Too into group sex?

So, a friend told me this was a good place for advice, so I'm looking for some help out there -- especially from other women who may read this.

I've always been a pretty open minded person, who likes to have a fling or two. In the past few months, however, i've been going a bit over the top. I had my first MMF threesome in September, and this past weekend a friend of mine set me up with him and four of his mates. I had a great time!!! After doing a little dance for them and giving some lap dances, I made each of them totally make out with me and then lick me. It was the most erotic experience having them take turns licking my clit while the others watched and stroked themselves! After they did this for me, I had fun with all of them. I found it fun to see how fast I could make each of the guys cum, and to feel the different reactions in their bodies when they did! Anyway, after lord knows how long and after each guy came one or twice, they were all either too drunk or spent to continue, but I wasn't! That's why I went back to one of the guy's flat and played around with him and his mate.

I've had one-on-one sex since this experience, which I found to be a total let down. I missed being the center of attention, how all the guys joked around me, and how i teased them. Writing this email has made me all tingelly, and I can't wait for my next group experience.

Anyway, the little devil inside me says go for it, girl. You're young, commitment can come later, and I'm using these boys to explore my own fanastasies as much as they're using me for cheap thrills. The little angle inside of me says that I'll regret this later, and I may be sliding down a slope with no bottom. Right now the devil is winning, but I'd like to hear advice from others on it. Thanks

 

I say that if you enjoy it....go ahead and have a good time....just keep safe !!!

 

Agreed with Erzebet; be safe, but do what (or who! ) works for you.

Shit, if I was in your shoes I'd be all over that. Have fun!

 

I agree, have fun. Just stay/keep it safe

 

sounds like a party!

if everyone is on the same page about what its about then there should be no prob. I know I would enjoy it!

 

Mmm... group sex. Enjoy it!

 

Wow the UK is awesome! Go for it!

 

As long as you are in control it sounds REALLY HOT. I'd do it if I had the chance.

 

I'm 50, my lady 52, our first experience at alternate lifestyle choices was at 19. It's easy to get lost in that world. Just rely on your reasoning mind, and let NO ONE lead you. Do as YOU wish for YOUR OWN REASONS. Be safe, and have a ball!!

We find it amazing in this millenium there are those that think sex organs will take you to hell such nonsense.

 

As long as you keep your self safe, have fun! group sex is wicked awesome. Maybe, you'll find that this a pahse. or not. Listen to your heart and body most of all. And don't let others tell you your feelings are wrong. That is a bottomless slope.

 

get it while you can, honey!

if you don't have fun and go for it while it's right in front of you, you'll spend the rest of your life wondering "what if?" ........you don't want to regret what you missed, makes for bitter years later on

and besides, it's always such a sexy, empowering experience for me - i would encourage anyone that has the opportunity to explore a group situation...as often as possible, lol!

 

Could it be possible that these guys aren't just using you for cheap thrills, and are actually experiencing fantasies just as you are, simultaniously with you. Ok, Ok, I don't need to take their side, in fact, I'm on your side. I just felt the need to point that out. I bet that some of those guys will count that as something that broadened their horizons. Also, they may look back in their older years, and feel a sense of satisfaction, rather than "I wishes" for having done what they did. Basically, the same goes for you. There is something to be said for experiencing a wide array of things in this life.

I have been involved in threesomes a few times in my life, so I may have just a tad bit of insight for you.

Rule number 1, as everyone has echoed, be safe. I'm not just talking about safe sex, but try to have experiences with trustworthy people that will not harm you, if at all possible.

Number 2, know your true desire. If this is just for fantasy fullfillment for you, and broadening of your horizons, than get your fullfillment. Otherwise, if this is a way of satisfying a deeper need for attention that you have, love, or deep intimacy, you are looking in wrong place. I don't want to sound conservative there at all, I'm just being real. There are a number of people that are experiencing group sex/multiple partners for sexual pleasure and excitement. That type of pleasure, it will deliver, but there are people that are needy of attention and love, and are traveling down the wrong road down the wrong road.

You sound like someone that is really into their new fetish, which is fine. Feeling that way is awsome. It can almost give you a buzz (scientifically it can). You seem to have reached a place where you need "more" to get you as aroused as you may have gotten before with one on one sex. This is ok. It is somewhat of a natural progression. Just don't let it carry you away. If you find yourself taking too many risk, the type that bother you, consider finding a new kink. Explore another area of your sexuality that may turn you on. Possibly, remain non-monogamous, but build trust with, and keep fewer parnters. Consider polyamory, or a closed circle of fuck buddies. Consider different fantasies, kinks, and fetishes all together. Trust me, they are out there. There is much to choose from. Sex is like a buffet, and not necessarily just a 4 (or is it 5, lol....)course meal.

I agree with the other members here in their message of freedom to you. Good Luck, and have fun!

 

wish I could

 

Well, will say the truth as i think, so god help me:

1. You are young as age category yes, but yu are not that young for not having a good stable relation.

2. You are not using them, they are using you.

3. "One-on-One later was a let down" as you said, and that is the dangerous side of it, unless you decided to keep being used for the rest of life.

 

i see it more as "mutual usage" if it's casual sex and not a lovin thing involved - it really depends on where the person's head is at, the motive, etc.

knowing one's own motives keeps a person in control of their lives and their choices

but definitely, don't do it for the wrong reasons - that makes for a different sort of regret

 

Girlfriend, have a ball! My hubby and I have been swinging for about a year now. We have found that it heightens are experience even when it's just us alone. When you meet your soulmate, one on one won't be a letdown for you anymore, especially if he is as open-minded as you are and you both can continue your adventures.

 

Nothing better than group sex. The more the merrier. We love it..just go for it and enjoy yourself..

 

I have never had sex with two woman. Once I had a shot at it. This stipper lived next door and she played guitar like me. She would come over and we would play music. We never fooled around. Once she let me give her a massage. That was awesome. I was 22 at the time. One day she came over with a girlfriend of hers at like 4am and said she wanted to have a threesome. I had just gone to sleep like a half hour before. I dont think I was ever so tired as that night. I had to turn them down as I was just beyond exhaustion. I never did get another chance. That was 15 years ago. Girls... invite me over and make this right.

 

group sex is hot
may as well do it now while your young
besides, do u realy think its wrong or is it just society telling you its wrong? follow what u wat in your head

and no one is using anyone in this situation, everyone invoveld is getting intense pleasure and hot memories to last a lifetime

did u do double penetration? thats the hottest part of group sex, besides all the cum

 

Hello from the other London (Canada). We are a long term couple (30 yrs!). Over the years, we have been involved in various group scenarios. The latest was this past saturday night. It never stops being a little weird. People are all so different.We are all products of an unatural way of life(rampant consumerism,milatarism,competiveness). If people could just learn that love is beautiful, maybe we can stop judging each other. Just be careful luv, because hurting people hurt people! If you were here we'd give you a great big hug! We all need love, darling, some people just need more. Ja bless!A Couple of aging hippies. Peace!