i hate speaker phone

so my boyfriend went to his moms house tonight, and she gives us money sometimes, well a lot, which i dont really like because i hate the fact that someone else is practically supporting me... anyways well i called him and i was like, "you should try to get some money from your mom tonihgt because we're broke" and he was like, ok , and then he just got home and i was like. " did you get some money from your mom?" and he wasl ike, "no, you know whats funny about that? you were on speakerphone and she heard you" and i was like, "what???" so now i'm freking out because i think she thinks i'm a gold digger or something, and i'm not, and i dunno, i just feel bad because i'm really not like that, i guess i might have gotten used to her giving her money, and i guess i shouldnt have, but anyways now i'm like all freaked out and i was like, i dont want her thinkingi'm a golddigger or something cuz i know your grandma thinks like thta, and he was like "yea she does" and well to make a long story short she thinks i dont need to buy "brand name" clothes and get a better job! whatever!like its her place to say anything first of all, and the only brand names i've bought were before i moved out with my boyfriend, i NEVER go shopping anymore! and then I was like, " i bet she thinks i'm fat too!" to be a smartass and he was like, "well she didnt say THAT!" and i was like well what did she say and he didnt tell me for a while and then he said that she asked if i was exercising!!!!! WTF ok maybe i've gained a few lbs in the past year that i lived with him, and i started drinkingmore, but i dont by all means think i'm fat,and she had the nerve to say something like THAT>???? i'm so pissed. it'se like the night of revelations for me and i was having a good night before he gothome too. wtf

 

ok i just read over that and it looks like a drunk person wrote it. ok well i'm drunk and i felt the need tro explain.

 

ridiculous
I think you need to stipulate that you are told every time you're put on speakerphone.

 

Moms are bitches.

 

I did! and i have told him several times that i hate speakerphone, i brought taht up several times tonght. I really do hate it, and whenever i have someone on speakerphone, which i like never do,, i always tell them.

 

I hate speakerphone too. But it's usually that I'm calling someone and they're broadcasting our conversation to a whole group of people and then they tell me, "Oh you're on speaker phone." .......<_<;

 

I hate speakerphone too. Kari puts me on speakerphone sometimes without my permission, and I hate it. I got her back one time though, because she was singing a song while we were on the phone and I turned speakerphone on and let everyone hear it without her knowing about it.

The only time speakerphone should be used is when phone sex is being had, because it makes things so much easier.

 

insofar as I know, I've only been put on speakerphone once and the dude told me he did it. But that fucker talked way too softly and so I couldn't hear a thing he said. Same with when he had a bluetooth headset dealio, couldn't hear him

 

I believe it's violating to one's privacy and a show of extreme disrespect when you put someone on speakerphone without their previous consent and there are others within earshot of your conversation. You should definitely have a serious talk with your boyfriend so he knows that it's really not cool.

 

I don't like any phones, to many hangup calls.

 

My brother does that to me so he can play his stupid video games...I hate it.

 

Oh, that really sucks!

I hate speakerphone too. Sometimes my little sister will put me on speaker while talking on her cell in the midst of doing other things. I feel like I can't really talk that way. It's not like I'm talking about anything crazy, I just feel exposed. So I usually won't say much while on speaker.

 

My phone is in the kitchen. i only put it on speaker when i want to make something to eat and the cord doesnt reach the fridge/bench etc...but then i gather everything (bread, butter, spreads etc) and take it over to the phone where i then prepare my food, and then make my friend listen to me eat it with lots of "mms", and "ahhs"...ooh yeah, good times!

 

i'm always on speakerphone. apparently people think the stupid crap that comes out of my mouth should be available for public enjoyment.

 

speakerphone can be evil

 

hmm although I think its wrong to be put on spearkerphone without your permission, I think its wrong of you to ask for money because you know you will get it....

I despise people who get everything paid for by their parents. everything I own I bought with my own money....... I see kids around here with brand new cars, and who paid for that?? their parents...... and even some of them got them for an xmas present. geez!

I see these same kids, and they dont know how to work...... they may work a couple days a week, and then take time off cuz they are sick, or they want to party or whatever...... and then they are driving around brand new vehicles, or get a 300 dollar pair of glasses.... or a brand new cellphone. its nuts

I guess what IM saying is, maybe she is right. you should get a job, and not waste your money on designer clothes....

I have a little brother who is in the same predictament....... he spends his money unwisely...... clothes, vacations, trips, alcohol.....

 

I agree with you, I hate people like that, too and I think taht's why I'm so upset about the situation. My parents don't pay for shit for us, and if I need some money from them I always have to pay it back, which is okay, but he is an only child and he is spoiled, and well they do help us out a lot, and I really don't buy brand name things,,, if I do go shopping at all its usually like old navy or someting and even thats very rare. I do have nice stuff but I bought it befroe I had any bills to pay. I bought my car myself, and it's nothing too fancy or anything. But my boyfriend is the one who spends all the money and I really NEVER ask him to ask his mom for money but we are so broke right now, and really need money for like gas and things like that. I also want to add in the fact that his family isn't exactly "rich" I mean they have enough money, but if I was really a gold digger like they think, i'd be running after a doctor or something. I don't know, I guess I just got used to the fact that she helps us out so much, and after this I never want to accept anything from her again, I just feel so horrible, I feel like she thinks every time he asked her for money I was the one telling him to or something, I dont know I hate it. I'm just so mad at him for having the speakerphone on and not telling me, especially around his mom, but I guess most of all I'm mad at myself in the first place for even saying it. I just want to, like apologize to her or something but I wouldnt know what to say. It sucks.

 

argh god I am so sorry that fucking sucks! I would be pissed at your boyfriend if I were you. That's fucked that he put you on speaker phone with his mom there. You seem really nervous about it.

It may have been wrong for you to ask him to ask her for money but it sounded like you were half way joking in a sense.
By the way you are not the least bit fat and you look great so of course you should wear clothes that refelct that. If you work I don't see what reason he or his mother have for criticizing your spending.
Mother-in-law type situation sucks...I like to prolong meeting the parents as much as possible because they either try to push you into marrying their sons or they hate you. There's no in between with them.

 

Just tell her that you are very sorry that she mistook your meaning. That you do not feel they are your personal money tree. Also from now on if ther ever are willing to help the two of you out again that you want an immediate agreement that it is to be paid back asap. That way it is a lone and noy gold digging. Not to be harsh but maybe one of you should get a second job if you are over extended I have had to do that numerous times when we got down on our luck. Then you will not have to ask for money. Now grant it most people would say I am one of those spoiled kids whose parents bought them a car but all my folks do is co sign I am required to make all payments and if money is barrowed it is put on a payment plan to pay it back.

 

my mom loans us money all the time. my baby brother has a time or two as well. you can't help being broke. a little sensitivity is a good thing. but we pay back well, even if the repayment is a long time in coming, it gets there eventually. and we sorta pay interest by doing helpful things for my mother.