I would have to move out when I was 18. So I'm guessing if I am Gay then I would have to wait until after college. Because they would without a doubt stop funding for college. Thanks for a tad bit of help guys. -August
Your parents would stop college funds because you like it up the arse?! When you say "decide", do you mean that you're making the choice to become gay? Being gay isn't a decision.
No, It's just cooping with my feelings with now L.A. Kinda of confused about my feelings. Guess this is a way for me to "come out" somewhat to my self. And yes, My dad is a devout Christian. He thinks that homosexuality is wrong and is sinful. Reason why I wouldn't be able to tell him (or my mom). They wouldn't let me get my drivers license, wouldn't pay for college or anything that is "extra". Just because of my sexual orientation. One major reason why it's hard for my coming out to my self.
I've found that the easiest way to tell your sexual orientation is by the connection that you feel to other people. If you really like someone, enough to be in a relationship with them, then there's a certain indescribable connection that occurs between you and that person. Even if that person might not be homosexual, it's that feeling, I think. It's much more powerful than a mere physical attraction.
words of wisdom. i im also not going to tell anyone untill im away at college or even untill after ive become a doctor and began my successful career. my parents wouldnt even care but i dont want the awquardness of it all. im hoping im bi but more attracted to women, this way i can just pretend im fully straight. sexuality is deffinitly confusing for me. your not alone basil.
When I was your age it wasn't even an option. There was zero visibility for gays in the rural midwest. So I fooled around with the boys but never once considered I was anything other than straight. It wasn't until I moved to California that I ever saw anyone who was actually gay (though come to think of it, there must have been gay kids at my school--besides me, I mean). So anyway, I went back and forth from straight to bi to gay to back to straight, etc., etc., from the age of 19 to 30. I feel slightly jealous of those people who already knew when they were 16. I can't possibly understand what that's like.
