I'm not sure if this belongs in the love & sex forum, but there isn't a "fucking crazy x boyfriend" forum, so here goes... As some of you may remember, a little while back my x boyfriend got jealous I was going to see Phish @ SPAC with my current hunny, and when I got home he was there to meet me, ended up smashing my bass, lots of screaming, it wasn't pretty. Anyways, he's discovered me on the hipforums, and so now I either have to A) change my name and hope he doesn't find out what it is or B) not give a fuck, but know that he can read anything I say So what do you think I should do? Just to give you an idea of what a crazy fucking prick this guy is...here's the email he sent me...threatening to 'fuck' my future daugher and all: i just read your posts about me in the hip forums. i just wanted to tell you that you're totally wrong for what you wrote. it was in accurate and you've certainly developed the craft of only mentioning pieces of a story. i'm not sorry for what i did and you're the one who drove me to my brief insanity. but, i'm glad in the end that you did what you did. because if you hadn't, maybe we'd still be together and i would still be blind to how much of a fool you are. you may have lots of stuff to show for yourself in this world but i think you're still just a stupid little girl. congradulations, now you have even more stuff. it really belongs to your man but, you really increased the amount of stuff you have and money you can spend thanks to your incredibly boobus bf. you are a money whore. i'm not afraid to realize that i want the both of you dead and i'm going to have to cope with that notion. i really do hope i never see you again b/c i don't want these horrible things in my head. no matter how crazy you think i "really" was all along, YOU are the one who decided to push me over the edge and i hope you die feeling the pain you inflicted on me. on the other hand, it sure would be nice to see you 5 or 10 years from now when you have a couple babys with you so i can laugh at your situation; an unsatisfied wife who's had only a fraction of the sex she wants and children to show for the times she has. you know that i could've kept you happy and you even proved it to yourself for the brief couple of weeks we had together while you were still fucking him. i could've been the father to your daughter. instead, maybe 20 or so years from now, she'll have the chance to enjoy the cock that schooled you long ago. and when i fuck your hot daughter in that backstage orgy i'll be sure to take good care of her pussy, she'll be in good hands. pray that she never listens to rock'n'roll.
If I were you I'd call the police. That letter may be considered a death threat and you could get a restraining order or something? Sorry...I'm no expert on this stuff. but if I were you I'd call the police and see what they say.
Yeah, I've gone the restraining order route... he doesn't have a permanent residence, he's living out of his car. So the police can't serve him the papers. It's a messed up situation. I think a restraining order would just piss him off more. I can't wait to get out of this state and far away from his crazy ass...
GOOD LORD! Hesounds so much like my ex boyfriend. Stay strong, and realize theres nothing wrong with YOU. YOU don't "make" him feel or do or say ANYTHING. He does that all by himself. His actions of anger and hatred are just reflections of fear he has on the inside. He is AFRAID that he will never find someone as wonderful as you are in his life. That makes him angry and resentful. I say lock him up. Or at least get a restraining order. Or if you wanted to be completely wonderful and kind about it, you could get him some help. But that's also not your problem. His problems are his own, and he has no right to bring anyone, (especially your children) into the mix. You must be so terrified. Keep a good mindset about the whole thing, try and distance yourself from him, and anything that could possibly involve him, in any way. Not neccessarily "running away" from this problem, but retreat. Theres nothing wrong with surrendering a fight you don't need to get involved in. Keep yourself safe. That guy is fucking insane. As far as the changing of your name goes, it's your own judgement call. Keeping it might keep him around lurking in the shadows, reading your every word here on the forums. Changing it might give you a new sense of freedom. Good luck, and God speed.
I doubt you'd get a restraining order with that email alone, for one, he doesn't threaten you he just wished you dead, and in fact states that he never wants to see you again so that he can get that wish out of his head. Even the bit about fucking your daughter wouldn't legally be a problem, because hes advocating having sex with a 20 odd year old, which isn't a problem. So you couldn't get him locked up. Agree he sounds like a total fucking arse however, but i think you just need to leave it - posting that here when you know he reads the forums doesn't help either, it just keeps the situation going, and it makes him aware that he got a reaction - which is precisely what his aim would have been. Don't get me wrong - i am full of sympathy for your situation - i've been out with some psychos in the past, but its all attention seeking, as soon as they aren't getting that attention their interest fades, and you are playing into his hands because now he can tell all his friends that "my psycho ex is posting lies about me on this website, you've gotta see it" - and they'll believe him (assuming he has any friends!), which makes you seem as bad as him. I feel for you.
I was reading your post and his e-mail and yadda yadda. But then I clicked on your gallery, and all I can think of now is: "Good Gawd!! What a nice ass you have."
haha lol. Thanks. Well...I've already got another name set up. I'll probably still post on this name from time to time, but I don't want it hanging over my head that he might be lurking in the shadows. Obviously I can't say what name it is right here...but you'll see me, and my ass, around. Peace.
Oh good! Hey, couldn't you just ask a mod to ban the IP? Certainly that E-mail is evidence enough of a disturbed guy?
Got that's fucked up. He broke your bass! Is this man mad? I hate people like that too. People always fucking cop out on shit like this. What a jackass. Yeah, it's your fault he went off the deep end
crazy crazy guy.. what is up with the guys these days.. sounds just like my ex boyfriend as well. it was always MY fault and I'M the one that brought him to him acting crazy and yet I was the CRAZY one.. people these days i swear..
two words restraining order. one word Stalker. combine the three and you have a perfect case. get the pic.
