My parents want me to get A grades and live up to their expectations

Im in school at the moment and ive left compulsory education last year and im 16 in my exams i did 10 subjects and got 5 A , 1 A* , 1 B and 3 C grades my parent thinks its not too good enough im studying chemistry, biology and pshcology, geography at the moment which are all very hard I want to do medicine in later life, basically if I dont get A or B grades in my subject my mum becomes unhappy and my dad gets angry and says that I have a brain the size of an insect and that Im so dumb and thick thats what basically my parents say they never really praise me even when I get a good grade such as a B or above and says yeah its an ok grade still need to better.

The thing is just all my cousin and her sisters are clever, one of my cousin did 10 subects at school in her exams she got 8 A* and 2 A's, Im surrounded by a geek family, one of my cousins is a doctor, and the other is a dentist nurse, and one of them is studying to do medicine.

My dad wants me to be like him go to university and get a PHD, study maths and chemistry just because he enjoys it i hate maths and im so crap at it! he is always going on about *like daughter like father * and saying that why am I kind of the dumb one in the family when Ive got clever cousins and parents. I hate it ive got exams coming up and it feels like i dont have a life its just REVISE REVISE! when everyone else is having fun

 

Is this a rant or are you looking for help? What is the purpose of this thread?

 

Stop complaining and do your homework... NOW!!!

 

Your parents want you to do good in school because they want a solid future for you. I know you can't see it now but you should be thankful your parents even care how you do.

If you need help in your C subjects ask for it. C is good but your parents believe you could achieve much higher than that. They believe in you.

 

I have another thought...

What do you want to do with yourself when you get out of school?

Maybe if you talked with your Mom and Dad and told them when they push you to be what they want you to be it pushes you further from that goal. The choices your Dad wants you to make are high paying jobs. He wants you to be set for life and not struggle. That is why he is pushing you.

 

I have a friend. Both of his parents are university educated (his mother has her Masters; his father has his PhD and is a professor at the local uni). They put heaps of pressure on him to go to uni (he did engineering). He hated it. Eventually he dropped out and got an apprenticeship with the Air force.... I'm not sure what the point of this story is, but is seemed relevant.

 

Umm... I think this is the wrong forum? But just because relatives get good grades doesn't mean they're smart. Everyone is good at different things. Some people suck at traditional school and can build an engine without even breaking a sweat. Other people would rather live in books than work with people. Everyone's good at something - find what you love and focus on that.

 

I thought you were going to say if you dont do well enough at school your mom wont let you have sex with anyone. But no, that post and this thread just dont go. :S

 

lol ^^

Yeah my parents always tell me its for my good and they want me to have a well earned job so i dont suffer i have exam in 2 weeks major exams if i fail them im dead :'( i want to be a doctor but the problem is i cant get my butt of this laptop i am addicted

Yesterday my mum hided the wires so i couldnt go on the computer lol which i guess was a good thing because i ended up revising im not supposed to be even on the computer now my mum and sister has gone shopping so i sneaked onto the computer lol my dad doesnt care how much revision i do

But i need help! please can someone tell me what i can do so i dont go on the computer

 

Focus...Being away from your studies will add stress when you do decide to study for the exam. Exams are stressfull. I think everyone who has ever taken them feels some of what you are feeling. You are not alone.

Limit yourself to computer time. Self-discipline. Put a timer next to it and get off when it goes off. The computer will always be there for you.

After exams reward yourself with computer time.


Sounds like you do have good parents. One day you'll see what they are trying to do for you and hopefully you'll appreciate it. (especially if you ever have children)

 

Please know that checking up on forums, email and such are not a terrible thing in itself. It's only when it starts to interfere with your work and other responsibilities. So now, take out another sheet of paper EVERY MORNING.

Do you have them now? Pencil and paper. Good.

On this Morning Sheet, write down ALL the things you will accomplish from cleaning your toilet, to writing a dissertation, to studying for your MCAT. Okay, a little too soon for that, but you get the idea. Write down everything that you need to do that day. I personally like to draw small checkboxes for fun next to each item, and call me a dork, but it feels soooo good checking each one off as I go through my day.

You'll need breaks while you go about your work and errands, try to focus your breaks on a walk to the park, on your pet if you have one, listen to some music on your ipod or computer. It's fine to go to the computer, just make sure you do the things on your list. Write down the chapters you need to go through and think carefully about the *time* you will need for each chapter.

When you're finished with each chapter, tell it back to yourself like a story. Sounds dumb, right? I promise you that if you can tell it to yourself several times and are confident you have all the information in that chapter, you will do better than you expect.

Have your Morning Sheet/To Do List with you all the time. Know that if you do not finish what's on that sheet (please be realistic with the number of things to do though!) tomorrow it will be doubly or triply hard to complete the things you need to do.

I don't recommend cutting off the computer severely. This will make you want it even more, psychologically. Use it in moderation. But remember this is NOT really about the computer (the way I see it). It's more about you not prioritizing or writing down and completing (thoroughly) what you need to do in your day. Otherwise, why the guilt?

Now go. Make that TO DO LIST ! And do not stray from it. One track mind.

 

Listen to your parents; they know what's best for you.