I tried to post something like this before but I don't know what happened to it.. anyways, I'm in love with a man who is much older than me. I'm 22 and I've never felt this way about another person before in my whole life, even though I've been with my fair share of girlfriends. I don't know how old he is, but not as old as my dad. I think about him every day. Mostly I just dream about being with him and being held in his arms and sometimes kissing him but I know I want to have sex with him. I don't know what it would be like but I don't care it's what I want to do. I don't know that it will ever happen but I will wait for it forever if I have to. Here is my question: I am very petite, I have a feminine physique even though I consider myself pretty athletic. He is bigger than me, i.e. more masculine and broader in the shoulders. I want to dress up like a girl for him and have sex with him like that. I've done drag before, and I look pretty damn good. But do people consider that weird or wrong? I don't know anything about the standard gay outlook or frame of mind. I just want to do it that way. What do you think?
If that's what you two want to do...then go for it! Who the hell cares what the standard gay outlook is?
i've seen a guy dressin like a women in my college caffeteria and he seemed pritty damn happy. he'd chat with his str8 lookin friends and do ordinary things like that. i think it won't bother any1 if u do so...
I ain't talking about walking around school in a dress or anything, although once I did for a while with a skirt over my jeans and another time I wore girly sunglasses and a red tiara/headband. Not to seem too full of myself, but I could kick pretty much anyone's ass in under 20 seconds so I don't worry about it. But him, I want to be lacey for him. I find myself wondering where he is all the time and worrying about whether he is okay, even though I've only really gotten to be near him a few times. I'm stupid over him, Jesus.
I guess the only thing I'd think about is whether, if he's into guys, he'll find that attractive. If you know he will, then who cares if it's "wrong"? Believe me, I've heard far "wronger" sexual practises discussed openly in public at my local gay bar and no-one said anything then.
. I'm not a TV, and generally I'm uninterested in TV's sexually. I like femmey men, though. (And masculine men sometimes, too) So, when I see a man in drag, I think, he would be so hot without the makeup and wig. I don't hate him because he isn't my type. I mean some guys are like that -they hate you for not being their type. But that's part of the mundane world. Your question is ernest, I believe. "But do people consider that weird or wrong?" Some gay folks do; some don't. Probably alot more queer folks do find it weird or wrong than are willing to admit. I don't think I ever thought it was wrong, other than like I said, it's a shame. Like a straight girl being sorry you're gay. But I have to admit I am glad you are who you are and are willing to share that. If you're looking for approval -you will find it here. And rightly so. You might not find it as easily everywhere in the gay community. But don't let that stop you, darling, from being who you are. However, If you think that this dude is a skirt chaser and he'll be more into dudes if you wear a skirt, you're probably fooling yourself and setting yourself up for heartbreak. If that's the case you may have to just 'come out with it," and proposition him. But, if what your thinking is "Since I'm into wearing a skirt during sex with a man - then how do I make that happen?" Well, if that's your question, I have a different answer and it doesn't involve chasing straight boys. .
I don't know whether it's wrong or not, but I like men, not women, so a guy that dresses like a woman does not turn me on. I have nothing against a guy dressing up like a girl, it's just not my thing.
Personally when people say they're not into 'femme' or masculine guys, it just annoys me. Surely people have evolved to a point where they understand that 'masculine' and 'feminine' are concepts created by society in an attempt to label and ultimatly judge. Why have'nt people learnt to transend this already?:gorgeous: :Mr-T: = Anyway winrawr, I suggest you atleast speak to him first of all, staying and gawping in the background won't get you anywhere, you should atleast try that. Then depending on what happens, you'll open up a whole lot of doors.
Um, you can be as acceptant and evolved as you like, that's no reason not to express any kind of preference for who you sleep with. I've never been attracted to femininity, in men or women. Does that mean I'm not evolved? Should I force myself to find them attractive? If you're talking about breaking down gender, well I'm sorry, but adjectives are there for a reason. Masculine and feminine are only as awful as terms as genres of music. People who get worked up about being pigeonholed by labels ironically tend to be the most generic. I don't really get what you're saying. Sure, if you're talking about day-to-day socialisation then being judgemental is bad, but if you're choosing a mate or a sexual partner, that's an inherently subjective process. You don't have to be "fair".
Wrong? NO WAY! How could it be wrong? The problem could be- is he interested? If yes, then you are both consenting adults.
If you don't think its wrong (and neither does he) then theres nothing wrong with it. My Matt dresses drag all the time, and openly and I love it. I think its great, although I really wish I had his legs, he has GREAT legs
i have to agree with self-control on this one. i've been bitched at by lesbians when i clumsily tried to label myself as femme or say i like femme girls. everyone has their own preferences, and maybe it is because i am bisexual that i find women attractive that look like women, and don't find butch girls attractive. then again, i wouldn't rule out dating one, because what turns you on turns you on and it takes more than girly clothes or looks to do that... still, everyone has their preferences. if you are like me, and don't often feel sexual towards anyone, male or female, you tend to find what you like and stick with it... it sounds narrowminded, and trying new things is fabulous. but if you got involved in a relationship with someone you weren't attracted to just to 'be openminded' i'm not sure it'd turn out all that well. as far as this thread goes: if you want to do it, and he wants you to do it, do it. fuck what other people think. if you are both attracted to each other and like someone else said, consenting adults, what's the problem? you're not making love with society... so don't worry about what they think.
Thanks for the replies guys, it really helps. If anyone cared, I haven't made any progress since I posted since I haven't been able to see him. Next time I do I might just tackle him and start kissing him and see what happens. I don't know.
If you do that and he does'nt like it, either because he's straight or he does'nt like being kissed by strange people, there's a chance you might end up hurt and possibly with a lawsuit, not to mention the emotional impact. There's always the chance it might work, but I don't think it's likley.
