I have always believed that family is the most important thing you could ever have. I have a different birth father to my little brother and sister but I have always told them that I have never considered them my half siblings or step siblings- they have always been just my little brother and sister. I know of a few people that do not believe in this and I've had trouble with it in the past when I went to visit my birth father with my sister (his family treated my sister horrorbly. his sister in particular). I hated it that his sister wasnt welcoming to my sister. Have you ever had any trouble with this? What are your opinions?
Yes I have 2 (half) bothers (dads) , then me and my sister who both belong to both my mom and dad. My sister finds it easy to seperate us and I do not regardless of how our older brothers have turned out. It is like this weekend she is having her birthday party and when I asked if she was inviting our oldest brother she said she had no use for dad's oldest son. My mom's mom is the same way my brithers and there kids are not her real grandchildren to her so she treats them different don't get me wrong she is not mean to them or anthing if they are around. She just doesn't invite them to family get togethers on for that side of the family.
I disagree. I believe that people who truly care about you are the ones who really matter. Sometimes that's family, but sometimes it is not. Far too often, family members put up with you because they feel an obligation, not because they really care. My step-brothers didn't even know I had two kids until I sent out xmas cards with their picture on it. They are not family, they certainly aren't friends of mine. When their father was alive, they only called when they wanted something. Now that he's dead, they never call at all.
It's hard when you want to get to know the family you never really knew you had, expecially if they live on another continent. Mum sometimes told me about what he was like when they were dating and I do believe in second chances to a certain extent, I had talked to him on the phone prior to visiting him and he seemed nice. Recently he showed a few of his true colours and it turns out that he isnt all that he says he is, and after his family treated my sister so badly, now I dont really want to know them at all. I am very happy wherer I am now and how my life has turned out, I have two brilliant siblings and two great parents. Even though my dad is considered a step dad to most people, to me he is a birth father because he has been there for me from day one, and even though we have our up's and down's I will always love him.
i have two older sisters from my mums previous marrage (karen 30 & joanne 28), my mum & dad got together when jo was about 3-4y/o & he has brought them up & treats them no different from me & my brother. to me & my brother they are our full sisters, some people dont understand this, i always say that they are my sisters & then i will mention their bio father & people will say "so they are your half sisters" & i tell them only in theory. they did still see their dad when they were younger but they didnt really get on because they prefered our dad who has brought us up. their dad just used to dump them at his moms when they were ment to visit him or he would take them out house calling which they hated (his converted to jehovah witness) or he would make them read the watchtower magazine. they understood that it was our father who spent time with them, payed for their hoilday, helped with home work, did their hair in a morning before school, all the things that matter. it was our father who walked them down the aisle & gave them away on their wedding day. our dad is their childrens grandad & to my sister my dad will always be their dad, the dad who love's them & takes care of them. their bio dad still dropps by once in a blue moon but they dont really have any type of relationship & their kids dont really know who he is, when we have said that he is your grandad they kind of look funny & say "no grandad up the road is our grandad".
I don't consider my half sister my sister much at all. In fact, when people ask me how many siblings I have I forget about her. She's much older than me and we are worlds apart. We share a biological father but not a dad. I don't believe family is relative to if you are blood related at all. Haha I made an accidental pun....relative...get it?
