Porn sucks.

I suppose I'm being ridiculous, but I absolutely hate it when my man watches porn. It makes me feel so inadequate, so disgusted. I don't know why. I never used to feel this way. But lately, it's been upsetting me to no end. I've brought it up multiple times, and he just says, "Well you're asking me an impossible thing. I can't stop masturbating." ...I only asked him if he could just abstain from porn. Am I that unfulfilling? "Well, I don't know. I don't like beating off without porn."

He knows it hurts me. He knows it upsets me. I refuse to have sex with him, I don't want him to touch me or even look at me if he's going to watch porn. I've told him. I've asked him what's more important to him. I've told him to pick. He'll promise that he'll stop. Then the next day I find all kinds of porn on his computer.

It's fucking driving me nuts.

What the fuck is up? Is it really that hard to crank one out without watching porn? I haven't looked at porn in ages, simply because I end up feeling so shitty about myself I'm not even horny anymore.

Urgh.

 

uhh are you really 16? You say you havent looked at porn "in ages"...

Anyway, I guess I don't see what the big deal is, since you are complaining about his watching porn and not about him masturbating. If a guy is going to masturbate, porn is really helpful.

It seems like you should be concerned that he feels the need to masturbate often. Obviously he isn't fully satisfied...

 

That could go either way. Either he's being selfish and insensitive or you're being too possessive.

And since a relationship is supposed to be equally supported... right?

BTW welcome back. Missed your wit.

 

That would really make me angry too. I know I wouldn't feel as bad if I didn't know my guy was watching porn. I can totally accept the masturbation but the idea of my guy watching porn rather than fantasizing about, say, me... that would piss me off.

 

Personally, I think that if people are in a relationship they should be focusing on each other, not on getting off by watching porn.

To me, porn (if it's watched at all) ought to be for horny, single people that don't have any other sexual outlet. I would never want the girl I was with to think that I was interested in anything other than her. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but that's the way I feel about it.

 

Sounds like your insecurity is the real problem. Why don't you watch it with him? There are adult films out there that are geared towards couples. You should pick one of those up.

And I don't get it. Why does watching porn make you feel shitty about yourself?

 

I do think you are being "old-fashioned" here. Some married couples become swingers to add spice. Watching porn as a way of mixing it up seems perfectly normal, even healthy.

The original poster is not married to her bf. Thus, I see no problem with him watching porn, or even fantasizing about someone else. For Christ's sake, they are what, 18 years old? 16?

Even if one is married, porn seems a better outlet than say cheating or going to sex events.

 

+1. I agree that it sounds like insecurity is the issue here.

 

I can't see that it matters whether they are married or not. She seems to want his undivided attention sexually, and complains that he spends way too much time whacking his ding dong and watching other people have sex, and I can completely understand that.

There are some swingers that are into that kind of thing, but they're not swingers. They're just a monogamous couple.

 

ok, but keep in mind they are 16...16!

How can she expect her kid bf to be 100% into her, and only her? People need to experiment sexually, try things, try people. That is of course only my opinion, but I think most people would agree.

He isn't going to parties, drinking Natural Ice and making out with other high schoolers haha (is this what teens still do these days)...all he is doing is watching some porn...heaven forbid...

 

Sorry I dont know what to tell you on the issue you are going through with your boyfriend, but i think any kind of sexual relationship should wait a couple of years.

 

Hey, what happened to the toolmaggot that had a sense of humor?

Life is funny. Sex is (a big) part of life. Porn is about sex. Deal with it.

P.S. it's not the porn itself that sucks. It's the actresses.

 

You were so tough toolmaggot. Where did that go? So what if he is watching porn. If you do not want to have sex with him because of that then he will watch even more porn and after some time probably leave you (not because you do not have sex with him but because you complain about silly things).

There is a solution to your problem. Why don't you two make some porn movies and then he can masturbate watching this. Would that bother you?

 

Guys need to wack it. A lot. Men usually desire to be stimulated visually, hence pr0n. It has nothing to do with you, your relationship, how you look, how your own performance is. Nadda. It's just pr0n.

Feeling bad yourself for using pr0n? You'll have to explain that one 'cause there's a myriad of 'whys' it could be.

I thought this was a fantastic idea at first but after a bowl, I think it's more of a married couple's solution. Having a pr0n of yourself at a young age is just bad mojo that could come back and haunt your ass down the road.

 

Well it depends on the guy. My ex did one with me so that I can masturbate to it when she is not with me. After we broke up she told me to keep the tape. I kept it and never showed it to anyone and never will.

 

How olds your BF? sounds like some geezer who just wants sex and is older than you?
If he's roughly the same age then maybe he'll grow out of it soon - if he's over 22 and youre 16 dump him

 

Agreed, How much help could a teen need ? Esp with a nice GF.

 

while i dont need porn to masturbate, it sure as hell makes it more enjoyable. I watch porn when i have a gf, and sometimes i even talk to em about it, once or twice i even watched it with em.

I dont think your going to get very far telling him to stop and holding out sex, that will only make him do it more.

Look i think Jewel Statie (a not so very famous actress) is the hottest person on the planet, if i was dating her i would still watch porn.

 

Go DQ! :hurray:

And Toolmaggot, I can totally understand that you'd feel that way. I don't think you're being ridiculous. It's just not something you're comfortable with, and not everyone is. You're entitled to those feelings. I'd feel the same if I were in the situation. Old fashioned? Maybe. But, hey, oh well.

 

I agree totally