i wish there was someone i could talk to now...

my family is about to enter world war three...tonight was a lovely night of drinking, but when i went to bed my little brother and his friend stayed up, i lefted them playing video games...i feel responsible for not watching him...he was arrested...i just am so utterly in shock and just i don't even know how to handle the situation
i am to blame i mean i gave him the booze..i should have watched him..maybe i could have stopped this from happened?...


how am i suppose to handle this?

 

what happened and how did they get arrested. they were in your house, no? guessing he's underage then right. they leave and do something stupid to get arrested?

this happened jess, os don't beat yourself up thinking of how you could have stopped it., thats not constructive. when i supply booze to people who can't normally get it, i separate myself from the situation totally. whatever they do, thats on them, as much as i'd like ot be able to be in control, i can't control others choices sober or not. i apply this to my sister

 

Baby , Things happen , and everyone makes mistakes. You need to face yourself and say , yes , I messed up , and I will never do it again , we all learn from mistakes made.
Dont beat yourself up over something already done , just vow it will never happen again.

 

woooops

 

yeah. it was a mistake. you're hardly more than a kid yourself. you're also underaged for alcohol. listen, i had custody of my baby sis about 5 years ago. man, did she ever blow it, with the drinking, smoking, hitching, fighting. there's nothing really that you can do about it now. how old is your brother? because there comes an age where teenagers are totally unguidable, totally out of your hands. you just do what you can to keep them alive. behaving like mature people is beyond them.

 

Shit happens... it's actually quite necessary for SOMETHING to happen in order for us to become wiser in the ways of the world and people. You've chosen a short course of study in the school of life entitled "Buying Alcohol for the Immature 101". Your brother, family, and the legal system will be working together as co-professors in this short class. Hopefully you'll graduate this class a wiser young woman.

 

Just because you gave him the booze does not mean you gotta watch him, he could have just as easily gotten the booze from someone else and gotten arrested... at least when you buy him booze it encourages him to drink at home.

Just don't buy him no more booze... you should have taxes his little ass all this time anyhow.

 

If he's old enough to be giving alcohol to, I think he's old enough to not need to be watched, unless he's like 12 or something, and then.......

 

She's Canadian isn't she? 19 is legal drinking age. The problem is that the police are going to want to know where the boys got the booze....if they find out it, she could be in a lot of trouble, depending on what these guys got arrested for...

I agree, people make mistakes.

 

thats terrible to hear

you shouldnt be blaming yourself to much though. you have gave em booze plenty of times before, and this one time they just happened to get caught. not sure how they could of got caught drinking while playing video games

hope everything turnes out ok. im sure it will. these things happen to everyone sooner or later, and we learn from it

 

{{{Hugs}}} Hang in there honey...

 

oh! hehe. i thought her name said 'indiana summer' all this time. damn. i was hoping for her to have a loophole.

 

ok so basically he's so fucked ...i can't believe this has happened...he's 17 btw...
i'm really not in any trouble, except for the back lash of my parents...i'm just so worried for him...he could go to jail
this is seriously the worst thing that could have happened besides death...
my moms been drinking all day
i don't want to say anything about what he did...but he's a really insane kid and basically has 5 charges pending against him...

 

shite
well, if he has 5 charges pending, I doubt there's anything you could've really done to stop the situation.

I think the best thing you can do is be support at this point, try and help people through this rough period

 

Indian you can't really blame yourself. He's 17, and he should have just stayed home. ((Hugs))

 

i know, but knowing it's not my fault and not blaming myself are two different things in my mind..i know i can't do anything, it's just hard for me to do nothing......i'm trying to be support..it's so difficult on my mom, i'm really worried about her, and my brother is really panicked about the whole situation...

 

sweety its okay

really its your brothers responsibility you are only 2 years older than him so its not like youre supposed to be his babysitter. maybe thats how your parents make you feel but really hes old enough to be watching out for himself. and if theres one thing my life has taught me, these things (arrests and such) only really make us smarter. im sure it will all be okay and he will learn from this. and if your worried about your mom you should talk to her about how your feeling. i know thats easier said than done but it will help if shes not completely hysterical. love you <333

 

thanks sarah
we should go looking for that problem free island soon
love you too<33

 

oh yes. but 1st we'll need that ship

 

well my family has a boat, but it's huge..we'd need man candy to help us drive it
but it is a good ship that we could live on, it has 2 bedrooms
party boat!!
i'll bring the drinks..and we'll leave our troubles on this stinking land