Im young.. not even married, sex and loving stays on my mind alot, maybe one reason that im virgin.. havnt experience anything more thn just kissing.. Coming to the point now, for the people who have been with one partner for a long time, must have experience almost everything, n since therez nothing more to explore, doesnt sex n loving get boring, another way of putting it would be, with time.. dont you get bored of ur partners ..??
Well, I'm gonna chime in even if my longest relationship has been 9 months... There are -endless- ways to spice up your sex life. If you can't think of new things to try, new ways to do things, then... man, that's not good.
You could put two passionate, sexy people together who will grow bored, because they're incompatible. Even though some people will call this shallow, I believe sexual compatibility is the most, second most or third most important part of a relationship, and is tied with or just under love and respect. For example, a girl who likes to be whipped will not have much fun with a guy who likes to be whipped... They are both sexually submissive and without being dominated they are sexually and emotionally unfulfilled. Another example of incompatability is when one, say the man for example is only or almost only into anal and the girl finds this excessively painful. They will do vaginal, he will be bored, she will feel his lack of passion and there relationship will mean nothing. Basically, what I'm saying is you don't just have to be inventive, but compatible as well, especially with sex. For example, being a male submissive, in future relationships I will require all my partners to be female dominants. I don't think that's having high standards, as a dull sex life will only hurt both partners in the long run.
You really do have to have compatibility. In more then in just the bedroom though. I have been married for almost 4 years and with the same person for 10 years. Nothing makes passion in the bedroom more dull then to spend a day on the outs with your partner over not having thing in common on a daily basis. Such as you like to go out be social on a normal level and he wants to be a hermit or vice versa. You or they get home and want to be hot and heavy in the sack after someone has been crushed over the lack or similar intrest of day to day life there is no fun in sex. Now you hit a happy medium on that issue and get a few new in bed experiences going and your all set for restoked hot bedroom life. But one thing we have learned if the partner is willing to try something for the other you can learn to enjoy lots of new things that spice it up there for never growing board!
I have been married to the same woman 23 years. Yes occasionally the sex does get boring. Sometimes we go a couple months without having sex. On the flip side, occasionally the sex is REALLY FUCKING HOT and we can not keep our hands off each other and we have sex 2 or 3 times a day. Mostly, it is somewhere in between those two spots.
My husband and I never get boring to each-other. Maybe it's because we're a young couple, but I doubt it. After a while, you don't go out of your way to have mind-blowing sex whenever you can. Some nights, it's just a fuck. Some nights, it's REALLY like "Okay, you're gonna lay there and I'm gonna take advantage of you and it's gonna be over in 2.5 minutes and then we'll fall asleep." We do what we want, when we want. If we just want to get laid, we let each-other know that. If we want to do something a bit more, we say so. Maybe that seems boring because it isn't incredibly spontaneous, but it works for us.
Been married for 28 years--the sex is the best it has ever been--time, commitment, love, trial and error, compromise, willingness--it all plays a part in a long term committed monogamous relationship. Wouldn't have it any other way. It's when, how, what, where we want it at this point.
