okay so this really really goo friend of mine is cutting! i can't tell on her. I don't have the heart! If i do tell it will really mess her up! Shes already been raped, when she was seven! so like i can't see her go through this stress
dude I think you have to...for her safety seriously this is something someone needs to know about..maybe an anomous tip? or ask to not be named? cutting is serious man, don't let that go on for too long. Sounds like she's been through some shit in the past but dude there are other ways to get out that aggression...you really need to get her some help..it's like your obligation as a friend man
Man, I know your position. I had a friend that was like this... last time I saw her, I just got off the bus, decided to walk to the county park... then I heard a day later that she shot got in a boat and killed herself. I never even saw it coming.. and it's not the only time I've been in that position. Probably isn't going to be the last. The worst feeling you could ever get is knowing life slipped through your fingers as easily as your own hair. I don't regret anything, because if we regretted things, we would never learn or have any sense of charachter... sometimes you just have to make a lesson out of negativity. I don't know how many times I've been in the position where my life couldn't get any worse, but I can find myself begging for mercy every now and then... The loss will hurt you and her worse than being a little pissed at each other. She's going to lose some trust in you, just don't let her get irrational about it. It's not her fault, but she's obviously showing that kind of thought.
i should've been more detailed about what else she has been through! Her brother picks on her to look cool round his friends, his girlfriend pretty much says she isn't good looking(idk why, this girl is amazing looking!), and her dad is in Iraq, and SO much more. and i'm trying to get her to hit a doobie with me or meditate or something! just to not cut, but she "doesn't feel like it" today was the second day shes been cutting and she has a lot of marks up her arm! if it gets really really bad by the Monday, I'm telling. But for now i'm not sure what i should say, i tried to tell her that she has it SO good, and she should be grateful for what she has, and not worry about the bad. but it isn't working. I'm getting her the book "Cut" tommorow
Depression can be some troubling shit, man. Don't ever let yourself fall into holes without catching yourself or picking yourself up. I don't believe I will ever voluntarily take an anti-depressant and I don't believe I ever have. The problem is that it really is a disease, despite what some will try and deny. Physical pain can be multiplied a few times because of receptive issues... on top of that I managed to get a cerebral contusion in my accident, so I can be really sensitive to some types of light now, at times. I think it's easily noticable that I've lost it and snapped a few times this week, but I just can barely take it anymore. Doctors put me on a cockail of naproxen, percocet, codeine (tylenol 3) etc... and I just polished off a bottle of chenin blanc. Sometimes I don't feel like putting any effort into self-medicating, but right now I have no choice but to take my prescriptions. I had to use a wheelchair for the first few days I was recouperating. It'll be okay, brother... just keep an eye on her and be there.
Orsino2 you are a wonderful person! I love your unbreakable soul! I'm crying about what you said! I hope you have a good full recovery! You'll be in my prayers tonight, and every night till you are 100% better! What is your name? I don't want to call you Orsino2 for the rest of time
Thanks, man, I know I could really use it right now. Yes, I'm George... though I've got nicknames ranging from the Mexican alternative to my name to Whoregay to Snowblower. And if you ever need anything at all, you know where to find me.
my best friend was doing that last year, and i couldn't tell her mother either. all i could do was be there for her, try to understand what her problem was and think of any way i could help. i told her she had so many options and that cutting wasn't helping it was hurting her even more. i asked her if she thought she could take her anger out in something else that wouldn't hurt her. i am sorry you have to be going thru this
Talk to her first, at least - try to persuade her yourself that she should stop, without involving her parents. I cut once, and I was so scared that I swore never to do it again, but then my parents found out and it was made into this huge incident which everyone is still uncomfortable about. My situation was very very different to hers though, I never had any of that shit to deal with, so I'm just advising here. If you are really really worried, tell someone.
I didn't read how old your friend was but anyone who cuts needs some type of help. There's a member here name g-spotspecialist, and he had a girlfriend a few years ago that was a cutter. Ask him for help if you can't find out any info online.
my friend turned 14 in November. But she will probably get caught tonight, cause she is in this tumbling thing, and she has to wear a short sleeve shirt. and she cut a lot! I found out she is also beleimc!(sp?) =/ I think i'm going to take her out this weekend, just me and her to talk.
Jesus... why can't people learn to burn one down every now and then. I'm so sorry, man. You need to do whatever you can for her and you should keep an eye on it for awhile.
Haha, i tried so hard for her to do a J with me, but shes afraid she'll end up as a meth head or something (yeah i told her Dr. Phil/Opera stuff only happens to the morons.)
Well, it's not that. Methamphetamines are not etheogens--they are stimulants, nor will they ever nor have they ever been an etheogen. You'll only end up a meth head if you consider the plant to be a drug and use it like one, instead of a focusing point of clarity. It's all a matter of perception and angle. You could walk into Krispy Kreme every morning and buy a box of doughnuts... You know how it goes... walk down the street a year later and you'll be like "Hey man, you know where I can get some of that creamy KK" "Yeah, I'll give you some of this pure premo shit for 50 a dozen" "Kyewllll.. etc."
i used to cut alot when i was like 15-17. i think you should just talk to her, but really try to understand where she is coming from. like try to understand why she does it. i didn't have anyone to talk to me at the time, no one really knew about it, and those who did didn't have the guts to say anything to me. the reason i stopped doing it so much is because one day my dad caught me walking from the bathroom to my bedroom after i had gotten out of the shower, in a towel, and he saw all of the cuts all over me and just looked at me with the saddest face i have ever seen, he just looked at me and said "kara, why??" i will never forget the look on his face or the tone of his voice. I really didn't think that anyone cared about me at the time, but he was just so crushed that i would want to hurt myself. and from then on i didn't want to do it, because i knew it would hurt him, and i cared about him so much. so just let her know that you're here for her, try to figure out why she does it, and help her find some other way to deal with her pain. try not to make her feel guilty. she might feel really defensive about it. keep an eye on her. and if it gets really bad you have to tell someone. even if she gets mad at you, eventually she will appreciate that you were there for her. best of luck. hope she's doing better.
