Just online, but underage

I'm curious to know what you guys think about guy in his mid to late 20s talking to underage girls online. Not only talking to them though, but talking dirty to them and asking them to get on their webcam etc....so, what do you guys think?

 

sketchy

 

Mid to late 20's means over 21. It looks to me like this GUY you're talking about is just setting himself up for having the "Pervert Police" kicking his door down and seizing his computer gear. The operative phrase here is "Under Age"

There are lots of lovely women his own age on the net he could talk to especially right here on HF. Unless he is intimidated by someone his own age, in which case he may need profesional help.

That is my opinion...

 

Yeah, it's illegal for sure. Whether or not I think it's wrong depends on the circumstances, but the law is not very discerning in such cases. I've gotta say that there's something a little sketchy about a guy in his late twenties getting digitally down and dirty with underaged girls. There are plenty of women his own age he could chat with.

 

Hahahahaha...

What makes him think they're 13 or underage?

The sword cuts both ways.

 

Yeah, better watch out. "Dateline" could bust your ass.

 

I think this "guy" (based on the info you gave) is probably a paedophile.

 

14 may be the age for consent in some places but seeing them nude (in a pornographic way) when they're under 18 is still illegal anywhere in NorthAmerica so far as I know

 

Good point. I think he's definitely setting himself up for jail.

 

Somebody in the UK has just got to prison for making underaged girls send pictures (not sure if webcams were mentioned) to him by messing with their hardware devices..

Somehow, and I still can't understand how or why, this was his leverage to make at least 3 girls send topless pictures to him..

Of course, this is hardly consent, but my feelings are the same in all circumstances.. A guy could too easily use empty compliments to persuade underage girls to do alot of things they wouldn't or shouldn't do..

 

All this talk about 13 year olds and youngsters doing what they're not supposed to. I know I was quite horny at 13. Let's switch it around.

What if an adult felt like a 13 year old, looked like a 13 year old and enjoyed playing the part?

 

Welcome to the overglorified world of pedophilia.

They make it seem like all young nubile girls and then BAM! you get hit with teh prison rape.

 

If you mean that the 13 year old imposter is playing the part, with adult Cyber Buddies, the adults know they are adults and should act accordingly. If they play with her anyway thinking she is 13, it just shows me perverted intent.

I don't even like to answer people under age here at HF about sexual questions, because I am concerned that a parent might not like their teen getting that kind of advice here from me. And it kinda creeps me out too.

 

Thanks. I understand where you're coming from. However, it amazes me that youngsters who've not hit their teens yet sometimes have their own computers in their room. This is not to say that everyone goes looking things they shouldn't be, but I know a few cousins who have that priviledge.

Though, would it be better if they had your knowledge (if it was factual information they needed) or your advice, or is it better to have no one to talk to at all? As I was growing and a teen I had no such thing like hipforums. I would have loved something like this, and I don't think we should stereotype all teens this way either. This makes me uncomfortable. I feel the best I can do is point them in a safe direction and let them make their own choice.

Shying away from it is not the answer either, imo. As adults, there's a responsibility to at least try to do the right thing (including the advice part).

 

I don't think that the person you're responding to in the above post meant that they have a problem with underage kids getting info online... Rather that they are concerned about the repercussions of parents being upset at the person providing that info. Cover your ass mentality (which I'm not criticizing, because I would be hesitant to say much to an underage kid myself).

Perhaps a happy medium would be to post a link to a website that has the factual information the kid is seeking? Then you're only liable for posting a link, not for directly telling the kid anything of a sexual nature.

And, to the OP, a 20-something year old man chatting up underage girls online is a sex-offender. He is a creep who needs to be hunted down and stopped before he tries to meet one of these girls in person.

Yes, the girls' parents should be more vigilant in protecting their child from online predators, but in the real world there are plenty of single parents working 2-3 jobs just to make ends meet. Furthermore, focusing on this angle comes dangerously close to blaming the victim rather than the perpetrator. I'm all for preventative measures, but the vigilance or laxness of the parents has no bearing on the fact that the man is a pedophile who needs to be stopped.

 

You misunderstood my post. I am addressing what you are addressing.

I agree about the link. However, I think it's rather cowardly to shy away from a responsibility that I feel I am comfortable with, or have the knowledge to help but purposely refrain from helping because of my own insecurities and lack of confidence in the right thing to do.

Of course there are shady situations. I trust people would use their better judgment.

 

Sorry, but did you realise how silly that sounds?

Like, a guy can have sex with a 15 year old girl as long as he doesn't look at her?

I think the whole using cherubish looks to let ANYBODY think of you as younger than you actually are is very twisted, even when the "gains" are quite innocent..

 

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do you think I make the rules regarding age of consent and porn? I'm just stating what I know/have heard, it's not as though I have any control here

 

A guy that age has no business with a "GIRL" and "GIRL" being the keyword here, who is underage. And yes, as someone else stated "Pedophile" would be another word that comes to mind. The guy should seek professional help.