I may have just ruined some lives....

I feel like such an ass right now...

I have one unknown brother and one unknown sister, who are supposedly owed to my dad. anywhoo I was browsing myspace... and I found this girl, who had the right name, was the right age, lives in the right place and looks exactly like the person who her mum would be if she is who I think she is and I asked her if thats who she was

and now I dont think I should have.

Argh... I'm really flippin out now

 

I'm always tripping over the potential to find my half-brother, especially if I find some guy in Alberta of the appropriate age, it weirds me out to think that there's someone out there who I'm related to (no other siblings than the mysterious one I've never met)

But, I think if I did find him, I'd want to contact him, talk to him. Then again, my parents havent' been together in some 17odd years, so it's not like there's any real associative drama.

 

well there is contention as to her fathering .... thats why I may have ruined some lives... hers in particular

 

you mean she doesnt know your dad is her dad?

 

blood is NOT thicker than water! (aside from genetic health issues.) You cannot ruin happy lives by bringing up something resolved/unresolved by time. Wait for your answer, you'll understand.

 

An unresolved issue will always surface. I just wish you well on this.

 

She knows that my dad MIGHT be her dad, but she isnt sure.

I know blood isnt thicker than water and I'll certainly back off if she doesnt want to know about it. I just wanted to know who she was, and what she looked like, if she was my sister... but hey, even with everything considered, you know, age, location, appearance blah blah blah, its still slim chances that it is actually her, it could just be a coincidence that they look very similar.

I guess I was just curious...

Even if my dad is her dad, she's a damn sight luckier than me to have not had him in her life.

 

You didn't ruin anyone's life...It may take awhile for her to respond...I know after 24 yrs and out of the blue my dad calling...I was pretty freaked...She may even be happy to know things about him...I always wondered why I did this or that...Why I looked a certain way...Give her time...If anything else you may have helped her...

 

well after some thought I've decided that if it is her. I'll just say hi and be on my way. Were nothing alike by the sounds of it and have survived this long apart