Im with my bf for a year and I love him. He also loves me, I can feel it, as much as I do. But... Now Im in this situation and I ned help becouse I can see, for the first time in my life, that there are moments when you have to choose. Ok, let me explain. There is one year and a half since I finish high school. Than, I have to go to University and you know... Macedonia is a small country and I dont want to stay here. He want to stay here - but, there are some places there he might come with me (Germany for example) and Im trying to find scholarship to go in one of those (few) countryes only to stay with him. Now, the thing is - I have a great chance to go in Moscow and study there with full scholarship but - he said he hates Russia and he don't want to go there. I talked about this with my mom but she can't understand me. She told me that Im stupid, that I will ruin my life becouse of him, she thinks that this is only one teenage romance that will end sooner or later and she said - I should go where I want to, not where Boko wants. Now - my question is - what, in your opinion I should do in a siuation like this? Should I go there and study what I want, after that, work some nice job and live without my greatest love, ever, or should I stay with him here or go to some place I dont want to? Just to know, he is my first love. Our relationship isnt full of sex and parties. I just feel that he is the one. First and onlyone in my life. God, I feel helpless
I think your mom is right, though I don't think you're stupid or will ruin your life. I think you should go where you want to go to school, and if this is the one, then everything will work out in the end. If it doesn't work out, and you don't go somewhere you want to go because you want to stay with him, then you may regret it.
potential outcomes : u move out to where u wanna go, and your relationship ends = then it wasnt meant to be, maybe wasnt true love as u thought. sucks, but at least u're where u wanted to be and u can start a new life in a country u like u move out to where u wanna go, and everything works out fine (he follows u, or u meet up as frequently as possible, or w/e) = cool u dont move out = double pressure, cuz now u have to make both your professional and love life work perfectly, otherwise u'll have big regrets real soon so yea in conclusion i agree with BeyondHeroism.. u should go where u want to go, and if this is true love, everything will work out.. sure long-distance relationships are hard work, but if its more than just a teenage flirt, then it will last
If he doesn't want what is best for you -- which means accepting a full scholarship even if neither of you are excited about the specific location -- then he doesn't really love you. He may think he loves you, but he's being too selfish for this to really be true love. If he is not willing to make some sacrifices for your and his future, then he is not "the one" for you. If you don't go to a good university, if you wind up in some crappy job you hate and wind up wondering what life would have been like if you had just gone to Moscow, how long do you think it will take for the resentment to destroy your relationship?
Anastazjia, I agree 100% with the postings of Beyond,Crayola and Dawn Sky.. maybe your friend does not like Moscow or Russians.. but your career is more important..you'll learn about Russian culture.. I've been trough Macedonia..Skopje towards Gevgelija border.. was refused on Bulgarian border around Nis for long hair:H but that was in 1970..so..now..things have changed.. go for Moscow..I should say..and don't drink too much vodka crazy Tiger
.....stay and be a Macidonian for life - or go to Moscow and become a citizen of the world! It's up to you, and for the record, this 'old man' agrees with your mother. By the way, boys your age are not as old emotionally as women. You don't know how he will feel about you when he grows up. I wish you the best, and hope for your own good that you go to Russia, then Paris, then New Yorl, then Tokyo, Shanghai, Saigon, Bangkok, Sydney, Buenos Aires, Milano, and Madrid. Stopping off to see your mother from time to time!
Give Boko a chance. Till you get the confirmation to Russia, work on other countries too, and try to use your charm to convince him to try to go with you to see how is russia now as a tourist/test (it must have changed a lot) maybe he will like it now. Or else, and it might even save you time in getting Russia final approval(contacting the Uni directly), go now if you can with Boko for a short trip to Russia, mayabe he will like it, and maybe you will not like it !!!!!!!!! For sure all the people who responded told you the very wise answers which days usually prove it was right. But i say : Give Boko a chance. Do not give it to him as: "You Boko, either you come with me or we are finished". That is un-fair. we all love you & i like the name Boko
I just wrote a long letter and tried to tell him everything I wanted. I told him how much I love him and how much Im suffering right now becouse of this. I hope he will understand and stay with me.... *
