a budding relationship, but with problems

thought this girl was very cute last year (i was a senior in college) and i always thought she liked me too. well i graduated and we kept in touch online. i just went back to visit friends there but my real, secret mission was to see her. We met and inevitably started making out. Then we said our goodbye's and i left. i live two hours away. Unfortunately, I was not too impressed by her personality, though she was a fine kisser and i think shes pretty hot. But i could be wrong. i'd be willing to ignore my gut feeling and give this a shot, i just wish she wasnt so far away. but i hate hate hate being involved in relationships that i want out of but haven't the courage to break. this was several days ago and we havent actually yet discussed what happened, what it means, and what we want from one another. i always wait for the other to bring that up, and she might be the same. i guess il say something if she doesnt. i don't really have any questions for anyone here, i just felt like posting what has been on my mind. wish me luck.

oh, and her away message has been a Langston Hughes quote, "The Calm, cool face of a river asked me for a kiss". Now, how can i not take credit for that one? Sweet!

 

Good luck there buddy!

 

ummm just a few comments
1st 2 hours away is nothing!!! if she meant anything to you that is
but to me it seems like ya are only intetested in how hot she is and ya didnt much like her personality

so i gotta wonder what i'd be wishin ya luck with

what are ya hoping for?

your already sayin u hate bein in a relationship u want out of
doesnt really sound much like u even want a relationship, just someone within a 10 min drive ya can have some fun with

 

Good luck on your budding relationship. Good Langston Hughes line she used.

 

I am very much against ignoring gut feelings.

You made out with the girl. The girl made out with you. Did either of you use the "L-word" (love)? Did either of you make any promises of commitment? Do you even really know that she sees you as more than some hot guy that she can make out with but not have to deal with as a "boyfriend" cuz you're so far away?

Slow down, stop making assumptions. Don't turn this into more than it is, especially if you're not sure you want more. Given the added stress that goes into maintaining a long distance relationship, you owe it to her to not get involved unless you are 110% sure you want to be in a relationship with her (not just wanting to be in a relationship with someone, not just wanting to get some with a hot girl).

As for the quote -- it's been several days and she's been away whenever you're on? How can you not take credit for that quote? Hmmm... Maybe she's off relaxing (metaphorically sitting by a calm, cool river) and enjoying herself instead of worrying about what you're feeling. But, then, not knowing any Hughes, I don't know the context of that quotation. Maybe someone you don't know about has asked her for a kiss in the several days since her incident with you...

Not to be a complete downer, but, if you two were so lacking in chemistry that you're "not too impressed by her personality", then it seems pretty arrogant to assume that she IS that incredibly impressed by you.

 

Dont ignore your gut feeling...thats what its there for !!!!