girls...would you date someone w/std's?

MeMiles, such ignorance is indeed dangerous. "insignificant STDs" Get a grip! How insignificant is cervical and larnyx cancer? You mentioned herpes, but primarily i was talking about HPV. Unfortunately, few people understand HPV and the hazards, especially when it comes to fellatio and vector transmission to cervical cancer. Tell my friend who was born with HPV in her throat and has had over a dozen opperations growing up. Tell my other friend who had herpes so bad she could not work for weeks. These are serious issues that are very confusing and poorly understood by the general public. When someone demonstrates that they are making assumptions that are contrary to the current state of knowledge, i like to help correct the public record. It is one way i can give back. I appologise for any unkind tone in that correction.
HPV and HSV are both incurable and definitely not insignificant pathogens. There are no tests that can tell you that you do not carry these viruses. Education and safer sex practices are our only hope to slow this epidemic. The pressent fallatious assumption by many that fellatio is relatively safe has helped to explode the HPV infection rate. That is a lot of cervical and larnyx cancer that the next generation could avoid. Not to mention warts etc.

Insignificant huh, i bet you are quite the pathogen spreader ther MeMiles if that is the way you think. I spred HPV to those i loved out of ignorance. I would love to help at least one person not make the same mistake i did. Cervical cancer sucks and often comes from sucking!

Jim

 

thats fine.

 

Well the problem is that many people don't even know if they have STD's. If you want to be sure, you'd have to test your partner, you just can't take anyone's word. But not too many people will run to the clinics just for dating.

 

Well... You can date someone without actually letting them touch you in any way, including kissing. Although I believe that gains such lovely titles like 'prude' and 'ice queen'. =S
I myself would have to say no, simply because I wouldn't want to become attached to someone who could make me unhealthy.

 

As I see it, Firelip made several good points. Others here have made several good points about love not getting in way of dis-ease were still others just flat out won't do it. I applaude you all

Anyway, to my own, I'd say I wouldn't remain comfortable enough to date someone with a known dis-ease. Love them as friends, I could do yes but not as lovers.

Having said that, I once had an sexual relationship w/ a gentleman w/ herpes. Though it was dormant, he and I practiced safe sex and actually had a good time but eventually, my own chickness lead me to break it off perm.
We talk here and there plus I still shop at his pagan store though cause they have rad shit I don't have to pay shipping for

 

Yeah, I would. As long as they were honest and we were safe about it or knew the consquences.

 

yay for real people who aren't self centered.

 

YAY! lol i agree. Mean people suck.

 

Not a lady, but I'll answer anyway.

Depends on what the STD is and how I feel about the person. If it's curable, sure, but treatment would have to come before sex. Incurable... that really depends on how much I like the person. I don't know if I would turn away a really great person if he had a nasty disease. I could see myself dating somebody who was HIV+ as far as my own health is concerned, the prospect of losing him would be far worse. I've never had to deal with that situation, though, and I hope I don't have to.

 

honestly... i cant help who i fall in love with..... and i fell in love with someone who had an std id be taken aback but hey, it happens to the best.... approximately 60% of people have herpes and are unaware of it....... a stunning 70-90% of people are living with HPV and dont know it..... the chances of contracting one of these viruses during your lifetime is like 70 %......... so i mean... come on....... you're suddenly not going to love someone you fell in love with b/c they have an std...... bullshit........

 

I sound like a douche but I just couldn't do it. STDs are one of those things in life that just really really gross me out, and I guess I'm an asshole for it.

 

Unless you only date virgins or get ever date to take a bloodtest every month for 6 months or so BEFORE you have sex with them then how would you know.
Have u ever dated anyone that had been in the military? ALOT of GI's have gotten some type of STD and have a "don't ask, don't tell" policy or they may not even know themselves.

Now what happens if you are dating someone for a year or so, and then they start getting sick so they decide to go to the doctors and go thru lots of tests, and after loving them for a year or so, they then find out they have a STD....now what do you do?

 

haha i jut thught this thread needed to be brought back up just bcuz of firelip ignorance