I tried and I tried but ive had it!

I dont know what THE HELL is wrong with me. Im sick of pleasing guys then theyre off with another girl or theyre just over me . Nobody willl talk to me, not even my ex! And we're so close to each other. I have no one to think about or be there for, i just get screwed over every fucking time. its so lame. I dont know what els to do but just wait, wait for "him" to show up. I hate guys....

 

u're 16, u have been waiting for what? 10 minutes?
guys dont suck, and u'll be happy with one of them one day. dont let them abuse u.

 

That's too bad My friend is feeling quite the same way right now, she has a daughter and guys just come and go, come and go. Oh well, if you deserve the right one you two will meet eventually

 

Take some time off and figure out who you are. In unhealthy relationships like you've (sort of) described, we tend to lose parts of who we are and forget what's really important in life and what we really enjoy.

Take this time to do some soul searching.

 

if it werent for crappy people, we would never know how lucky we are when we find the right person... hang in there!

 

In what sense do you mean "pleasing guys"? Because one way to read it is that you're sexually pleasing them... In which case my advice would be to slow down, get to know a guy and develop a friendship before becoming physical. I have yet to see a relationship that started with sex (before getting to know one another really) ever become anything good.

Why do you need someone else to think about? Why not focus on your own hobbies? Because, the other way I would read the "pleasing guys" bit is that you become way too suffocating, doing everything that they want, and not showing much personality of your own. Which is equally bad -- no guy worth having wants a girl like that. The guys I've met who did want to date someone like that were assholes who wanted a woman they could use as a doormat. The guys who are worth having want a woman with a personality and interests of her own.

So stop waiting and go do something for yourself -- learn a new hobby, take up a new sport, work on your platonic female friendships, etc.

As long as you're sitting around waiting, any guy worth having is highly unlikely to take any interest in you.

 

I agree with Dancer Annie....take some time to do some soul searching. Figure out who you are and what you want in a partner.

At 16 you have a lifetime ahead of you, and in that time you will date pretty much every kind of man there is; jerk, mommas boy, bad boy, and so on. One day when you least expect it you will find a man that likes you for who you are. Stop trying to please the men you date.....just be yourself and if they don't like it then they aren't the person you need in your life.

 

True True but I dont please them sexuality if you're thinking that. I please them to make them happy because they made me happy and once I do that, its saying bye bye anbd i have no clue why...another thing...im VERY VERY cautious about sex, with AIDS and all so thats why I dont usually jump into every guy like my friends do, when i do meet a guy..then another...having fun perhaps...does that include sex? Cause once i have sex with a guy, i get really close to him. so im not a cold hearted swinger....i broke up with my bf so i can have fun, explore different guys...but im still cautions about sex and i dont wanna get as close....whats some things we can do i guess a little sexual without the sex? sounds confusing but this is my mind!

 

OK, we need to get your thoughts in order so that some of the smart experienced women on here can give you the type of advice that you are looking for.

First off: You said that you make them happy and aren't talking about sex. Could you please give us an example? It seems you are saying after you do "this" then they leave you. So what have you been doing to please them? We need to know that in order to help you figure out why they are leaving you.

Secondly...could you translate this "sentence" into English for us? --> "im VERY VERY cautious about sex, with AIDS and all so thats why I dont usually jump into every guy like my friends do, when i do meet a guy..then another...having fun perhaps...does that include sex?" <--what?

Thirdly: Guys at your age are into getting laid and getting blow jobs. They will use girls until they get what they want and then they will move on. Also, don't expect to be friends with your x-boyfriends. Most of us don't have girls as friends. We have girls that we have slept with and girls that we haven't slept with yet. Not to mention you broke up with your boyfriend to have fun and explore other guys. Why would he still want to talk to you?

Lastly: I guess the answer to your last question is oral sex. However, it is not going to make you happy. Most of these guys will just be on their way after you give them a blow-job.

Suggestion: Go find the biggest dork at you entire school. Try and build a friendship with him. The reason that I say this is that at 16 he may be one of the only people that can give you what you are looking for.