Hmm, So I went out to a friends house lastnight with my husband and the neighbors(which are good friends too) came over and asked my husband, If he knew where they could get some coke. Which neither me or my husband have done in over 2 years.... He told them no...but when we got home he decided that we should go get some for ourselves. Anyway on with the question.... Do you guys think.... I should risk bringing coke into the relationship? Or should I tell him I think its a bad idea. I would really like to do some yet, I don't feel right about it either... *sigh* What to do ,what to do?! Thanks Guys, Peace. -Lindsey
thats not much of a dilemna. at least, it wouldnt be for me. but then thats cause i hate coke generally. but its a bad drug to do, really. not worth the money, not worth the high potential for addiction most people who like it have. it can tear relationships apart. and even if it doesnt, it can run your checkbooks into the ground REAL fast. i've known people to spend several thousand on coke in a very short time. just forget it.
Well, I'm not the type of person that ever did coke, so I'd have to vote for not bringing it into the relationship. Maybe I'm weird but I'd rather go through life with a better grip on things rather than to experience things high.
ya both been free of coke for 2 years ya dont want a momment of weakness to throw away that ..your doin so good, why slip backwards?
bad idea! i mean, i'd take painkillers or smoke some opium over doing a line almost any day of the week.....far, far more enjoyable in my opinion.....but still not a good idea to do them.......
See... I feel exactly like you all do about it. I'm against it because of what it does to the kids of people that do it.... Me and my Husband are the outcast of most of our friends because we're not addicted nor do we do coke , so we're not cool. But anyway, I really respect and apprieciate you all telling me what you think.. I can be the victim of peer pressure and I just don't feel right about bringing it into the relationship ...not for the money factor ...but for the aspect of our love, if that makes sense. Thanks for agreeing that it's not a good idea... It was weird.. to see my husband be so weird and skippy about getting some...after him preaching to othe rpeople about how bad it is...I just really dont get it .....
sounds like there are some other issues that definitely need to be addressed other than whether or not to get some coke.
true. i can't say for sure....i only said it SOUNDS like there are bigger issues to address. i.e. constantly speaking ill about using coke and then getting excited about the prospect of getting some for oneself would be an example of classic compulsive behavior....would suggest a history of abuse and even addiction....the period in which one isn't using, one is likely to do whatever it takes to convince themselves they arent addicted anymore because they dont like it, dont want it. the desire doesnt leave, its just masked by overzealous anti-whatever attitudes....often communicated frequently or vehemently to others (particularly those who still use)....trying to convince others often but not always means that you're trying to convince yourself. if this is the case (and i dont know if it is, i'm only looking at a miniscule number of posts of yours, not even his) then i would imagine doing coke even once could potentially be opening the floodgates. then theres your APPARENT (not necessarily real) inability to decide for yourself. in the first post its called a dilemna, you can't seem to figure out what to do - so you asked us. then when people suggest not to do coke (because with even that one post you can tell there may have been problems with coke in the past....phrases such as "its been two years" etc.) you say we were agreeing with you that you shouldnt get any? doesn't really make sense. we can't make up your mind, and it really seems to me like you'd rather get it than not, but you would feel guilty, like you're letting yourself down if you do (like i feel when i smoke a cigarette) then you allude to the possibility of coke causing relationship problems, and the potential problems being worse than the potential money issues (which can be enormous if constant abuse starts up) which would indicate that you have other issues than just drugs, that perhaps the relationship isn't incredibly stabe to begin with and that coke, or something similar, has caused problems in the past....... but then again, i'm full of shit and realize it. i dont take myself too seriously, but i try to be honest with myself. these are the impressions i get from reading this thread, and they may very likely be entirely off base. but then again, i might be on to something. YOU have to decide for yourself if i'm right or wrong, and YOU have to decide for yourself if you are fine with you guys getting some coke. while i could be wrong, you still ought to consider what i've said, and please don't take offense. you could find theres more truth to it than you'd think. if i'm right, then there are some other issues at hand that need to be addressed rather than simply whether or not to get coke this one time.... but any way you look at it, it sounds like a bad idea, whether having some coke would be fun for you guys or not.
Doing coke doesn't make a person "cool." Cmon, you're 21 years old. Why think like that? I have lost freinds to coke, and it wasn't my responsibility to try to talk them out of it. However, it was my responsibility to get NEW FREINDS. People who you say are "freinds" yet consider YOU outcasts, are not freinds, they are losers. Your dh and you need to reevaluate what you are doing with your free time, and get some people around you who are more healthy. Good luck. Life is better WITHOUT COKE.
coke sucks and it's just a bad idea. my hubby and I used to do it a lot when we first got together and it just turned us both into mean people. I hated it. I hated the way he was when he was on it, and if we wouldn't have decided to stop there's no way we would be together today. Don't do it, especially for a stupid reason like "my friends are doing it" I have also gotten rid of all of my friends that do it, and they are not in good places in their lives right now. off topic thisismike, where in Lancaster County are you? I'm in Akron.
