I've had numerous attempts to have anal sex with a girl. But, I'm a bit bigger than most guys (5 1/4" circumf., 8" long)...so yeah...even a few girls who've tried practicing haven't been able to stand me going all the way in them. So after about 4-5 girls I'm becoming obsessed with actually getting anal sex to function. Is there any advice you have? How long does it take to warm up to that size? Am I unfortunately too large? Is there a certain angle of penetration that works best?
Lots and lots of lube. I mean lots of it. Use the whole bottle if you have to. It should work fine if you do that.
And you probably want to use the gel lube instead of liquid, as it doesn't dry up as quickly. http://www.astroglide.com/products_gel.asp
I'm already a big fan of Astroglide gels...though looking into denser forms might not be a bad idea. I think the main issue is the width I have. I know it takes time to get used to a normal penis size, but is there a usual limit that hole can take? Cuz I can get most of it in...but it just hurts them way too much to be stretched that much.
Try vaginal sex, it was offered all of us as a delightful primary type of expression. If not, I understand that manly anal orifices are pretty well up for anything you have to offer - with lots of willing takers. You sound almost too fixated on anal for women.
The anus can accomodate objects up to the size of a fist. Enjoy. http://www.assfistinganalfisting.com/
This is your answer. Start off with your fingers and thin toys, eventually work up to toys that are a bit thicker than your cock. Do this over days or weeks. Take your time with her, communicate, and you lots and lots of lube.
Well some of them have attempted practicing with toys to get used to me...but when it comes down to it I usually just try to get a finger or twon in for a minute or two then slowly put it in an inch at a time till she looks like she can take another. Probably should spend more time than i am.
Vaginal sex is fine and dandy but anal has its own percs: - The tightness gets me on the bottom of my shaft more than a vagina which for me is the part that counts. - If she's tested clean I can go without a condom. BIG PLUS since I have a very hard time finishing for a guy. - The dominance factor. Sex is very psychological and it's not so much the fact that I know I'm in her ass, but the guilty pleasure of it. Taboo is a major aphrodisiac. - I like to DP girls sometimes so yeah...both holes needed. As for the hinting towards me being gay for my anal fetish, bit ignorant. Who says anal is for homosexual men exclusively? Many straight men take it in the ass but gain no arrousal from males. Many lesbians also partake in strap on anal. It's merely another way to get off. Also not all gay men have anal sex, some are disgusted by it like typical straight westerners.
What about angle? I read somewhere that you wanna "aim towards the belly button". Yet in most pornography I've always seen doggystyle favored. Is it all preference or is there something to learn about it?
agreed. If you argue that anal sex is gay, you would have to say that oral sex is gay too. Not too many people like that argument. Homosexuality is defined by being attracted to a person of the same gender. Completely different from wanting to have anal sex ( or oral sex ) with someone of the opposite sex. I think that one of the most attractive qualities about anal sex is that it is still considered taboo and is something that it isn't practiced often. If anal sex was the dominant sexual practice, then vaginal sex would be what was most appealing.
I think penis shape plays a role here. If it curves downward, you want doggy style. If upward, you want missionary.
"As for the hinting towards me being gay for my anal fetish, bit ignorant. Who says anal is for homosexual men exclusively? Many straight men take it in the ass but gain no arrousal from males. Many lesbians also partake in strap on anal. It's merely another way to get off. Also not all gay men have anal sex, some are disgusted by it like typical straight westerners." Not really hinting at anything, esp that you might be gay, as that would be your business. And you are correct,of course, about the non-exclusivity of anal sex to a particular gender choice. Try reading my post in a more clincal manner and I hope you'll see I meant no offense nor offered no criticism. Just the facts, as we say! Maybe too clinical about very personal choices. If so, apologies!
Wasn't to urked by it since I wasn't sure if your were being humorous or a typical thread flamer. Either way I like to make that point any way so it just gave me an excuse.
Didn't know they could curve downward...huh...amazingly educational. So I guess the point is to aim towards the belly button verses carving upward towards the spine. Probably fix my main issue since I curve up and have been trying doggy style mostly. Are there also certain positions that will relax the cavity more? EX: with vaginal if you close your legs vs spread them, then you get a much tighter feeling.
http://www.anal-sex-positions-tips.com/ says here that missionary is the best beginner position because it allows the woman to completely relax the anus.
