Porn addiction; My story

and where does it end?


Care is needed here. Believe me, i know

 

There are men who do things much worse than this...

But it often starts at the beginning, with the "soft stuff". Every few weeks or so seems fine, but if it becomes so you would class is as an "addiction" or "obsession" it is a problem and a risk. With that much exposure youre at risk of becoming desensitised, needing more, and more, viler images, more hardcore images...until it reaches a level where the images are so bad they may be harmful to your soul and the lives of others

So take care, i say again. Im not religious in a conventional sense, but i know this is true even for the atheist

-Maxi

 

that is ridiculous Verseau_Miracle, no person becomes corrupted by pornography, the concept is ridiculous. The desires are apart of your mind and you are simply finding a quick fix for these desires, which may not desensitise, but rather simply take some of the lustful, passionate, romantic, aspect out of the act... that some men soon want even after porn. If one has a natural passion for a certain aspect of his or her perceived romantic "fantasy", then they will use porn or mental masturbation as some means of fulfilling that fantasy. I have been looking at porn solidly since I was in 6th grade, on a daily basis, and I have not moved on to "harder" stuff... just more of the certain types of porn I like. If some random guy is into fucked up BSDM latex dungeon shit, then thats the porn hes going to want to watch, fuck, some people are turned on by the sound of feathers hitting cardboard or horses hooves. I dont necessarily endorse all freudian theories(sp), but i believe sexuality is the main if not largest component of human development because it determines reproduction and survival of your genetics.

 

Far from ridiculous, it is a regular occurrence. Im not suggesting that pornography alone will corrupt a perfectly healthy mind, of course not. But if a person is inclined to watch these things on a very regular basis whilst pleasuring themselves then they already have the potential to become more...like i said, it is a natural process that the brain becomes desensitised after a time to certain images if watched too often, it seeks more. Just as a drug addict will need more and more of a drug to fulfil their desires. An "obsessive" mind or one that is apt to succumb to an "addiction" is capable of allowing this to happen.

And so as i said, the images will become more, and the content will change. Ive seen this happen at very close range

Everyone has a FEW dodgy fantasies, and with so much exposure to porn with a mind capable of allowing it to become an "addiction" it can become dangerous...thats all i was saying.

 

You are here to procreate, your body requires you to experience sex. Love wll enable a partnership to rear offspring but the desire for sexual fullfilment will remain and your body will wish you to continue. Use of pornagraphy is one means of satisfying the requirement and in one measure could even be regarded as more satisfactory than involving other human beings. I don't think porn is the problem, just your irrational guilt, why have shame at your nature. If you wish you can go into denial, as the lady says just get your mind to continually say no, though I'm not sure if that is any more healthy for you. I'm sure the act doesn't really take up that much of your time really, be easy with yourself.

 

Try not to get to worked up at what this 18 year old has to say about sex and or porn. She's 18!

 

lol Yes, that i am!

 

P.s-i wouldnt usually add more, but please note that the person you are talking to is infact only one year my "senior", perhaps even less. Please dude, do your research. That was offensive to the person you were palling up to, too

 

you are at an age that, in most circumstances, would not allow you to gain the wisdom needed, to be in a position that would allow you whats right and wrong, which means the only choice you have is to embrace and educate, then once you have understood that which you fear, can you make any sort of rational analysis as to right and wrong.

 

And finally, i do not "fear" pornography. I was not even condemning pornography, i have nothing against its use by the average man or lady. If youd have read carefully you should hae grasped this. What i was warning against was its obsessive use, its use by the person with the one track mind, or people like the gentleman who posted originally, who feels guilt and feels it is getting in the way of his life. This, i know from EXPERIENCE, can lead to danger.

 

P.s-go here incase you doubt my claim that such babies with no sense of right or wrong bring up our children

http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=59550

Have some respect for those good mothers, and open your mind. I personally am going to wait until im in my late 20s before having children. But i could just as easily have them now

 

First of all, I can tell you right now, by the way you read the situation, you live in a close minded world.

the error in your ways is not your age or being able to know whats right and wrong, its that you think youve come to a point in your life that you think there IS EVEN a right and a wrong?!?!! how do you know there is a set way to do something not just one way that it can happen and thats what happens.

What if there was no "wrong" lifestyle and "right" life style, just Left and Right, just a different between one and the other and no actual "better option.

Maybe did it ever occur to you, that your entire universe is just a predetermined set of events based upon an aesthetically or mathmateically based equation/pattern, and that you literally can do whatever in the same hell you want and the only consequences that will arise, will be of ignorance, and that only through LEARNING about the choices to make, will you be able to determine what is a wise decision and an unwise decision?

Maybe the entire framework for which you view life is based only upon one limited viewpoint your church groups have pushed you towards, hell what if you woke up one day and realized you were wasting your entire life because all you had to do was listen to another persons viewpoint to truly understand... maybe the reason you seek religion is because you seek unity and friendship, as well as guidance and direction... WELL FUCK... who doesnt love that.... but how do you know the guidelines upon which you are led upon are really based on all the possibilities? or maybe fuck, maybe, that little paper book you read called the bible, EMBRACES ALL POSSIBILITIES, and it is only those who lived closed minded llifestyles who manipulate and distort its messages to reflect this ridiculous slant viewpoint advocacy.

The ridiculousness of you church people is that you think for some reason RELIGION is seperate from PHILOSOPHY... its not.... its all the same, its all people writing about their opinons on how life should be led and for god sakes open unbiased discussion is the only reason books like the bible were created. To analyze life is to analyze the essence of why you are here.

when I wake up in the morning, when I open my eyes I am startled momentarily by the world around me, everytime I awake, I suddenly realize I am actually living in a world where I have the Luxury of being able to interact with other physical objects. This wonder is not in God or some world someone else created!?!? its the world I CREATED, its not life... its not reality... its not this place in time.... its HOW I VIEW my world... its my mind and my body and my nerves and my organs pumping in unison to allow my brain to fabricate some depiction of reality in a seemingly coherent organized manner.... scientifically reality is a disorganized scattered space of matter with random objects colliding and sliding out of gravity.... but we organize all these events to give us some sense of security... your primitive views on morals and ethics have no impact on reality, nor physical events, they are just some things you cling to, to give you some sense of security that your not going to burn in hell for all of eternity, that when you die, you wont go to some terrible awful place, that youll go to some happy ass place in the sky.

well guess what
maybe you wont float up into the tippy tops of the sky, maybe you will end up just seeing blackness and thats it. the end. maybe this is the only shot you got at this fucked up disorganized universe and if you dont make the best of it lady, then you are wasting your time and i am wasting my breathe. Life is precious and i am sick of you christians degenerating the quality of life.... you extend life to include this ridiculous afterlife and maybe you got only a few years here so make the fucking best of it for christ sake.

 

Its bedtime here, but ill get back to you tomorrow

 

Huh?

 

He is an 18 year old looking for advice on sex / porn. You are a 19 year old giving advice on sex / porn. That is the difference. Of course at no age do any of us know it all. I look back at my perspective when I was 19 and shake me head. On the other hand, when I am 50 I will look back at when I was 34 and shake my head all over again. So, sorry for the cheap shot.

 

Wow! Fascinating thread..Don't know if it's for real or not.. :stunned:

But, a simple google search yeilded these results.
Good luck.

Breaking Pornography AddictionSince 1997, this site has been helping men and women of all backgrounds recover from pornography addiction.
www.no-porn.com/
http://www.no-porn.com/books.html
www.no-porn.com/board.html

 

Thanks for sharing pornaddict.

 

I am 19 she is 18 giving an 18 year old advice on "life and morals from the good christian book"... she didnt like that I was only a year older than her also giving advice, where I corrected her and stated, at 19 I know already, that it will be a long time, if ever, when I truly am in a position to "understand" life enough to judge anothers.

 

There is something not right about this guy.
He showed up in september, chose the name pornaddict, posted once about porn addiction and hasn't posted anything since...

 

Maybe his account was simply a secondary one? I dunno, at a lot of the forums I frequent people usually have some sort of alternate account.