Others making fun of your disorder-has this happened to you?

I found out this morning that somone who was very close to me in the past who I no longer speak with has been making fun of my DID to other people. I found this out through a mututal friend and am very hurt by this.

I did pretend to have a perfect life and that image fell aprat when I lost my job and at that time I decided it was time to come clean with my close friends. The person who is making fun of me found out most likely found out through a mutual friend who did not know we were no longer speaking.

Anyone making fun of me because I have multiple personalities is just cruel imo

This disorder and being laid off has definitley given me a large dose of humility, which I probobly needed but I think it is soooooooo wrong for others to exploit that.

I will never run into this person as we do not live in the same county...I wish we did so I could have somone physically threaten him to the point of him soiling himself (sorry I am that pissed).

I don't want to do anything about this, talk to him or anything like that. I just wanted to vent and share this and see if there is anyone else who has gone through the same thing.

I knew he had an abusive personality from the time we spent together, but this is REALLY LOW OF HIM.

 

Its difficult with friends and "friends".
One of the above of mine is often trying to wind me up re not having settled down , and re certain aspects of my life and business matters.

I dont talk to him about my "ADD" , hes just not the type I could have a proper conversation with on it.

Needless to say he loves to dish out all this "friendly banter" / bad-mouthing to me , but cant hack it himself.

BTW hes massively insecure and a failure at numerous things , and the rude bastard is the first to ask me for advice about his ineptitude.

I'd really had enough of him annoying me on our holiday( 3 guys went away) and asked him why he stayed with his mrs for years when she was screwing round left right and centre.
Oh course he threw his toys out of his pram and went like some hysterical 7 year old girl.

The next morning I assumed our 12 year friendship was over , but he behaved like nothing had happened.The rest of the holiday he behaved but then showed a little flash of his antics a couple of weeks later.

I feel like a real storm is brewing the next time this happens , because generally Im too tolerant of friends trying it on -til I snap in a BIG way/

Sometimes I think I should really go for the jugular with his crap.
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On your situation , its really difficult evaluating things said behind someone's back.I mean if I call one friend a dickhead to another friend , it doesnt necessarily mean Im being derogatory.Most of us do make fun of things which in other contexts are sick or twisted.

The problem is , when its via a messenger , what is the context?
Sometimes its the messenger being a shit-stirrer.

However in this case you say he has an abusive personality.
Some people do feel good knocking others - because it acts as a smokescreen to detract from their own (often much bigger ) faults or inadequacies- even tho it doesnt even fool themselves really.
( like my friend).

If theyre good people they should respect someone's wish not to talk bad mouthing crap.And they should be able to tolerate equal amounts of "wind ups"( thats prob the wrong word) to them.

If it wasnt pure spite , he shouldve made that clear to the messenger.
In the absence of fuller information , Id deduce that hes a sad , dysfunctional and bitter person who youre much better well away from.

Id say to the messenger , sarcastically
"Oh its nice to hear he's so full of a positive outlook on life , even tho his is such a mess.I'm amazed he's got this far given his ( problems you insert...) when I had the misfortune of spending time with the lonely , bitter , loser".

Tip , comments about sexual inadequacy , spurned in love and sex , lack of friends and social credibiliy and doing a career they hate/ paid fuck all for, are prob the best ways to get under his skin.
Or saying that he was too socially inept to understand what you meant by "no " to him! LOL
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Really he shouldve finished his silly pisstake with a pleasant remark like "Seriously I liked lynsey , I hope she sorts it out and would like to see her again"

As he didnt , I think u should be happy youre not being dragged down by someone so
dsyfunctional and full of draining negative energy.
Try and just mix with positive people when u can.

I think theres a book about what is titled "energy vampires" on the subject.
Dont let it bother u!

 

haha, pretty good tips there.

 

All worked out I'll just say he doesn't have a whole lot of friends at the moment...

He just made a lot of comments that were untrue saying that he saw me doing coke in a club a couple of weeks ago and was acting like a slut and he acted to a bunch of my friends like he was in genuinely concerned about 'my condition'. The weekend he said he saw this I was not even in town nor do I ever mess around with guys I hardly know in public

I know why he did that though. Whatever he is insignificant now to me and no one I know is talking to him.

 

This explains why your such a flighty whack job, but its all good cause I think your ok and no one is perfect, fuck im not.

I myself have a crazy girl in my life, its hard but fun at times. Maybe someday she will just leave and that would be ok too if she was safe.

But in the end most crazy girls just want the shit fucked out of them till ya got them all bunched up in the corner of the bed crying they have had enough....then they act right for a bit, then its time for another dose of dick.

 

yeah us crazy girls are pretty hot and wild in bed...and we're fun...being boring and ordinary would be the worse thing on earth