Lately i have been very anti-social and just cant come up w/ things to say to my friends that would make me seem funny or interesting. I sorta wait till they say something to me, and go from there. Its not that i have no friends or anything, i just dont know how to start conversations and carry them on. Btw, im a weed smoker. Any help?
Yeah i was going to say the same thing, although he probably knows that but would rather a more conveniant truth. Aside from that i often feel that if i have nothing to say, i say nothing. you can still hang out with people and not talk, just listen and usually if people want you to say more they'll start to ask questions.
I was gonna say it sounds like your age. hormones and all that new social shit. scary time. maybe the weed helps him relax alittle?
some people are more listeners then talkers if everyone spent all theyre time trying to be funny & interesting who would be paying attention to them? some people need the attention more others pay attention more..theres nothing wrong with either role when someone ha something they need to talk about would they come toyou & think of you as a true freind..or would they go to someone who turns everything into a joke or comes up with an interesting but unrelated story everytime theres nothin wrong with being the way you are
Yo I've been through the same thing. Seriously lay off the weed a bit. Ya it's fun once and a while but when I do it a lot I become selfish and totally uninterested in anyone else. (aka anti-social) Or you can have a cigarette...
Sad to say, i fucking hate my personailty. When i am sober(have been for the last 2 weeks) im loud and always shout my opinion and just trying to impress girls and my friends. Kids literally think im bi-polar because they never know if 1 day ill be my loud obnoxious idiotic forgetful kid, or ill be a silent and observative person. My teacher at school today in fact told me "when your good, your realy good, and when your bad, your really bad". i dont fucking know anymore..i dont wanna be known as a dumb kid who gets bad grades in school, not afraid to say stupid shit in front of teachers etc. Thats what ive always been known as when im not smoking weed and im my sober self.
No, he's right, try to be more like Dirty Harry. People like people who don't care if people like them. It's common knowledge...
I'm the same way dude. There are times when I can't think of ANYTHING to say, except "damn, I'm high". Nobody seems to give a fuck if I say anything or not. Just be yourself, whether you're talking your ass off or being as quiet as a mouse. Don't TRY to impress people. Just kinda go with the flow and everything will be gravy.
That is really a good one MikeE. Do not worry too much about what people think of you, you are a teen, and even you are wiser than the wisest they will still react as if you are a foolish teen which they understand. Also every one is talking too much now a days, think a little sielnt person will always be appreciated. Maybe, before going to meet the people, you read a magazine or something on the internet that you know of interest to that group, memorize just 2 or 3 titles, and bring up the subjects (but not all at once). Hope what i said is helpfull. Take it easy.
i used to have the same problem, although i've never smoked pot haha. it's really good that you don't want to be seen as obnoxious etc. when you're sober, and i don't think you are at heart because you're thinking about this stuff. actual dumbasses occupy their minds with stuff, not ideas and reflections like you are. it sounds like you're just trying to find yourself... i'm not very experienced with advice but i can suggest what i did to overcome my awkwardness. having more in common with your friends helps, shared interests make conversations much easier. being consistent in behaviour comes with knowing yourself and your limits, and you can figure out who you are through doing a few things. online personality tests can help, try www.tickle.com for good ones... you can then put the results into your own words, shape them into what you think is an accurate description. although we frown upon boxes or 'labels' in society, sometimes they can help us to define ourselves if we're a bit confused another good idea is to make your room your personal space, surround yourself with things that represent you, and that make you happy and secure. seeing favourite posters, books...or even happy photos every day can reinforce your sense of self and give you more confidence in outside situations. maybe find a role model too i read a lot and try to pick up good traits from my favourite characters...books are useful in that way too because they show you how other characters react to particular personalities the last thing that really helped me was to just switch off. once you've done the major housekeeping, you don't need to be finicky about the finer details. when you're satisfied with yourself and who you are, turn your mind to other things. get a new interest or hobby, and fill your head with facts. try to enjoy school and concentrate in class... then when you go back to the once awkward social situations, you can choose to speak or to stay silent, but you'll be happy doing either, because YOU like yourself, and that's all you need gosh i hope that helped a bit! i do have a tendency to talk too MUCH now! good luck
