lets just say orgasmic problems...

Okay I know this is going to sound dumb but trust me I have done my research... I've been to every site you can think of and I have posted on other forums before with the same problem... but all I get is "You need a good atmosphere" or you "need to talk to them" and I do trust me. We havn't had sex but I have tryed oral and clitoral and vaginal stimulations with my fingers for months. Its hard to ask but does anyone have any advice on what positions, tips, methods, anything would be appriciated beyond

I REALY NEED HELP ON THIS ITS SO FRUSTRATING

I just don't want to be disappointing her...

please leave your comments

 

sometimes it's not anything u can do. she needs professional help and that's all there is to it. even the professionals struggle with such problems. I could tell you a sad story about an ex-gf (also an OBGYN) who had psychological problems with intimacy and sex. knowing the theory is one thing.. making practical use of it is sometimes a long drawn out affair but it all starts with her accepting she needs to see someone about it. good luck.

 

Agreed!! Probably no shame on your part. Try loving her with your heart and soul, taking the pressure of having to blow the top off the world off you both. Soothe her, be tender, help her realize that you love her for her, not her vaginal apparatus. Then, after a few weeks of hugging and trusting, dates out and candlelight dinners, suggest you BOTH go along to the friendly neighbrhood sex therapist, IF SHE FEELS it would be useful. If she isn't happy with your non physical efforts, you've lost. Bail while you've still a bit of self worth left. Sorry to be so blunt, but real is real!

 

Go buy a good vibrator--most chain pharmacy's like Rite Aid, CVS, etc. have them in the toiletries section. I think many woman miss out on great sex because they won't take the initiative to buy a vibrator and use it and/or they won't ask their SO to do the same. Quit wasting time.

 

25% of women never get an orgasm, 25% only get orgasms through manual stimulation, 25% get orgasms through intercourse and manual stimulation, together, and only 25% get orgasms through intercourse alone (sorry, guys).

For clitoral stimulation, use the flat of your tongue, and work it slowly and gently back and forth after retracting the clitoral hood. Do this until your tongue is about to fall off or until she cums. It may take 10-15 minutes.
You can do the same with your finger, well lubricated. Have her demonstrate how she likes to do it, and then copy that on her clitoris.

For vaginal stimulation, make sure your fingers are clean, fingernails well trimmed, and well lubricated. Have her lie on her back, butt on a pillow, with her legs spread. Lie on your back, between her legs, and insert your lubricated index and middle fingers, palm up, into her vagina. You will feel the inside of her pubic bone curling up, and make a "come hither" motion with those two fingers in the middle area of her pubic bone. You should feel a raised mound about 2-3 inches in on her pubic bone - that is her g-spot. Ask her if you have found it, and move your fingers around until she says you found it. Keep doing the "come hither" motion for as long as she needs to have a vaginal orgasm. You or she could at the same time do clitoral stimulation, and when she has her orgasm, it will be better than anything a guy could get, even on his best day.

This technique has worked well on women who have never before had a vaginal orgasm, and once they experience it, they can never go back. It is amazingly intense.

Let us know if this works.