Wife HATE's Mary! :(

Ok my friend's I am challenged with probably the biggest problem ever in my life to date. I am a recovering drug addict, I will admit. But, I am 3 month's sober of all thing's except marijuana. I love Marijuana, it's a ritual to me. Marijuana is apart of my life,and has been for a very long time. Now to the point.

I am 20 year's old. Marijuana has never harmed me nor my friend or family in anyway shape or form. My wife and I have been together for 8 year's but just got married this past July. I was an on and off smoker since I was probably 10. I just never did it around my girlfriend, nor anyone else. Now, remind you for the past 3 year's of my life I havnt really dont over a week with out marijauna.

MY WIFE HATE's it. Absolutly despises it. She think's it's the wrost drug the world has ever seen. She think's that every marijuana user is the same, and that it kill's you. yada yada yada. She was one of those D.A.R.E fan's.

I guess I am just looking for advice, on what to do. She start's work at 8am, I usually start at 10. So for the 2 hour's she is gone in the morning I pull out the bong or bowl and let it go. Everyday. I love to get blowed. I dont do it because I need to (or so I say). I just general enjoy smoking, and I want to keep enjoying with out getting kicked out of my own house, sent on guilt trip's or whatever else she punishes me with. Any suggestions?

 

I know alot was left out. That was basicly a nutshell of it. I just really enjoy smoking. I would give up all other drug's to smoke weed. OMG.

 

Find facts about marijuana on the internet, both good AND bad, and make her read through it. It will give her the chance to view objective material about the drug and let her decide for herself whether it's good or bad, as opposed to just believing what society tells her to believe. Also, try to convince her to try it a couple of times so she can know, first hand, that it is not the demon drug she thinks it is.

 

hiding it from her now will only make the results umpteen times worse in the future

 

I actually had a essay in college on the Negative side effect of Marijuana. While my partner, got to do the positive side. So needless to say, I have shown boatload's of proof on the realization of marijuana, but she just cant kick the fact that school say's it's bad so it must be. If you know what I mean.

And I know what you mean by hiding. I dont want to hide. I hate it. I would give up anything for her. I have tried multiple upon multiple time's to trash Ganja totaly. I threw away over a Z, because I was going to attempt a quit. 3 day's later I was back n Baked.

 

Giving up weed is about the only thing I wouldn't do for my fiance, because it has helped me so much. Thankfully, I don't have to worry about that, because she smoked as much as I do. In fact, that's how we met. I feel for you man.

 

You have to make her realize how ignorant and hardheaded she is being......somehow. Make sure she knows that she might as well be a robot, if she lets society make her decisions for her.

 

Smoking pot ain't that great. Easy to quit. But if your wife really respects you, she should respect the fact that you smoke pot. Do me a favor, though, don't go tooling out and divorcing over weed. That's just crazy.

 

Yea. She is like super b*tch when it comes to me and Weed. We have a 3 month old daughter. And she has actually ripped her out of my hand's when I admitted to smoking. Weed to me is on my top 3 favorit thing's in the world. Weed to her is in her top 2 most hated thing's. Funny thing is she promised me she would try it, after she had the kid. But I fucked up when I got caught on Special K and shroom's.

 

I mean, I can quit, if I set my mind to it. But, fact is fact I just dont want to. And I dont know if I can change that let alone really want to. Suck's cause it's been 4 day's since I smoked. Damn Sack went through the wash.

 

lol
I quit toking up RECREATIONALLY for my girlfriend.

Call it a spiritual or natural medicinal use and you get a 50/50 chance she'd buy it.

 

Not really!! I am really going crazy without any over here.

 

Though this doesn't work with psychedelics - I tried.

 

dude it sounds like she aint gonna budge. stop running around like a 15 year old trying to hide his shit from his parents. you need to be an adult and decide whats more important weed or your wife and child, cause im sure there is no way in hell youll get many rights to that kid if you guys divorce.

 

Yea. Last time I really thought I had it in the sack. Somehow just keep's jumping in my life.

 

why dont you tell her how youve smoked since before you met, and that smoking weed doesnt change the fact that you love her and you love your child, and ask her if she is willing to take her child away from her father just because of some things that she doesnt want to try. clearly she cant say she hates marijuana users because she LOVES one and had a CHILD with one, therefor despite hating marijuana, she loves a marijuana user and decided to spend her life with one, at one point. if she gives up on all that, what is she really doing to herself, and more to the point, is she willing to bring up her child away from its father because of some idealistic grudge she holds against a plant which effectively was part of the major factors that influenced someones growth into the love of her life?

 

uhg...soon you can all line up on wednsdays

 

I'd like to take this time to come out and say I have the same problem. The problem bugs me so much I didn't want to bring it up. Thank you Stonerbill for giving me some advice. I live with my girlfriend who I love very very much. This are amazing between us and we even have intentions of spending our lives together.

But the one thing about me that she hates is that I smoke pot. I burn insense, blow tokes out the window, smoke elsewhere and such, but she ahtes it so much. Mainly people growing up, the people around her life who smoked pot were the people who hurt her a lot growing up and she see's me smoking a lot of pot and gets worried. Whenever pot isn't mentioned, eveyrthing is wonderful. Even sometimes when I mention pot smoking with friends of mine at parties, or an occasional joint with another friend, she doesn't care, but if I start taking a few hits white doing homework on a wednesday night she gets pissed. She tells me she doesn't want to spend the rest of her life with a stoner. I'm (almost) 19 now and I told her I'd cut back huge by time I graduate from university. I figure by then, if everythings great with her and I, then I will highly consider it. Just right now, I enjoy getting high. Maybe between now and then she'll get over it, I may cut down to the point where she doesn't care, or we'll work something out.

 

who do you love more?

 

sounds like your wife is really, really ignorant. you've been together since you were 12 years old, yet somehow she still married you despite your "horrible" habit? what was she thinking?

also sounds like she's very uneducated on the subject. she needs to wake up and smell the reefer; marijuana is one of, if not the, safest drugs known to man. tell her that every time she takes ibuprofen she's doing more harm to her body than every hit of weed you take.

and don't smoke around babies and children...