Ok, where to start... In July, my then girlfriend and I decided we would try to go for an open relationship.. We made a great team, but we stopped being a great couple... We were wonderful companions to each other and we always admitted that, not only did we need something we weren't getting from each other, we were getting something that only we could give each other... We we both went off to get some sex.. I can't put it any better than that! She came back from her meeting with an online guy with pure hatred in her eyes, made my life a misery and pushed me out onto the street.. I was homeless for a couple of weeks before she agreed to let me back in the house until I found somewhere of my own... But I was furious, furious forever, and with the help of an online friend, started hatching my plan of revenge... My friend started flirting with this guy, and I accessed my ex's mobile chat account to leave amusing messages for him from her "I know it's only tiny, but I can't wait to see your willy again ;-)".. My friend played her part to perfection, and sure enough, he dumped her a few weeks later.. I think they met once more.. Our aim was to split only these two up, and I had no problem with my ex going off looking for guys that weren't responsible for our break up.. Then things got complicated, and even now, we're expecting things to get messy.. HE FELL IN LOVE WITH HER! She's been so brave in putting up with his dumb chat up techniques, his attempt at cyber sex, and relentless attemts to start a serious relationship.. But we turned it all into a game... Three times he travelled the 200 miles to meet her, and three times she never turned up.. Once, she even went to the pub to actually see him from a distance.. And totally repulsed was she.. We reckon we made him spend £400 (approx. $750) in train fares, hotels and booze.. We kept an eye on my ex's love life.. She met somebody else and seems to be truly in love again.. And very happy! So the time came to get rid of this life wrecker, who has the morals and loyalty of Satan Himself! Part two of our plan kicks in.. And she tells him that she is in love with ME!!! We've spent hours and hours on the phone making sure everything is perfectly believable. ............. Only neither of us planned part three.. The ultimate Cupid Stunt... We're actually falling in love with each other! I was quite happy "faking" a meeting to piss both my ex and Satan off.. Then my friend suddenly said "Why don't you actually come?".. Besides the plotting, the overtly sexual nature our friendship is taking, and the moral support we're been offering each other since July... She is starting to feel like my soulmate... She has the Bitch-thing going for her that I seriously need to connect with.. I'm sick of wimps that can't or don't tell it to me straight and don't stick up for themselves.. We were up all night, for 8 hours, on the phone to each other on Saturday night, and the conversation didn't fade once... We drank together, got drunk together, and plans are now of how I can help her to deal with suddenly having to care for her sister's 4 kids after she ran out on them.. I've not always liked the game we played, and it's not quite over yet, but the happy ending that seems to be waiting for us is more than worth the Hell we've put two people through.. Oh, and Satan, after promising to one day break my legs, wants to take us both out for a drink! It's weird, but neither of us wants to end this game, and if people are stupid enough not to knpw when to quit, I think we'll just fuck his mind up a little more.. This is definately the most interesting and fun time of my life for such a long time!!!! EDIT: I don't drive, so have had to book a coach seat to travel the 200+ miles to her town, which I've literally just done!
topnotch, i've got to say i was thinking exactly the same thing.... this sounds like a pretty crummy situation....not to mention pretty fucked up from all sides, from what i can tell
Eh, can understand the reasons ya did a lot o' that stuff...still...pretty nasty things happening there...
Same here man, haha I had NO idea what kind of a thread I was getting myself into when I saw the title. I dont know if I'll ever be the same after reading this insanity.
right. manipulative....deceitful.....just fucked up..... who's to say if its justified or not...i sure don't know....but its fucked up either way!
Very nice o' her to let you back in...she didn't have to, considering you'd agreed it was over and she'd met someone new. Good of her to take pity on you despite your attitude. Anything with the word revenge in has gotta turn out bad... Quite apart from being completely illegal it's just kinda pathetic...I know kids in college who have grown out of that kind of thing. Probably one of the only bits of kindness you did...saving your ex the pain of being with someone who would flirt around and such with someone else. So how can you justify her finding one person more attractive and kind and sensitive than you and splittting them up, and then when she finds somoene else that's nicer than you you're fine with it? Especially seeing as you were breaking up anyway. I'm guessing you mean he fell in love with your 'friend'. Well what's the surprise? That was your aim all along. Just think about it... I'm sure it was terrible, and yet you didn't even think to spare your friend from getting involved in your problems...not wanting her to get hurt. If you're trying to hurt someone and screw up their life you have got to expect SOME consequences. Yeah. Sounds like a GREAT game. To think, most people just play cards, or a computer game...you screw peoples lives up for fun, make them spend a lot of money just for a cheap thrill...musta given you a great feeling to have messed around with someone so much, to hurt someone that deeply, such a great high. I'm amazed he still came after the first few times, silly how people want to trust isn't it? You decided to stop after costing him £400 then? Didn't want to go for a nice round £1000? Maybe bankrupt him for a few more laughs? Aww, isn't that sweet...no seriously...I'm glad for her. Wait a sec...I thought you'd already split up with your ex? Or by getting rid of the life wrecker do you mean you were moving even further away? ... ...and he believed her?! Aww...how quaint, setting up your next prank to ruin someone's life...must have been delightful conversations. ............. You sound perfect for each other...I guess ruining someone's love life can just add that spark to a romance, brings people together. Ha! I can believe that. Poor kids. You didn't always like it? Yet you kept playing your 'game'. Really. Hmm... Oh yes, putting people through living Hell deffinately justifies your own personal satisfaction. Most people just chat to each other and talk to build up their relationships...well...each to their own. I'd PAY to see that. Aww, maybe that'll be your honeymoon. A guy wants to make up and forgive you, he's trying to be nice and all, and you just want to fuck his mind up more...yet a moment ago you said you didn't like what you've been doing, from my view you seem to be loving yourself. I almost feel sorry for you if THAT is exciting for you. Oh wow. Big deal. So thrilling.
Wesley.. This is the True Confessions forum, so I say what I want fully aware that I'm going to get shit for it, and thank fuck I don't have to feel offended by your useless contradictory comments.. But as if my opening post wasn't descriptive enough, I'll reply to you.. She threw me out without wondering where I might end up.. I wish I'd be proud enough, or able to turn her "pity" down.. And the pity you are iamgining looked more like giuilt from where I was standing.. It's human nature to blur the difference between revenge and retribution.. One is fuelled by anger, the other by disclosure.. Yet still we easily ignore the purpose of what we do, and anger plays two roles.. Illegal? Actually, it probably is now.. But really... Why live as adults all the time just because of how many years we have behind us? Why get drunk if we are going to be in control of what we do? Why even have standards of behaviour if we're not going to slip up and act irrationally from time to time? Haha!!! Not really. Or if it was, I admit it wasn't intended to be an act of kindness.. I hate the word "revenge" and I can't remember using it in my opener, but when I finally tell her what and why I did what I did, the words "revenge" and "kindness will not be said anywhere.. This was about my anger, and needing to do something to feel like I'd redressed a wrong.. I didn't act on my emotions for either based on their qualities.. I wasn't happy at seeing her with the guy she left me for... My reaction to the whole bed-hopping thing is not so irrational, but my hatred of the person she lept to is pretty understandable, isn't it? I thought I said that we would let it happen precisely like that, despite me warning her that we would have to do it all over again, and that it would get messy.. This was, and I kinda lost sight of this fact, a great act of kindness by my friend.. Yes, it was misguided.. Must of this whole saga has been misguided.. But the timing, and her determination not to see him run back to my ex kept upping the ante.. The only reason we felt bad was because we were exposing him as being a very pathetic person, whose only thoughts for 5 months were of choosing between 4 women.. His life revolved around making sure he would not be left without a woman for all his courting.. I've seen my dad do it when I was a kid, and it's ugly to watch.. I'm not denying I have a vindictive side, but this was aimed at one person.. And that one person didn't actually do anything out of trust.. His behaviour was guided by lust.. I deliberately kept ages out of this until now, but my ex is 53, this guy is 44, I'm 39 and my friend is 26.. Two of the other women that he hoped to "have" were 23 and 24.. I'm sorry, but that kind of life is my dad all over again, and I don't have a problem with people making fun of him, either men... You'll have figured out that I still talk to my ex then.. Yes, I am truly happy for her.. I know she doesn't know why things happened the way they have, but she is alot happier now than she has been for along time, even her time with me.. And because of that, we also get along better too.. She never tells him who I am.. Not the truth anyway.. I look after the dogs when she goes to see him, and she passes me off as her half-brother We are where we will be for the rest of our new-found friendship.. This is why we decided he was being so pathetic.. How many times do you want me to admit that this whole things was childish? ............. Or even guiding it to something more realistic.. I don't do weakness anymore.. After years thinking the meek were the ones with more substance and honesty, I'm realising that it's not a quality but a burden.. We began to realise he may not survive what we were doing.. But she soon hated him more than even I... I'm sure I explained that we were talking about our lives as well.. She might be crazy, but she's made it clear than she would not be inviting me to meet her based on one aspect of our freindship.. Ah, you'd only end up asking for a refund.. I'll reply to both.. Do you really believe he was "being nice" by inviting us for a drink with him? Can you blame us for wanting to show him that he didn't have a chance with her? We haven't said yes to him yet, and there is no way we will until we know what he's up to.. After spending 18 months listening to people pour their hearts out, and rip out mine, maybe ANYTHING would be exciting! Sorry mud, I love you really.. Even when I don't want to... Like I said, this is True Confessions.. Most confessions are about things we've done that we shouldn't have..
It didn't used to be anywhere near the most important code I lived by.. But I find my life stays within my control far better if I'm able to seek personal compensation.. This is hard to explain, but, rightly or wrongly, I need the strength that being manipulative gives me...
You are really considering meeting someone who you have been toying with and that you don't really know. That sounds like a good way to be killed by some psycho. I don't really even see what you have against him. You let your women go out and fuck other men. Then SHE decides he is a better man then you. Then YOU decide to fuck him over. I think you are the bad person here all the way around. If you don't want other men sticking their dicks in your girlfriend maybe you should have just been the man she needed to start with. I don't understand why people think that their spouses are out fucking others but love them. You didn't love her, she didn't love you. I would drop the whole thing at this point before you get your ass beat or killed.
You know I have nothing but love for you! You boys have lots of time for this back and forth bullshit....and you push each others buttons for a woman, how very romantic. I don't see why you and the Ghost can't love her in your own ways without the bitterness. Imagine falling in love with your partner in crime and becoming an instant Dad! Thats the stuff of dreams. I wish you and your welsh lady nothing but happiness and good times and some kink if that's also your wish!
Beat? Why is there a misunderstanding that meeting, or threatening to start a relationship with somebody online is any more dangerous than any other way of starting a relationship? Anybody can lie, even the co-worker you have your eye on down the aisle! Nobody thinks anything of picking somebody out of a bar and gradually getting to know them (I'm being old-fashioned for you all here!).. Hm.. I just realised you could have been talking about the guy we pissed off.. But we thought about it, and even the very British tradition of bringing 10 lads to beat the shit out of one guy (and girl?) isn't going to happen.. As for your comments that I didn't quote, I consider myself very entitled to be pissed off that my ex changed the rules to suit her when she didn't like the taste of our spice..
:hurray: I think about the whole process of dating alot.. And we always meet people when they are at their best and most interesting.. It's really hardly surprising that our game got our juices flowing the way they did! But how do we come down from that? How do we move on from it? I seriously do not want to make a habit of crushing people - and that was often what we wanted to do here - and sure, I'm nervous that I've been feeding her addiction without realising it.. And yes, the desire to try my best to build a lasting relationship with this lady has much to do with uncomplicating her life a little.. I know many of you will disagree, but I think she deserves to find peace and stability.. Hell, in an unorthadox way, I've already given it to my ex! There's not alot I can say about the rivallry thing.. Two of us seem to realise that there's an awful llot of tongue-in-cheek stuff going on, and all three of us find a way to rise above our comments. At least I always thought so...
Yep. Why do you think this? Its very possible he has revenge in mind. Just like you. I agree you have reason to be pissed at your ex who changed the rules but you really have no right to be pissed at him. She picked him. Why continue to toy with him? I think you are just kinda pissed that she liked him better so you set out to prove you are better. Its not going to accomplish anything anyway.
