so i could use some advice...

that boy i was seeing moved about 6 hours away from me this morning and won't be back for 4 or so months.. i'm wondering how to cope with this without turning into a total loony.
i know keep yourself busy and all that but what about when you're lonely and want someone to sleep next to you?
i feel like the next few months will be unbearable.

 

Cuddle with a teddy bear? Does this gentleman wear a certain cologne? Spray it on a Tshirt and where it to sleep...write in a journal...

Write him letters...write poems...talk to him on the phone.

 

come stay with me and my pup for a few months

 

get 1 of those great big pillows to cuddle with..or a dog..

 

lube up the finger, turn on the computer, listen to him on the'phone......or get a substitute who'll quit when the lad comes home.

 

From the posts ive read by clementinexo, i dont think she would ever do what you suggested, even if you were joking lol.
Just keep contact with him on the phone, email etc.
Also spend some time with your mates, have a slumber party if you want someone to sleep next to you lol...well maybe thats a bit babyish for you. But if you do keep yourself busy with a lot of people around you the time should fly by.
Or you could just do what you did before you met him.

 

Four months is a long time... I tried the long-distance thing when I was 19. Never again.


I hate to sound negative, clementinexo, but there is really nothing we can tell you that you don't already know!

If you made the decision to wait for him, then whatever you motivation was in making it; that's all you have to hold onto.

Oh, and constant and creative communication is a must. Pictures, letters (not just e-mail), gifts, audio tapes, videotapes, phone sex, poems, songs you both listened to together, whatever...

Distractions alone won't do.

 

well i do have a few shirts of his that smell like him which i have been sleeping with haha

 

smoke a lot of ganj....

 

Dont smoke a lot of ganj.....

 

I was going to suggest the shirt trick....Ive done that before...and if the scent starts to fade..buy the same cologne and re-spray the shirt !!!

And...you got us to talk too !!

 

okay well i'm pretty sure he'll be visiting at christmas so i can see him again in 2 months... for like, 1 day.

 

We're sounding too much like a Sunday school class here! I thought to be hip was about free expression and open relationships. When one goes away it is cruel to leave expectations that limit the other's free expression. If that free expression is to wait patiently - so be it. If it is frustration at the situation, or worse the departed 'other,' why not join with a warm group or single 'other,' to at least satisfy the primative urges? You don't have to practise being unhappy! When the time comes you can be unhappy without any rehearsing - AT ALL. Where is the hip in this relationship? In a victorian closet? I'm not suggesting anything other than openly seeking a solution to lonliness. Give the guy a break, for Pete's sake. How many letters telling him how awful you feel does he deserve? My solution is better than chemical ingestion to make it go away, sharing the grief with him, or frustrating basic human desires and feelings for most half a year! Just a thought or two.

 

Open relationships aren't for everyone...

 

Yeah not to mention if her emotions are with this guy, what is "satisfying her primitive urges" going to do? anyone with a basic grasp on human psychology would know it wouldnt do much. i see the point you are trying to make, but i also think you are too caught up on being hip to realize that this woman feels connected to this particular guy, and not just because he's warm or has a cock. but because they have gotten past a level you get with most people, feeling connected without speaking.

who knows i mean fuck, i could be wrong, i am just fucked up right now. and keep staring at the background, thinking what the fuck am i even talking about. but what im trying to say is you have this preconceived notion of what is hip. and i think thats lame. some of the most unique, hip people have been romantics. wake up brotha

 

..who, me? Huh?

 

yeah you

 

6 hour road trip once every 2 weeks should help out.

 

my brothers girl moved to philly(from ct) and he catches the train to see her every now and then.

 

Tell him to come back godamn it!