There is this guy that I've been dating since last Summer. He went to was in another part of the country just before xmas & flew back xmas day evening. Up until the day he was leaving he said that he was going to fly into Milwaukee. I intended to surprise him by being @ the airport when he landed & kept asking him for flight details but didn't specificlly say that I was planning on going there at all. This was a surprise, right? Well anyhow. The day he left he sent me an E-Mail with the itinerary. I printed the thing off & stuck it in my purse. When I read it later that evening I skipped to the second page where the time was for arrival & made my plan according to that. Xmas day comes & I'm in my Ms. Santa dress as I hop a bus @ 5:30PM putting me in the airport in Milwaukee 7:30pm with some time to spare since his iterary said he landed 8:454PM. 8:00PM he text messages me saying he landed. I was sitting near the concourse where the airline he was supposed to be on & it looked like everyone was off the plane that had just landed. "HMMM," I say to myself, "I hope that he's OK maybe I should go down nearer the gate." But instead I decided to call him. He kind of grumbled to me when I asked if he was in Milwaukee & told me that he landed in Chicago. He had changed the flight actually twice. The itinerary he sent me did say that he landed in Chicago but it was still a different time because of his second change. OK, I love a good irony & tried to look at this with the best light. The thing is he was acting mad at me & said he didn't know how to go from Chicago to Milwaukee before I could even have a chance to say anything else. I suggested that he follow the signs that say Milwaukee & once there follow the signs that say Mitchel Field Airport. I was a little miffed that it seemed like he was playing dumb but still used my calm voice & when we were at a meeting tonight I still don't think that he knows have any issues. If you look at a map it really wouldn't be very far out of his way if at all to go directly north from Chicago rather than veer west to get to Madison where we live. I didn't talk to him Tuesday & had no intention of contacting him but he E-Mailed so I replied. All of our exchanges were brief but no angry terms were used. I could tell that he didn't really want to communicate any more than I did though. He scolded me for going without knowing he was going to be there. I replied that he never has to worry about my meeting him unannouced at an airport again. & we didn't communicate until tonight. When I talked with him tonight & mentioned that it was too bad we didn't connect he acted mad at me. I'm really upset now. I ended up having to get a shuttle to downtown Milwaukee because the bus line that I came on had the last arrival for the night when I go there & catch another bus line back to Madison. He is acting like he was the one put out & ending up spending more than twice what intended in my attempt to give him a what I thought would be a nice surprise. It seems more like I just figurativly kicked in the teeth. Am I wrong to be upset? I'm not blaming him for changing flights without telling me. I do think that a real gentleman would make the effort to pick a girl up when she had gone to the wrong airport since it wasn't really out of his way. Am I wrong thinking about that too?
Wow, well they say that you can get to know a person's character during rough times ( day in this case). Were all human after all. Tantrums, bad days, what matters is you should talk about that issue and fix it fast. Goodluck __________________ Australian Job Listing
hmmm.... so you went to the wrong airport, but didn't tell him your plans, and then you expected him to come get you? And you got mad at him when he didn't want to come rescue you from your own mistake? Sounds like you have this maiden in distress thing going on, and he doesn't want to be your prince charming. Are you always this needy?
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But if a good friend of mine regardless of relationship status had done something as nice as this for me but ended up in an airport that for all practical perposes I was going by or anyway could with slight diversion I would most certainly do this for them. On top of all that I don't see what he had to be pissed at when I first called him. That added to my negative feeling an awful lot. Added to that he has been such a grumpy bear since that I'm really feeling like he is mad at me for trying to give him a nice surprise. Piucture this if you will well, you may have to put yourself in a role of someone that is attracted to women too but anyhow. You have had a long flight you expect that you are going to be landing then having an hour or more to drive before you get home alone. When you get past the gates you see someone that you consider a hot babe dressed in a sexy Ms. Santa dress who you have had some great times with & consider a friend; who many that know the two of you think are going steady. What is to get pissed @? If it were one or the other I may not be as upset.
Not that I don't want guys opinions I just went where I thought I could talk about it. Here's fine too. Thanks
it's hard to know what to say. looking at your age I'm assuming he is roughly the same age (not the wisest thing to do). there maybe extenuating circumstances as to why he didn't care to meet you. how long had he spent that day travelling. he's getting back on xmas evening - did he have prior commitments with family etc etc? my personal take is that if I ended up at the wrong place in trying to meet someone, then I'd have to take responsibility for that and make it back to town myself. it's not as if the other person knew about the surprise nor can you blame him for not keeping you informed about the changes to travel. chalk it up to a bad set of cirumstances. you may not have argued with him in so many words but both your actions since the incident suggest that you both have issues that need worked out.
