Last night I met a woman who wanted to get together with me. We knew each other casually, but never had alone time to talk, like last night. I didn't do anything and told her I was married. She said it was ok with her, if it was ok with me. She gave me her number and told me to call her any time. Since my wife and I are totally open with each other, I told her of the flattering proposal. Without getting into a a big discussion about it, she told me to go for it. I wouldn't think of it without her permission and never expected her to be so encouraging. When she noticed the surprised look on my face, she asked me if I would feel the same if the situation was a man? As long as we were open with each other,which is what we originally agreed upon, it was cool. Given a choice, there is no choice, a woman wins every time.
She is playing with you (i mean your wife) I know i said that to my bf, just to see his reaction, i didn't mean it really.
game playing and testing is no good And there are a great many couples out there with open or polyamorous type relationships. Hell, my mom's best friend is in an open marriage, it works for the couple in question. To the OP, as long as you're sure she's really ok with it, woohoo! (though I don't really get why you say that a woman wins every time, since you've just gotten the ok to fuck another femme, the only thing that might make you think a woman wins every time is that your wife requested equal treatment ie if the situation came up with a man and her... equal treatment doesn't mean winning, it smacks of equality. Anywho, there's my ramble/rant)
then you should go for it! but remember it later when she comes to you and wants to be open as well...
We have already been there with each other before. It's just sexual pleasure and at this point in our lives, we wanted to know, not wonder, what pleasures of life we could enjoy and share with each other. No secrets.
and your evidence for this is what? That they're willing to try having an open marriage? are all polyamorous couples headed for splitting up/divorce? All swingers too? That's a very broad brush to be painting with when so little information has been presented. And rather judgemental against anyone who isn't in a completely monogamous relationship. This is the "free love" forum after all
maybe it's because he's a "lay sex therapist" (see the thread in the main love and sex section on "he's a virgin"). this is why people shouldn't go around selling themselves as therapists on subjects they are obviously quite naieve about! if it is properly handled, there's no reason an open marrige / relationship can't work.
"And ye, verily, the LORD did see upon the mountain the son of Elijah, of David and of the Iseralites. And the LORD did make fire come upon that place and the sons were most aferd. But then the LORD caused his angels to come to that most holy place and they said to the sons "WHAT IS WITH THAT ASS?". And the LORD smote the ass, for he was most displeased. And the sons were ashamed, for they knew they had done wrong in the eyes of the LORD. So they took camels, and goats and lobsters with a pineapple sauce and presented them at the holy temple on the 40th day just before tea-time - and they added a three-piece band for extra effect. The LORD saw this, and forgave them their sins, and they all did dance to the band and eat the lobster, and all were most pleased. THIS IS THE WORD OF THE LORD. AMEN.
