Okay, there is this guy who goes to my school who I have a crush on. I think that he his so cool and so down to earth. Well he's Muslim and I think that in that religion, the men are not to have a partner until marriage so I've never seen him with a girl nor has he mentioned anything about liking a girl. Well when I talk to him I sense that he might be gay but I'm not going to just ask him because then he will know that I am gay. But he has a nice style of dressing and he was talking about growning our his hair to be long and if he was to do that, he would look gay but sometimes when someone mentions something about gays, he acts as if he's disgusted. I dont know if its an act but I think so since I, myself, and acting the same. I dont know if I'm just obsessing but I think he kinda likes talking to me. Is there any other way to know if he is gay or not?
No. If you don't ask it's pretty unlikely to ever find out. You know from your own situation that it's fairly easy to hide that aspect of your life. When he acts discussed toward Gay's it could be very real or just a show. Muslims are not a Gay tolerant group, although the same hipocracy that every religious group also works for them. I have had a couple of different guys who were Muslim and were very Gay. They were in a constant conflict within themselves over what their religion talked and what their bodies/minds craved. Finally ended up being too weird of a head trip to mess with them. Probably the best you can do is develop a friendship first. Talk to each other...find out what each of you values, what guides your life. That may give you a better sense of where he's at with his sexuality. Good luck, Steve
