Anyway to get her to like me more then a friend?

There is this girl i sorta like that lives a couple minuets away from my house but she goes to another highschool , everything about her is perfect for me...from her physical appearence to how she acts. I love her personality, I love the way she speaks and smiles.

Well to get to my story.
I knew her since i went out with her best friend , but after we broke up we started talking She was very nice , and now we sorta talk alot on and off , but we have this plan when we are 18 we will move out and both share an appartment downtown , so we can have partys..smoke sessions together haha basicly shes the perfect girl the thing is....i sorta always end up "JUst" friends with girls..maybe becasue im shy and dont make moves. We joke around and sometimes i can SENSE that she is flirting with me...

like today we where talking and I was like

"You should have been @ the party why did u go home so early? we had a hookah etc, it was so chills"
and she was like Nahh it was late and i was tired
and i was like , Well the party wasnt the same without you.
and i was like You always make these type of partys special for me.
and she was like is that supposed tom ean somthing
and i kinda...froze up and said it can mean what ever you want it to mean
ya i know HOW stupid of me!


Well am i doomed for life? Or did she just not like me from the start and im one of those guys...who just thinks they are on top of the world when in reality they are not.

 

your young shes young your both nervous. I bet she likes you and is just as afriad as you are. you should just have a mature conversation with her. Tell her how you feel about her, and ask her if she feels the same.

 

and she was like
and i was like
and she was like
and i was like
hahaha....that was really cute.
Anyways. Maybe you could write her an email or something and ask if she wants to hang out? That way you are doing it but it sort of takes the pressure off...kind of? Maybe you should just tell her how you feel.

 

These types of things can't be forced. Just continue doing what you're doing, except don't be afraid to let go and see what happens WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT. Like I said, don't force it.....just make her aware of your feelings and see how she reacts, and work from there. Continue to be friends until the opportunity arises to make it more than friendship.

what I am basically saying is that you need to continue with your relationship the way it is and allow it to progress naturally. If you force it, it will fuck everything up.

 

yeahyeah, i agree now that i think about it. Its always more fun to let it run its course anyway. Good job stoner.

 

^^^thank you kindly. That's how I hooked up with my fiance. We were friends for a few months before we made any kind of move on each other. She made the first move, actually. Relationships always work better when you establish a healthy friendship first.

BTW, do you know where Hall County is? Gainesville? That's where I live. It's not far from ATL.....about 40-45 miles.

 

Im not scared to wait it out...i just wanted someones oppinion who was grown up maybe ppl who went threw the same problems as me

 

I've always had that problem. My fiance was actually my first girlfriend, ever, because before I met her I always acted prematurely and fucked everything up. I have been "physical" with other girls, but never had a girlfriend before her. Never even had a tongue kiss before I met her. Then when we met, we became very close friends, and smoked about 40+ blunts the first week we knew each other. It proressed from there and we are now engaged. Just go with the flow and see where it leads you.

 

Thanks man seems like the life for you TopNotchStoner Congrats!
If i can only meet a girl who smokes weed too .. damn thats a turn on

 

Didn't you say she smokes weed? Just continue smoking with her and spending time with her and you will both be better able to decide if you're right for each other. Couldn't hurt. Like I said earlier, make her aware of your feelings, but don't make her feel pressured, and see where it goes. Keeping the pressure off is an important part of transfering from a regular friendship to something more. You have to make her feel that, whatever happens, it won't ruin your friendship.

 

Thanks for the congrats, BTW.

 

She does smoke weed but im sure she does for the wrong reasons. I started in grade 9 becasue it was somthing new and i continue to do it becasue i love it. While she started becasue all her friends did it...and like Shes a REALLY REALLY REALLY good looking girl but alot of people mentally fuck with her...she liked this guy and he made fun of her alot , and talked behind her back .. i want to punch him in the face so hard...but she started with friends becasue of problems with her parents...and her depression, shes a VERY nice girl and i hate seing her hurt...i just dont know what to do...I talk to her she acts like its all normal but she always obsesses about her weight and shit , and shes PERFECT weight shes not even CHUBBY @ all....Like i just think she needs to meet some nice guy...and hopefully that would be me but like , i always screw things up and a LONG time ago i told her how i felt , and she just changed the subject so i could totaly tell...that she was not interested in me...and im totaly cool if she doesnt like me , im not scared about letting her go as long as she wont be hurt. Like i feel really close to her , sometimes when i was in a bad mood a while ago we would sit on msn and just talk...and she helped me alot wiht my rents when i got booked along time ago for weed possestion haha.

Its all so complicated. lol. Like thats the thing with me.. my life is never SIMPLE my life is either just plain hard , or complicated. School never works out with me.. im prone to getting in trouble with law etc. I just always find my self in troubles that can get me in alot of shit. Yet i never learn haha. Sorry this is me rambilling off.

 

Damn dude. You sound alot like me, no offense. lol

All you can do about her self esteem is to let her know how wonderful you think she is. Most girls are uncomfortable with their appearance, regardless of how perfect they are. I find my girl to be absotively beautiful, but she has never felt that way about herself. I continuously tell her how wonderful she is and how beautiful she is, and it seems to work wonders for her self esteem. I love to see her smile, as I am sure you love to see HER smile. Just continue to be there for her in whatever ways you can, and she will certainly appreciate it and eventually, some of what you say will rub off on her and she will begin to feel more comfortable with herself.

 

just be straight up and tell her how you feel

 

Thanks guys will try your advice