A relationship completely void of fighting?

Have you ever been in one?

I'm certainly not complaining, but I currently am in one and it seems so foriegn to me. I'm talking not one single arguement, not one 'I'm upset because you do this we need to talk', not one single feeling of anger or hurt in five months.

What I have is essentially what I thought was a relationship that only happens in dreams. Granted its early as its only been five months, so I'm sure things could change, but it almost makes me nervous that there has not been one single problem since the beginning. And the beginning was not an ideal start to a relationship. I was technically seeing someone else at the time (very long distance, tons of fighting and little to no hope of that ever changing) and she was so understanding then giving me the time I needed to sever ties with the ex and gather myself together to try something new with her.

Since then we've spent every night together, but a few and essentially have lived together. She officially moves in Feb 1st, giving up her old apartment, but for all intents and purposes she has made my place our home since mid October. Perhaps moving forward and sharing financial obligations together may cause some strife, but I really don't think so.

I'm certainly not complaining at all, I'm just not used to this and sometimes it makes me a little nervous. What I am used to is girlfriends seemingly always having a problem with me, which would lead to massive frustration - to the point where I would be a real jerk - get into yelling fights that were downright nasty and overall behavior that I am completely embarrassed by. That hasn't come even close to happening with her. I couldn't imagine raising my voice in anger at her. It's almost like I no longer think I am capable of such behavior. She accepts all that I am and is happy with me all the time to the point that if there every was even a slight thing I was doing that upset her, I wouldn't get frustrated and would change the behavior immediately.

So, has anyone else experienced something like this? A relationship completely free of fighting in any way? I certainly love it, but like I said, it almost makes me nervous as at times it seems too perfect.

 

currently, mines actually the opposite. it consists of fighting : (

 

I wish i have that We're always fighting over nothing...i got used to it...

 

thats how mine is, we finally broke up last night (after 2 years), but he was my best friend, he knew me better than anyone ever could...thats what is hard to let go, not a boyfriend, but a companion. we might get back together, but i dont know how healthy that could be...

 

I've never been in a relationship where we had a fight.
I mean, disagreements and arguments, yes.
Hurt and anger? Absolutely. But I usually know I'm being irrational and if you leave me be for about 20min it's usually passed.

Now admittedly most of my relationships have been fairly short lived, the longest was only 9 months, but eh. Nothing that I could class as a fight (now, others might call our arguments fights, I don't, because I've heard my mom and step dad (now split up) having way way way WAY worse fights. My cousin and her bf's too, have way worse fights than my little arguments)

 

That's how I felt the first few months. I was like, "Wow, no fights!" Any disagreements we had we dealt with in a noncombative manner - and I happen to be a moody and, at times, short-tempered fellow! But eventually we did end up fighting a couple of times. I remember feeling almost relieved when we fought the first time.

Anyway, I suggest that you just enjoy the moment. Sooner or later you will come across problems so be thankful for the peace in your relationship.

 

Don't let it make you nervous. Take the peace and hapiness and run with it.
I am good friends with a couple who never fights. They got married after just 6 months of dating and are the happiest couple I have ever met. I thought it might just be a show but after going on vacation with them and seeing how great they get along I realized there are actually couples like this. My girlfriend said she worried about the no-fighting thing because she had never had a happy relationship, but she took the leap and is so happy.
If you've found a relationship like that hold onto it-tightly and enjoy the hell out of it. Few people find that. Congrats on being one of the lucky ones.

 

i'd be freaked out too. not fighting just seems so odd to me! i like the occasional fight, as bad as that sounds. i think with passion feelngs get hot and bothered and you need to have heated disagreements. i think it makes you closer and more bonded as a couple.

ive never had a relationship that consisted of no fighting at all, but im sure its normal. dont sweat it. just enjoy the peace.

 

if she never voices any disagreement with anything you say or do, it could be a problem. If you two do argue sometimes, disagree on things, then that's cool. but if she's constantly bending over backwards to avoid upsetting you and never ever disagrees with anything you say, it could be a sign of a very unhealthy relationship. What happens if you disagree with her? Does she immediately change her position to avoid conflict? Or does she stand her ground and you argue it out or agree to disagree? No two people can ever agree with each other 100% of the time, not if both of them are thinking for themselves, anyway.

 

2 years, four months, no fights, one short disagreement based on a misunderstanding quickly rectified.

 

thats crazy, i have no idea what thats like, not all fights are bad though, plus, make up sex is awesome.

 

hahaaaa I'm with you on the make-up sex, but god I hate fighting. The only oragsms I've ever had were with make-up sex...after disagreements though-not fights. I can't do the whole sex thing after huge fights because in side I'm like damn I just got fucked over and now I'm fucking him this is wrong I shouldn't be doing this.

 

Relationships without fights definitely exist! Of course often there are still disagreements and misunderstandings which are resolved peacefully, but there are even relationships with almost no disagreements of any type. That's what happens when two loving, understanding, mature people get together. Don't be afraid - if you're afraid, you're going to screw it up with your fear and insecurity. Just keep loving her, and let her love you back. It sounds like you've found something great, so dive in, brother

 

Well what he said was no disagreements at all, and that would bother me a ton. Especially since he says they spend almost all their time together. I don't know, I think it's very strange. I think to not have disagreements with anyone that you love, ever is very strange. For most people we get angry witht the people we care about the most, family, close friends, partners. I think arguements can be very healthy in a relationship, but I suppose it depends on the personalities involved and the circumstances surrounding your lives... Do you guys ever get upset about anything in your lives at all, or are you just always happy about everything??? Just wondering. I've never known a relationship like that, that has lasted that long. I've known people who communicate really well when there are disagreements, but nothing like what you're describing. ((shrugs))

 

my boyfriend and i never used to fight. we didn't have a fight for the first six months we were together. then right at our six month anniversary, i just broke up with him for like no reason at all, just because i felt really stressed out that weekend and had spent a lot of time with him and thought about stuff too much. we got back together like a month later and then we fought about how he was always flirty with my sister and i didn't like that, then we broke up again. we got back together and have been together since october now. i think that's pretty much the only thing we've fought about; my sister. but now that i look back, i think communication and not fighting was our problem. is our problem. that we never fought, so when we eventually did, i didn't know how to handle it and i just took the easy way out and left him. we still don't have very good communication. we hardly talk or anything, but ya know. my rents hate him and we hardly get to see each other, but still, we don't even talk online like we used to. i donno. eventually, i'll turn 16 and can drive off to see him. then we'll be at the same school and hopefully we'll get better. *shrug* sometimes i worry about how we're going to make it, but i'm not just going to back out this time. and i know for sure that he won't either.