Hey all, one of my good female friends recently fell for and started dating a guy she only previously considered a good friend and wasnt interested in any further than that, and he said he loved her since the day he met her but according to her there was no ''connection''. She was really into another guy aswell for a while, then suddenly one night she gave herself to this ''good friend'' and ended up in a relationship with him. I don't get it, what could he of done to make her change her mind so suddenly?
no idea at all, sorry i couldn't be more help there should be people on in a while to help out {{{hugs}}} l xxx
people can fall in and out of love all the time, attraction can suddenly come on you - or you can find you were attracted to someone for a long while but you never really noticed it before. i think the question should more be..."why do YOU care?". my hunch is telling me you were actually attracted to this girl and now you're wondering why she's with some other guy...am i right?
Ok, well remember when i said she was really into another guy? Well that was me, but we live too far apart, it was just weird how all of a sudden she fell for this guy so suddenly.
maybe these "theres no connection" lines she was using were signals to you.. meaning she meant she had no taste for him.. she was more interested in you.. but since you came up short with never doing anything.. she went for the next man
She didn't change her feelings instantly, thath's imposible in this sityation, because you can't stop having feeling fore someone just like that. She changed her mind. My experience.
...pardon my cynicism, but at the lower and truer depths of that story probably lies one of life's eternal truths: the sex (or sexual vibes) were better. You know, "what all women crave," from the movie! It taks place at the lower and truer depths of the womam....
Ok to delve even further into it, the distance was FAR and I mean far, she lived in the US and me in England, there ya go. We started talking through that myspace site, we connected amazingly but after a while it made me depressed because we lived too far apart and I told her I couldnt put my life on hold because it would be a good while before we even met, despite her still telling me her feelings would never change for me. Then suddenly one day, she just fell for this guy. I dont know if I did something to put her off or what, I dont get it.
What someone looks like on paper or the internet and in person are far different things. It is great to get to know the inside of a person before you get to know the outside, but both must be good for the relationship to go forward. And if there is an ocean between you that is a gap too wide.
I'm sorry it didn't work out dude. Iagree that it's really hard to make something that long distance work. But on the other hand if you guys are meant to be together, then you WILL be together someday. And there's no problem exploring other relationships in the meantime, and staying friends. As long as it's JUST friends, because it's not okay to get her to have a stronger relationship with you while she's in another, real life relationship...that's cheating. Who knows...you may just find someone in your city who you want to go out with, and you get the fun physical bit of the relationship too! Maybe stay away from MySpace and messenger etc for a while, and get out into the "real world", hang out with friends, meet other girls, go to parties, have fun...
Well, since she's started dating this guy ive barely been able to talk to her which makes me feel sad. I do go out fairly often where I live and have done since i was about 15/16, but it doesnt feel like there is anyone local for me.
Jimmyeth - Sounds like you are still a teenager, and so is she. You are just embarking on the world of having feelings for persons of the opposite sex, and it is never painless. There is an ocean between you, and I am sure she feels that she cannot stop her life for someone on the other side of the world whom she has never met in person. In a way, yours is like a summer romance - you meet someone in a summer environment, neutral territory, when you are both relaxed, but when you try to pick up the relationship during the school year, when parents and friends are involved, the relationship does not work. Try to move on with your life.
Hey Cutted, yes I am still a teenager, 18, she was 19. ''and I am sure she feels that she cannot stop her life for someone on the other side of the world whom she has never met in person.'' The thing is, she told me and kept pleading me to trust her that she was willing to wait for me... Hence why I was upset when one day she suddenly found someone else. ''In a way, yours is like a summer romance - you meet someone in a summer environment, neutral territory, when you are both relaxed, but when you try to pick up the relationship during the school year, when parents and friends are involved, the relationship does not work.'' That is exactly what happened, I started to feel depressed as soon as I got back into my daily routine as the holidays ended. We started talking early summer. Thanks for your advice.
Jimmy - I had a romance somewhat like yours. When I was in school in the US, a girl from Paris was also at the school, and we dated and had a passionate romance. I took her to the mountains during the summer and we had a great time. Then the next school year came, and she returned to Paris. She was Catholic, I was not, and she wanted to spend the rest of her life in Paris, and marry a Catholic. I wanted to live in the US. Many years later, we were both married and had children, but we have kept up with each other all these years, not as boy and girl friends, but just as friends. My two daughters, in fact, dated two of her sons when we were visiting in Paris. So all is not over - at the very least, you have a friend in the US whom you may see again ---sometime in the future.
