what do you do when your mate refuses to have your back?

Im not sure what it is but no matter what the situation my wife will side with others before I do....more so she attcks me and even looks for reasons to enfuriate people against me...

I am part of a nomad tribe, it doesnt matter waht the situation she will disagree with me in public...even if she aggrees with me in private.

I have three people I have removed from my life, because I can not trustr them and the enfuriate me....
she continues to bitch about me to them, to fuel a fire I just want to waklk away from...they do no evil in her eyes, after robbing me, stabbling me in the back, trying to destroy my dreams...costing me thousands.....she's all about them .....

I mean shes a loving wife in so many ways, I think shes just trying to find ways to knock me down.

we went to a party and I got into a fight, I didnt remember the next day and felt like shit about it as this other guy went off about how I was this big goon, she kept egging it on.

later that guys girlfriend and others had said he started a fight with others at a party then he started with me I backed off and backed off then went off taking on a bunch of angry texan military boys....my wife later tells ame "ALONE" that even as drunk as I was when she came in and told me to stop I imediatly chilled out and left........

so this guy starts a fight I finish it and try to get guys off him....and Im a goon!~!!!!!!!


I swear she looks for reasons to tear me down. this is only the most recent occasion. I know she's prone to dramatical situatons...her entire family is a revolving circle of drama.......


is this a common occurance among relationships...ive been out of the game far to long to remember anything like this in my past relationships.


let me know
peace

 

Yes , I know many people like your wife that appeare to feed on the negetive energy that comes from constant drama. Take care of yourself , and allow her to eventually find such entertainment elsewhere. People who dont feed on the drama become the food source, it will eventually wear you down....so you need to keep a bit of distance, and surround yourself with what makes you happy and healthy. Either she will change , or you will see that all can be well without the constant tumult such people leave in their wake.....I wish you peace sweet brother !!

 

Amen, erzebet, amen to that.

 

So why do you stay with her? I mean, I realize you say this is your wife... Why did you marry someone who does this shit to you? And, well, frankly, I don't think I could stay married to someone who maintained a friendship with someone who had robbed me...

 

people do strange things when their hearts involved.

thanks all!!!!