Shorter boyfriend.. experiences? Thoughts?

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  1. grim_rebel

    grim_rebel Member

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    I'm about 5'6, my girl's slightly taller. I really didn't care. What is there to do? We love each other and that's it. Though I did buy a pair of timb's but that's because I like them I swear!
     
  2. Nightenchantress

    Nightenchantress Member

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    I had a boyfriend once that was about 4 inches shorter than I.
    Only had one problem.
    I went to the movie theatre and someone asked me what my "little brother's" name was.
    He was so embarassed.
     
  3. cyberislanddude

    cyberislanddude Member

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    I'm 5.6" tall guy and my short stature had always been an impediment for achieving poise and self-confidence. It was about two years ago that I met my wife and we almost instantly made connection. She is about half an inch shorter than me but I would always feel a little insecure whenever she wore sandals. This would make her look much taller than myself. Not that anything wrong with that but society collectively feeds us with some stereotypes and a guy shorter than a woman would always raise eyebrows. My wife (who back then was my girlfriend) was conscious of myself being a little uneasy. She started coaching me on improving my dress coordination and also suggested that I should try wearing those walktall shoes. Doing a little research myself I gathered some info on stretching exercises. Although it’s true that exercises will not make you grow taller but it definitely helped me improve my posture. We certainly have more height hidden behind our slouched back and shabby dressing than we ever realize. There are some very basic stretching exercises and vertical fashion techniques that together can make a noticeable improvement in your height. And lastly it’s all a matter of perception. It all boils down to how we perceive ourselves. A better height can add to our confidence, but again, it’s our mind that perhaps makes us insecure. Some short dudes possess endless energy that makes their presence much taller than their height. You can follow the link below to get more info on posture exercises and some basic visual height enhancement techniques:

    http://www.walktallshoes.com/grow-taller.html



    Good luck
     
  4. dspiel

    dspiel Member

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    I'm 5'1, which poses some interesting issues. First, I'm just generally used to people being taller than me, so if I had to be taller than the girl.... while, it's statistically hard to find first off, but second of all, it's kind of weird to me to be taller than someone! :p

    Practically, though, I assume a life partner would be close in height to me. Something tells me that just for everyone's comfort, there would be a fair amount of weirdness surrounding me being with someone vastly taller. Everyone I've dated has been taller, although not by much; they ranged about 5'2-5'5 or so.

    There's definitely a burden to overcome at this height. But it's funny, most people seem to forget I'm short after a while. or conversely, I've had people who never realized it--classmates who only interacted with me at desks and said "I never realized you were short--you've got such a large personality." So there you have it. 5'1, no Napoleon complex, but definitely a lively persona.
     
  5. lovebird

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    i'm 5'9 so i'm use to it, the tallest guy i've dated was an inch shorter then me
     
  6. akhc

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    I don't have a problem with it (5'9 here) but I wouldn't want to date someone who was over 6 feet in heels. tallest girl I dated for a time was 5'11 and the few occasions she as 3 inch heels it did look a little strange to me.

    as an aside the time I really found it most awkward was making love. some positions are just so much trickier with a taller lady!
     
  7. WhisperingWoods

    WhisperingWoods too far gone

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    I'm 5'6" and .. it's a bummer, to me. I've realized that it narrows down my selection of girls for whatever reason. So that kind of sucks, but height isn't everything. I've dated taler girls, but something just isn't right. I'm attracted to smaller, more petite ones, anyhow. I guess it doesn't really matter, hahah
     
  8. fistermister

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    OMG that is so terrible.
     
  9. fexurbis

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    I'm 5'6" too and it definitely limits my array of choices. I've dated a few women who were taller than me, one of 'em being 5'10" and I didn't let it bother me much.

    My girlfriend of 3 years was also taller than me by a couple inches, and we got a couple of looks and comments. But the fact is that we deviate from the norm in so many ways concerning behavior and dress, that the height issue was just one more social pressure to contend with.

    I have to say I'm a little resentful and scornful toward women who feel they should be shorter than the guy. I know there is a lot of expectations out there and that can make you feel awkward, but I also feel this stuff about feeling protected and shorter/weaker than the guy feeds into women's oppression and position of inferiority in society.
     
  10. Rigamarole

    Rigamarole Senior Member

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    I was once with a girl who was only 4" tall. Yes, that's four inches tall.

    Here she is.

    Ah, Cinderella, I knew ye well. Dreamy, isn't she?
     
  11. Boogabaah

    Boogabaah I am not here

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    i'm 5'1". big elf is 5'6". i LOVE that when he's talking to me i can look him straight in the eyes and not have to bend my neck to look up at some bigfoot.
     

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