Bullying.

I was bullied on and off throughout school. Often I would feel excluded by my own friends. It really affected me at the time and some years later. Until recently I was obsessed with being popular and liked by people. The problem looking back was I too nice to people. Not so now! Another thing is I have gone through life feeling let down by people including my own family. This isn't really bullying but it still hurts.

As far as socialisation is concerned I would consider myself a loner despite having a few genuine friends now. I find a lot of people (at times it feels like most peopl) I can't be bothered with and find many people I've met are fake asses which I hate! I'm very cynical about life in general too. I do admit that I have a bit of an attitude (I tend to hide this from people most of the time) but I honestly don't blame myself for it. I like to live a quiet life away from as many assholes as possible.

With mental problems, I have battled with depression and been on anti-depressants in the past but they only made me feel 'cut off' from everything. They even affected my memory. I don't take them now cos I've come to the conclusion that the problems I've had are not because of me but other people. I've just adjusted my life accordingly such as career change and surrounding myself with good people. These things have certainly helped me and am happier than I was.

As as adult I've had my share of the 'female boss sydrome' of cattiness and pettiness which I think most people experience at some point. Some of these women and men can be real bullys when they get on their 'power trip'.

Bullying at school, home or work defintely affects your mental health. I have been bullied on and off throughout my life yet I know of someone who was bullied at work, who was in her 30s and had never been bullied before yet it very much affected her.

On a postive note though, bullying had toughened me up big time and if I have a problem with someone I give it to them straight and don't give a shit who they are, how old they are or if they are in a position of power. I have a bit of a mouth on me and I speak my mind. I'm nice but firm and if that doesn't work I kick ass and at times don't even care about the consequences. These assholes need to know that if they dish the dirt, they should take it back! Also I am comfortable with who I am now and much more confident. I never thought that day would come. I think I'm a nice person most of the time and I just try and be myself and not worry about what other people think of me.

 

Bullying sucks. I was bullied in middle school. I think it really fucked with my head. Now that i think about it everyone i know that has been bullied has a mental issue. I think they are definitly related.

 

when i was kid i would sometimes hurt this cat. it hated me, and i hated it, it wouldn't come when i called it, so me (maybe my borther) would chase it around the apartment trying to catch it and scare it, we were young i don't remeber every physical hurting it. i've always liked dogs, but would kill birds, if i found their next sling rocks at it, i can't remeber anything else. awhile back after i accidentally read over antisoical disorder i saw one of the symtoms was hurting animals, and i thought back to these scatered events.

i mention wei shi becasue it was the worst i can remeber their was this other kid but we just put toothpaste on him, and he was jewish so we made him a toothpaste yamacha and drew a star of david, that might of been later in 8th grade but in high school i never really picked on anyone, just defend myself or my freinds.

wei shi sure i wonder, espically since i knew he had to deal with it on a daily basis. not my group but a larger less popular group of kids would pick on kids like wei shi, i wonder what happen though i doubt i'll ever meet him again. That washington D. C. trip was ackward for everyone in that room

that last line was what i used to think about i would think about something or someone helpless and dream about hurting them sometimes it would be a specfic person but as i said before i just don't feel that way. Well sometimes i do but it just so small and it fades away very quickly i feel it but i control it and so everything turns out all right

 

I don't think some people realize what they do can be viewed as bullying. When I was in school, I had a sort of impediment where my brain went too fast for my mouth and resuled in me tripping over my words a lot (and stopping for no apparent reason because my brain had to work out where my mouth had got up to).

Not surprisingly, there were kids who thought this was particularly funny and made sure I knew it when ever I spoke. The ringleader was particularly proud of it saying "At least I do it to your face" (as if that made it any better). He even invited me to his house a few times.

Looking back I don't think he thought he was doing anything wrong, but for 2 years I hated being in the same class as him.

 

1. Were you bullied as a child/in school?
Yah I was, but I wont lie being a young child (like gr 3 and till gr 8) i was a bully. But grade 9 I got mine.

2. Did you find that, that bullying sticks with you, to this day and makes socialization uncomfortable, to say the least?
Yes I do, I was bullyed mainly by girls and because of that I tend to stay away from girls, or just not get close with them.

3. Do you suffer from any array of mental problems?
I dont think I do, unless Add counts but other than that nope

4. Are you still bullied, as an adult? (it happens)
Ummm occasionally but not nearly as much

5. Do you believe, being bullied in school, has anything to do with your current mental health?

Ah I think it has to do with a lot of the way I am. Being a bully and being victim gave me both perspectives on how each feel, and to be honest I didnt like either so now I dont bully or even try to be mean. I couldnt possibly even Imagen hurting anyone now intentionally

 

1. Mercilessly - try being one of the only two hippys in the entire school district. And the only girl who always preferred to hang out with the boys. And the one with wierd hair, the girl who "matured" first, and on and on....
2. It only stuck for a little while. I get that thing every so often that happens where the proverbial lightbulb goes on suddenly and you go, "AHA! Now I get it!" One night after having quit school in order to escape the bullshit, I was at a party. I saw some of "those girls" talking secretively, looking at me when they thought I didn't notice, whispering. Well, I had some courage that night due to a little wine and the fact that I had removed myself from their influence when I quit school, so I got up just a bit closer to them and overheard the worst one saying something like "I bet she's laughing at us..." It hit me like a ton of bricks! AHA!!!! They are INSECURE! and actually BOTHERED that I might be judging them! Wow, what a shock! I think up until that moment I really did believe that in some way they were superior to me, something I could not ever fit into. Well, I DID have a good laugh then, and never thought about it the same again.
3. I'm the most sane person I know.
4. I have found myself in several relationships where people tried to bully me, and terror is a mighty strong thing, but I'm too damn stubborn for all that. I have learned where to draw the line and I bloody well will not put up with a bunch of crap. Once I learned that anger and hatred and intimidation comes from fear, it was all over with.
5.Amazingly enough, yes. It made me realize some things that made me alot stronger. I learned that being bullied was a horrible thing and that I would be damned if I was going to behave that way towards others. It showed me just how many terrified souls there really are out there, who feel the need to hurt someone in order to make themselves feel just a bit better, and how low you must REALLY feel in order for those kinds of things to actually MAKE you feel like somebody! I don't have to participate in that drama any more now that I know how it works. I tend to feel sorry for folks who are that hateful, therefore they have no power over me, unless of course I have a gun in my face............

 

1. Constantly, from grade 1 until the end of middle school.
2. Yes. However, even before entering school I was very quiet and anxious and slow to socialize, but I do believe it made an impact.
3. I've had depression with varying degrees of paranoia and anxiety for my whole life, and this is part of the reason I was bullied. It became a vicious circle. Of course the kids had no idea about any mental illness. they just knew I was different. And I was a kid just before psychologists admitted that kids can in fact have mental illnesses... thanks for that!
4. I'm not bullied now, but I very rarely come into contact with people any more, so I don't know if I would be otherwise. I certainly am better at handling myself when I am in public now though.
5. To some degree, yes. I'm still fairly scared of interacting with people because of not knowing what they'll do to me, though as I said, I am better now. But, seeing as my mental health was pretty bad even before I started getting bullied, I can't say how much of an influence the bullying had.

 

Were you bullied as a child/in school? Yes, for a number of years.

Did you find that, that bullying sticks with you, to this day and makes socialization uncomfortable, to say the least? Not so much anymore, but it did for a long time.

Do you suffer from any array of mental problems? I've had depression, post traumatic stress disorder and social anxiety, which I believe were partly a result of bullying... at least, bullying worsened it.

Are you still bullied, as an adult? (it happens) No.

Do you believe, being bullied in school, has anything to do with your current mental health? Partly, yes.

 

Originally Posted by Apples+Oranjes


Were you bullied as a child/in school?
Did you find that, that bullying sticks with you, to this day and makes socialization uncomfortable, to say the least?
Do you suffer from any array of mental problems?
Are you still bullied, as an adult? (it happens)
Do you believe, being bullied in school, has anything to do with your current mental health

1. Yes I was bullied
2. Yes, it has had some very negative effects I'm still dealing with
3. Yes
4. No, I'd never stand for it now...I know better.
5. Yes, I still suffer from anxiety

 

Were you bullied as a child/in school?

In elementary school, I was the little popular chica with a lot of friends, when middle school came, the whole school change.. changed me. My once popular friends rejected me. Pushed my tray down the table, straight out didn't associate with me. I was a bit weird, I always was, they used to enjoy me for that. I just suddenly became quiet, withdrawn, and I had no idea who I was. I was still saddened because I wasn't popular anymore--you know how kids think. Middle school was tough and I became depressive.

Did you find that, that bullying sticks with you, to this day and makes socialization uncomfortable, to say the least?

It really affected me for a long time. It was until high school that things began to change--I still wasn't completely myself but I made friends, boys started really liking me, but I remember one girl said, "I can't image you with a boyfriend, Alicia." She was saying this because I was just so happy, innocent, and just odd. That one comment affected me for a long time in regards to dating--made me feel unworthy, and undesirable.

Do you suffer from any array of mental problems?

No, I did abhor the people who were mean to me for years. I was so mad at them for hurting me. Only one girl appologized to me for it--and it took her long enough. The thing is, I'm glad they bullied me and were mean to mean now, because without that I don't think I would have the same compassion towards others. It enabled me to stand up for others later in life, it enabled me to be strong.


Are you still bullied, as an adult? (it happens)

Nope.

Do you believe, being bullied in school, has anything to do with your current mental health?

No, I mean, I'm kind of weird, I will always be weird inside. I've just allowed myself to be comfortable with the person I am, and have embraced my individuality. There was a girl in my class senior year, she was bullied by the classmates. She came up to me and said, "Alicia, you're the only person who was nice to me in that class."

 

1. Yes ... so much so that one girl even called me over to her and then spit in my face




2. Definiately! I have been haunted throughout my life by bullying I have recieved. I'd say it still sticks with me today and it makes me more conscious of when people laugh at or make fun of me today.



3. Yes. Over the course of the past 10 years i have been dianosed as: clinically depressed, social phobic, agoraphobic, suffering from panic disorder, and manic depression



4. Yes. I am a big girl. I always have been. Having depression hasn't helped me keep weight off but instead has helped to increase my weight. I also have long (down to my butt) dreadlocks and don't look 'normal' in a crowd. I still every time i go out to the store or town centre see people staring at me, and kids (and some adults) making comments about my size and the way i look. Couple that with the remnants of social anxiety disorder (social phobia) and well I still find it hard to go out at times.




5. Possibly. I sometimes think that if I were stronger mentally and didn't have mental health issues I'd be able to shrug it off more and not be bothered by people's passing comments and things that happened when I was a child. If I hadn't been depressed as a kid I would have been more outgoing and maybe more people would have liked me and not found reasons to make fun of me. However, I've always been nice to people, always wanted to talk to people and have friends ... so, maybe that is me just being delusional.

I know for a fact that it didn't help me to get over my mental health problems.

 

Were you bullied as a child/in school? yeah, i was.
Did you find that, that bullying sticks with you, to this day and makes socialization uncomfortable, to say the least? hmmm, not really. if there is a problem, its one im unaware of.
Do you suffer from any array of mental problems? ive never been diagnosed, but i think i might suffer from a tad bi-polar, or something related.
Are you still bullied, as an adult? well im not really an adult, and no, im not bullied at the moment.
Do you believe, being bullied in school, has anything to do with your current mental health? it might have. hard to say really. a lot of things that have happened in my life will have an impact on that.