What if your s/o suggested sex with others?

How would you feel about it, if your s/o made the suggestion that you have threesomes or try swinging with other couples?:H
Are you secure in your relationship enough to be adventurous without hangups?
How do you feel about bi play in a threesome. Is it an equal playing field? When I told my wife I thought it would be hot watching her with another woman, she turned it back at me. "Why shouldn't it be a man?" Not only would she enjoy having two men giving her attention, she also said that she would like to see me and another guy giving each other oral. That threw me a bit. I'm sorry to say I still suffer from a double standard and I don't equate the two. A MMF threesome without the guys just giving her all of the attention would be cool, but I don't equate female bi, with male bi.
What's your take?

 

I think it would all be cool. I think that happens a lot what happened with your wife, I think women feel like, why do the males get what they want, having the woman reach out of her comfort zone, and then men are not willing to do that for their woman. It's just heard and seen all to often for women to not notice and be a little offended.

I was just thinking, just from what I've experienced lately, that it seems women have the least sexual hang ups and are more open, open-minded and willing. I could be wrong but I've seen that lately, and know a lot of women that feel the same way.

 

My take is that every situation is different, depending on the unique souls involved. What could be fun and interesting in one dynamic could be disastrous in another. I'm the "hinge" in a new poly relationship and am being reminded of this every day. Tread carefully.

 

Been there and done that...its not for everyone...you have to be verry secure in yourself and your relationship or end up with hurt feelings and jealousy issues.
If youre a strong , wise person..it can be cool !

 

I wouldn't mind inviting another guy in our bedroom some time.
I kind of like the idea with male bi as well...

 

I would not have a bit of trouble with it. My wife knows I am bi and I'd suck a cock for her pleasure upon request. You would be suprised at the number of women who are turned on by MM sex.

 

"Waves his cock infront of Number6's face*

 

Dito!

 

Actually I just gave my wife permission to have sex w/others if the oppurtunity arises. We look forward to getting into the swing scene, but until then I would find it hot, and she would only do it w/someone she is familiar w/no strangers.

 

I'm in a committed non-monogamous relationship for the past nine years. We've had threesomes, orgies, separate room sex, separate sexual encounters... the whole nine yards. When the relationship is in good stead, that's when the wonderful sexual rewards are to be had! Me and my hubby never play when our relationship is in a bad state... that's only asking for trouble!

 

Security is always the key issue. I've always had a "Have fun but be careful" policy with any woman I've had a long-term relationship with.

But as for what would happen if my s.o. suggested inviting another, it would be cool by me. I've actually wondered if it was possible to have a successful long-term relationship with multiple partners under one roof, but never had a partner secure enough to even consider it. I guess it will always remain an exercise in speculation.

 

I would give here the boot.

 

I couldn't see my girlfriend enjoying anything sexual with anyone else, it'd kill me.

 

You should get ur office buddies together and bring them over to fuck your wife all night. When she obviously gets fucked by so many men in one night, she wud not want it again. Next day, u can safely ask her to have a threesome with another female.

 

That WAS a joke, right?

I am in a committed relationship, and we regularly play outside the homefield.

I think it is a double standard, usually with guys (who god knows aren't known for double standards!). It seems to me that if you go so far as same gender sex, it should apply to all involved. Don't ask your partner to do something you wouldn't consider unless they are into it to begin with.

 

My hubby and I have been swinging for about a year, and our marriage has never been better.

 

If my woman slept with another man I'd either be on the run or in jail. Women are too precious to share and the womb is to sacred thats just my opinion. A woman is a secret treasure not to be shared with anyone. They are to be cherished and protected by one strong independent man whom they should treat as a king.

Peace & Love

 

I just love open minded people. Its a wonder we progress at all.

 

I'd prefer that my lover experiment, but I'm single at this time.

 

Many of you have already heard me on this one, so I'll summarize. Tried it, didn't care for it, quit it.

That's not to say I'd discourage anyone else from opening up their relationship. People are different. Variety may be just what you need. You'll never know for certain until you try.

But remember this: opening a relationship may be hard, but closing it back up again is even harder. If, after some unsuccessful attemps to swing, you and your S/O decide you want exclusive rights to one another, you may find you've lost a crucial part of whatever trust and intimacy you once shared. So don't swing on a whim.