well its a long story... about four months ago i met this girl and we have gotten to know eachother quite well and after a while i felt like she was hitting on me and we started flirting with eachother. well we have talked alot and she pretty much told me she likes me you know and i like her too but the thing is her relationship with her boyfriend isnt very stable im not sure if shes just playing with me because of that or if shes serious. and she has a little girl but honostly, that dosnt really change anything about the way i feel, i mean i love that little girl to death. i know that shes not happy with him for alot of reasons. there are so many things going around in this mess im not sure what i should do next i just thought id see what someone else thought about it or what someone else would do in my situation. thanks
First off, I wouldn't get involved with any girl that's already in a relationship. What is the reason that her relationship isn't going so well? Is it because she might be emotionally cheating on her boyfriend with you? If she is capable of doing this to her current bf, she's capable of doing it to you, as well. I would encourage you to take a step back and let her take care of her business. Honestly, she should know better and should be more responsible in relationships if she has a child (which should be her primary concern anyway).
Why do you want to date a girl who flirts with young men other than her boyfriend? The way she is treating him is similar to the way she will treat you (if and when the two of you....). You deserve a girlfriend who treats her boyfriend right. It sounds like she isn't that kind of woman.
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If she was truely thinking of her child, she'd leave his ass...even if she had to go to a shelter for women. She's playing you, bro....she said she's giving her man another chance? What the hell does that tell you?
Seriously, you can give her all the advice you want...and you can care about her all you want, but you know what's going to happen? She's going to hurt you, because she obviously doesn't care about anyone else but herself...otherwise, she'd A: Leave her baby's daddy, so the child can grow up in a normal household OR B: Try to work it out with baby's daddy so the child can grow up in a normal household, which means, you're out...
man i hatethese situations and if things dont work with them? and she needs someone?i think she deserves to be happy dosnt she?
IF things don't work out with them...give her some time to get her life together and be there as a friend. And of course everyone deserves to be happy, but at who's expense? For her, it's going to be at YOUR expense if you put yourself out there like that.
I agree with Dancer. It sounds to me like she is using you for a security backup. She very well may leave this guy to run to your security but be careful because these relationships usually are not long lasting. Keep your distance except as a friend until she is single. If she is on her own for awhile then swoop in and start a relationship, this way you also know that you are just not a convenient way for her to escape her current situation.
