Girls: Do you get upset at your s/o if he "bottoms out"?

My g/f and I are the only people that each other has slept with so I guess that may be a reason for this question. I know that it hurts her when we bottom out, but she gets pissed! I'm around 7.5", I can feel it right when it happens, but not before then... Any advice on this? Do I just need to watch myself and pay more attention?

Thanks for your help in advance!

 

Yes...it hurts , and the only advice I can give is to learn how deep you can go...and AVOID doggie style....

 

She may find that at certain times of the month, it will hurt more too. I know when I'm ovulating that if my husband goes too deep, it really hurts, so he tries to be more careful then.

 

Hmm, so the depth can change? I guess that explains why sometimes I can go further than others...? Do you know what causes this?

 

yes...the cervex swells at various times in ladies...usually when its around that time of month.....also the walls change slightly....

 

Is this issue pretty common do ya think?

 

Well I certainly can't speak for all women, but I think it's probably pretty common.

 

I don't get pissed per se, but if he keeps doing it after I've told him it hurts, well, yeah I'd be mad then. And way less likely to want to fuck him again, that's for sure.

 

It doesnt really hurt me, it does at first but if he keeps going I get some pretty intense orgasms from it. That does depend hugely on what time of the month it is..

 

You are hitting her cervix, which is what makes it hurt for her. And 7.5 should reach the cervix. Change the position for sex from doggy to missionary, and ask her if there still is a problem. If so, you can change the angle of entry. Woman on top should solve it to, as she can control everything.

 

I really appreciate the advice and the quick responses . Actually this is happening during missionary... There is alot of communication between us, we've been together for about 4.5 years. Of course I watch myself after she tells me the first time, I'd be an asshole to keep going. It's just really hard to tell other than just watching how far i'm going in... know what I mean?

 

Just don't go as far in, and ALWAYS listen to her.

 

Some women like it ohers dont. Work with her and its good for her. And be sure to listen to what she tells you. I've learned to read the signs over the years.

 

Most girls love it when I "bottom out"

 

Put her on top. That helped Bear and I immensely.

 

hey8122, thanks for asking us this question. I enjoyed the responses.

As benotfree has stated, some women do enjoy feeling a man bottom out. Usually, the women that get off on this enjoy light pressure at first, then more pressure during orgasm, as indorphins course through the body (I would love to have a woman that enjoyed this, I'd have to watch her with another lover though, because I have only bottomed out once in my life) On a men's health type forum that I belong to, this is known as the deep spot (the posterior fornix of the vagina, the deepest point along the rear wall). hey8122, aparently your girl isn't one of them, and that is ok. It is great that you are concerned and listen to her needs. Maybe if you only lightly reached the end during her orgasm, she'd get into it. Keep communicating with her about hit, and follow her lead.

Angle your thrust to the small of her back, along the rear wall of the vagina to be sure that you are not ramming into cervix. If you still hit something, you are trully "bottoming out", and have reached THE END. The rear fold of the vaginal wall around the cervix is the deepest side. It can stretch up till it reaches near the sacrum, the bone at the back of the pelvis, above the tailbone.

Vaginas differ in size, and women have different preferences for pressure or friction, and different pain/pleasure thresholds. So, many different combinations occur.

If I were you, I'd still desire doggy, but be carefull. Maybe she can lean forward, and her bum and upper legs could bock you a bit.

Letting her ride you is a sure shot.

Any position with her legs closed will also use up some of your length. Try putting your legs outside of hers, with her legs lying together between yours.

P.S. The average vaginal canal, including the depth of the vulva, is 6 inches deep, or 15 cm, according to researchers like Alfred Kinsey, Robert Latou Dickinson, and Masters and Johnson.

 

Thanks Raw and everyone else. I really enjoy the feedback. I love learning about this stuff. Because the more you know, the better you can become.

In our relationship, I am the knowledgeable one. My g/f doesnt really know much about sex, even though we've been having sex for about 2.5 years now. I suprise her with how much I do know and alot of other girls are also suprised either by how much I do know or that I really am interested in learning (sorry if i'm not making much sense, its 2am...)

 

what is bottoming out?

 

Future sex counsellor, descendent of Sue Johanson? Or maybe the next Don Juan.

Either way, good for you for taking the initiative. It far beats ignorance in bed. I personally can't say I don't enjoy bottoming out and there's something very intimate about having your pelvic bones grinding and the skin there rubbing and slipping off one another. I rather like the twinge of pain too. And I won't even start about the orgasms..

 

Oh, that FULL feeling...... it feels so good huh?

Thanks for sharing that with us Hannah. I think that it is amazing when a woman craves that full feeling sometimes.

Feeling full, a little stretched, almost a little pain, but just enough to make you tingle.