Hi how is everyone? I have been with my girlfriend for almost 6 years... and we are doing great, however due to the fact that we both were virgins when we met... we only had one sex partner... we both have our ex's but we did not do any intercourse with them... We have always love each other, our sex is great too... however when I have fantasies I always envision seeing her with someone else... I had told her I like to see her have sex with another man with me watching... Am I wierd for telling her that? I always really want to try another female... I love my girlfriend to death but part of me really want to see how another girl is like... What do we do? Just this weekend we had a talk while making our in bed... we got in this deep talk that really freak me out... usually when I tell my gf these fantasies of mine she brushes it off and say its never gonna happen, however this past weekend we talked again about this and she opened up more to me and told me at times when she bus to work she see's guys stare at her and she feels good about it, after being with me for almost 8 years she is proud she still got it... We then talked more and somehow we came to agreement that one night we will go on our seperate ways and find a person to sleep with, and that its a one night thing only... then we will resume our life like nothing has happened... Do you guys think this will work? I really don't want the after effect to hurt our relationship... At first when she told me I was like sure... pretty happy but the last few days I got more thinking and really starting to get worry... I'm worry things might change... also we are planning to get marry soon I don't know if I could truefully give her my vow with all my heart knowing what we did with a different person... I am confuse and not sure what to do, any advice would be great, thx!
I think it could work. I t depends how easily jealous either of you get. I think it could put a really positive spin on your relationship. I don't think you are losing your girl. It's completely normal to be curious of other people.
Don't do it. It's not worth it. Act out your sexual fantasies together if you plan on getting married.
Thx guys, the thing is after that moment we had another talk, my girlfriend said it was in the moment... she do not want to do it anymore... or would she allow me to do it, would this curiousity ever leave us or do we have to act it out to have it over with and move on with our lives?...
Here is what could happen if you do it - 1. You are really turned on by your one night stand with another woman; your lady hates it, and you decide to break up with her, realizing that the sex can be so much better with someone else. 2. She is really turned on by her new partner for a night, you can't get it up with yours, and she wants to break up with you for the same reason. 3. You both loved having sex with someone else, and come back together better for the experience, and are faithful to each other for ever after. 4. You both hated having sex with someone else, and jumped back into each other's arms, forever. 5. You both loved it, and decided to get married, but it will be an open marriage. 6. One of you got an STD and gave it to the other when you got back together. Which of these will be you?
yea this will fuck your shit up. don't do it. i don't know why this would even sound like a good idea. if you want to fuck somebody else, break up with her and fuck somebody else. that's all there is to it.
Frankly, on those occasions when I have had the experience of starting to be interested in even flirting with someone other than my partner, my response has NEVER been to try to arrange a one-night-thing. My response has been to try to figure out what is wrong within my current relationship that is causing me to be interested in someone else. You say that it's because you've never been with anyone before her... That's bullshit. If my fiance were telling me the things that you have been telling your gf, I would be incredibly hurt. Which would then do serious damage to the relationship -- even if I just brushed it off at the time, it would cause me to be less open with my feelings, start to build up a wall to protect myself from being hurt, which hurts the communication that is crucial to a relationship. When she finally gives in and agrees to go through with one of these "experiments", that probably means that your relationship is pretty much fucked. You will have pushed her into the arms of another man, literally, but also pushed her away from you.
