At my college, there's this thing called the PLGO (proper little gay organisation), but I'm not sure whether to go or not, I don't know any other gay people and I'm not totally sure I am gay, I'm just waiting to see what happens, but if I went, I wouldn't want to go on my own, cos I'd be too shy and nervous, but none of my friends at college know that I might be bi and I'm not sure how they would take it, or if to tell them, etc... anyway, any comments (apart from nasty ones ) are loved!
I say go for it... If you really want to get out there, meet people who are different to the friends you currently have, and people who might be experiencing the same things as you, I think you should definately think about going! It sounds like a great opportunity to me! Sometimes, especially when you are trying to discover things about yourself, being around people who have been through or are going through the same process can be really helpful. I understand your apprehension towards telling your friends, but at the end of the day, you are who you are and you feel what you feel, and if you can't talk to and be accepted by the people you call friends, are they really friends at all? Give it a go, thats what I recommend. Sometimes friends are pleasant surprises. You're lucky to have the organisation (I didn't), so I say make use of it!
I understand the trepidation in going to your first gay group. think that you're coming home. I can't speak for the group that you are going to, but expect that your presence won't be the "big event" of the evening. Folks may be working on fundraisers or outreach or projects that don't address you directly. Try to find someone you feel comfortable talking to. But not everyone will want to take you under their wing. Yes, we've all been there, but some are better at introductions. It is always okay to say, "I'm new here." And leave it at that; you shouldn't have to explain why you came or "what you are." I would encourage you, or anyone, to go to a collage gay group. The first few times you may feel uncomfortable or awkward. And it is okay to say, "this is my first time." or "I'm new here." Groups like this are often looking for volunteers. If you are new, it's a good idea to refrain from volunteering at first. Once you know the group you should participate. .
Hmm, I guess it would be good and all that, I'm just really nervous and self conscious...what if my brother or one of hiss friends walked down the corridor? for instance, it's quite near the canteen, so not that unlikely!
You know what, your brother is going to find out sooner or later. First question is, what are the horrible concequences? Are your parents bible thumpers? Second, there may be several reasons to go to a GLBT group, the main one is "Human Rights." I'm ashamed to admite that's what I told my mom when she saw me on TV in a Gay Rights Parade and asked what the hell I was doing there. It gave us time to collect out thoughts, and my answer wasn't a lie.
Well, it's not that I don't want my bro finding out, I don't want him to find out til I'm ready to tell him, not that I think he'll care, I'm just worried he might tell my mum before I want to tell her
