i've been dating my wonderful boyfriend Terry for almost three months. Things are amazing and im very passionate about him. we've fooled around quite a bit but have never talked about the possibilities of sex. we are both virgins but i know hes the right guy and i think we are in the right time. so how should i go about bringing up the subject i.e. contraception and such. thanks for any advice. Lisa
I had the same situation, like... 6 months ago. We were also virgins. I told him while we were out, hugging and kissing - I just asked "When are we going to make love?" Two weeks later, while we were at home, watching TV - he asked me if I was sure and ready... And it happened.
If you want to start "the sex" conversation, make it more spontanious. Start talking about some of your friends who are having sex, the generaly about sex, and than start talking about you 2 having it. That is how I started the conversation. Conrtaception - there is not much talk about this at you (our) age. The safest and the easyest way is condoms. My advice, when/if you decide to have sex don arange it, it will make you more nervous. Let is happen spontaniously. AND DON'T YOE EVER FORGET THE PROTECTION!
Wait a minute. Don't you have to be a certain age to buy condoms? Your best bet is grabbing his shaft, rolling on the rubber with your lips and whispering for him to fuck you. I'm not sure why you want to be talking about contraceptions unless you're thinking of him getting a vasectomy or going for hormone injections. Contraception is largely still a female issue. Obviously if you're comfortable to have sex, you two have been fooling around a bit already. Just let it roll and when it's time let him know you have the condoms ready. You can even take a break inbetween to giggle at the flavours or colours or chat about sex. Don't worry so much (though please stay protected). Edit: I reread my post. I'm not saying talking about contraception is a bad thing. And no, you shouldn't feel like you have to bear the responsibility all on your own. So please, if talking about it helps ease the first time you have sex (or any time you have sex with someone), just do what you have to do. What I meant is that not all situations warrant "talking about sex". Just go with the flow if it feels good. You'll know what to do then.
Just when you guys are having ANY kind of a good converstaion....just smile at him and ask him if he feels hes ready to share love with eachother. Im sure he wants to have sex with you anyways, he just doesnt want to sound like a bastard if he "asks" you for sex. Which means he respects you. After kissing, or any good convos like i said earlier, just nonchalantly ask him if he feels ready to "make love". Where a condom, always. And remember this is your first time.....remember what your first time doing ANYTHING was like? Im sure it is a lil awkward at first, but just take it slow and be passionate to eachother and you honestly cant go wrong. Do what your heart desires....
