one day at a time, one step at a time

not to sound like those sobriety guys, although they do know where it's at. But I am learning and growing every day. Last night I tried to have a discussion with my soon-to-be-ex-husband, and basically I realize that communication problems and lack of connection led to the situation so they aren't going to magically end because the relationship is in transition (it won't ever end because of the kids). SO why did I expect we could talk and he'd suddenly be able to hear what I am saying and treat me like an equal, or at least a person? Beats me. But the positive outcome for me is that it didn't knock me down emotionally. He called me names and I didn't accept them as true reflections of my value as a person. He said mean things to hurt me and I was able to hear them and understand he is voicing his own pain with out having to buy into it. I was able to keep my head above the water and not fall into sadness. It's a start.

 

Neither party is entirely blameless when couples separate or divorce, but sometime couples counselors help. Is it too late for you?